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Pepper
06-24-2007, 11:38 PM
http://www.sfgate.com/cgi-bin/article.cgi?f=/c/a/2007/06/24/BAGNBQKRGP1.DTL

Epilogue: Defense attorney and TV legal analyst Daniel Horowitz is off on an Italian honeymoon after tying the knot with Valerie Northrup, whom he met after she was dismissed from the jury at the Susan Polk murder trial.

Horowitz was defending Polk on charges she killed her psychotherapist husband in Orinda when Horowitz's wife, Pamela Vitale, was murdered in their Lafayette hilltop home in 2005.

Horowitz friend and co-counsel Ivan Golde confirmed the wedding, telling us the couple married at a Lafayette park a couple of weeks back.

[more at link at bottom of article]

JBean
06-24-2007, 11:44 PM
Oh wow!
Men really like to nest. :)

JBean
06-24-2007, 11:46 PM
Your link is to another story LMAO
About Gavin Newsom cocaine rumor

ETA: okay I see it now Pepper..at the bottom of the column..sorry!

philamena
06-25-2007, 12:10 AM
Married already?
To each his own.

fran
06-25-2007, 12:22 AM
I'm sad to hear that Pamela's children have taken Daniel's relationship with his now new wife as a betrayal to their mom, but life doesn't always take a straight path. Of course I don't know all that went on behind the scenes, but some day they'll realize that Daniel was dedicated to their mom to the day she died. But then, life goes on................sometimes just sooner than you would expect.

I'm happy for Daniel and his new bride. I truly wish them the best.

JMHO
fran

sillygoose
06-25-2007, 12:53 AM
Why is it when people get divorced they can re-marry in a manner of months, but when a marriage ends in death, people want the widow/widower to wait years and years before re-marrying? Why is it a betrayal of the spouse that is deceased and not to an ex-spouse that is still living? It doesn't make sense to me. We do say, "til death do we part" don't we?

eleven
06-25-2007, 01:16 AM
Why is it when people get divorced they can re-marry in a manner of months, but when a marriage ends in death, people want the widow/widower to wait years and years before re-marrying? Why is it a betrayal of the spouse that is deceased and not to an ex-spouse that is still living? It doesn't make sense to me. We do say, "til death do we part" don't we?

I guess because when divorce is involved, usually BOTH partners want the marriage to end. When a marriage ends in death, especially a horrific murder such as this, ya tend to think it would take a fairly significant time to get over the initial shock and pain before scouting for another spouse. I know I would--I guess it would be different for everyone.

I do wish them the best of luck. He certainly does deserve happiness after what he's gone thru.

txsvicki
06-25-2007, 01:29 AM
How long has it been since Pamela was murdered? I think it's been at least a year. The only problem I could see is that a person could be so lonely that they quickly marry someone and then it not work out. Daniel must have kept in touch with this woman right after they met during the trial.

montana_16
06-25-2007, 01:38 AM
Oh wow!
Men really like to nest. :)

You're right JBean, (oh Bean you know I'm your biggest fan, I always think you're right) It's been shown in studies that men do tend to get married much more quickly after losing a mate than women. They just don't seem to do as well as women do alone in general.

JBean
06-25-2007, 01:45 AM
You're right JBean, (oh Bean you know I'm your biggest fan, I always think you're right) It's been shown in studies that men do tend to get married much more quickly after losing a mate than women. They just don't seem to do as well as women do alone in general.
you're so sweet M-16. I always look forward to your posts .

I agree with that study! Men really like to have a partner, especially when they are older.

Schmerty_Jones
06-25-2007, 01:57 AM
It is fairly obvious. Men need nests & spouses much more than women , especially after the age of raising a family!! That is not at all necessarily bad. Good luck to the new bride & groom.:blowkiss:

MagicRose99
06-25-2007, 06:59 AM
Reading the article, I guess what upset her children was the fact that these two starting hanging around together 3 days before their mother was killed, and afterwards, Valerie always seemed to be around Dan. I could see how this might upset the children...

Wise words: After my mom passed, my brother tried to get my father to sell the house and move up by him. My father said, "No... the first year after you lose someone you should not make any life altering decisions. After a year is up, I'll re-evaluate my life and see where I'm going next."

shdbepaintin
06-25-2007, 09:20 AM
Reading the article, I guess what upset her children was the fact that these two starting hanging around together 3 days before their mother was killed, and afterwards, Valerie always seemed to be around Dan. I could see how this might upset the children...

Wise words: After my mom passed, my brother tried to get my father to sell the house and move up by him. My father said, "No... the first year after you lose someone you should not make any life altering decisions. After a year is up, I'll re-evaluate my life and see where I'm going next."

Very wise words.

pedinurse
06-25-2007, 11:54 PM
dang that didn't take long.

PrayersForMaura
06-26-2007, 07:30 AM
Reading the article, I guess what upset her children was the fact that these two starting hanging around together 3 days before their mother was killed, and afterwards, Valerie always seemed to be around Dan. I could see how this might upset the children...



I would be upset about that too. THREE days before she was murdered?? Wow, how convenient she died and was killed by someone else so he could pursue something with the ex juror!! :(

Jodibug
06-26-2007, 09:13 AM
I don't think it's fair to judge someone until you have been in their situation.

I am also sure that Pamela would want him to be happy, as I would want my own husband to be.

I wish them all the best.

Ntegrity
06-26-2007, 09:40 AM
Pamela Vitale was murdered on Oct. 18, 2005, so it's been 1-1/2 years since her death. I don't think that's too soon myself.

AlwaysShocked
06-26-2007, 10:19 AM
Ever see the statistics on how soon widowers remarry? I think it's about one year. As opposed to widows, many of whom never remarry.

I think it is about the socks.......as in wanting to have someone around to wash them. (Others will say, of course, that an early remarriage for a widower is a testament to the dead wife. That the man was so happy being married that he wants to do so again right away.)

Many children are shocked by the quick remarriage of a parent being widowed. And these were not HIS children!

Mr. Horowitz was through a horrible tragedy, and I do wish him the best. I kind of had hopes that he might hook up with Nancy Grace, however........

Rino
06-26-2007, 10:40 AM
Ever see the statistics on how soon widowers remarry? I think it's about one year. As opposed to widows, many of whom never remarry.

Remember the old joke...Why do most woman outlive their husbands? So they can finally enjoy their life :eek:

I wish them both happiness.

nanandjim
06-26-2007, 10:46 AM
I would be upset about that too. THREE days before she was murdered?? Wow, how convenient she died and was killed by someone else so he could pursue something with the ex juror!! :(
If this is true, I have to agree, too. I guess that an affair was blooming; and then his wife gets murdered. What timing... :rolleyes: Are these his biological children? I thought that both had been married before...can't remember...

Jodibug
06-26-2007, 11:11 AM
If this is true, I have to agree, too. I guess that an affair was blooming; and then his wife gets murdered. What timing... :rolleyes:


I don't really think it is fair to say "an affair was blooming". A friendship was blooming, yes. That doesn't mean that they would have had an affair if Pamela had not been murdered.

Unless you have been through what Daniel went through, you really aren't qualified to judge him. Why be so cruel? Pamela surely would not begrudge him happiness.

twinkiesmom
06-26-2007, 11:21 AM
My guess is she was there picking up the pieces of his shattered life and something blossomed from it. Everyone needs someone to comfort them.

Jodibug
06-26-2007, 11:35 AM
My guess is she was there picking up the pieces of his shattered life and something blossomed from it. Everyone needs someone to comfort them.


Exactly. I think they had started a friendship when Pamela was killed and it grew into more sometime after.

I am glad that Daniel found someone to help ease the pain. I do understand why her children are upset, but hopefully in time they will grow to understand Daniel's feelings as well.

AlwaysShocked
06-26-2007, 11:35 AM
Yep, and single women who are looking have a tendency to move in quickly on a newly widowed eligible man.

Jodibug
06-26-2007, 11:39 AM
If I die tomorrow, I want my husband to move on whenever he feels ready. Not the rest of the world, just him.

Of course I want him to consider the feelings of my children, but he can't live his life for anyone else but him.

What I want, more than anything, is for him to be happy. He cannot live his life in mourning, that wouldn't do anyone any good. I don't plan to come back once I'm gone.

Hermione
06-26-2007, 12:40 PM
You're right JBean, (oh Bean you know I'm your biggest fan, I always think you're right) It's been shown in studies that men do tend to get married much more quickly after losing a mate than women. They just don't seem to do as well as women do alone in general.

This is true. :( I've seen it quite a few times. The worst I've ever seen was a man who's wife of decades died of cancer and 4 *months* later he's married again and travelling the world. His wife had a baby 6 months before she died, a surprise baby because she was in her early 40s and their other kids were grown into their 20's already. She had pains during the pregnancy, they couldn't xray until delivery, it turns out it was colon cancer. She knew she was dying, begged him to take her to the beach for a vacation, he said he was too busy....a couple months later she died...4 months after that, poof, he's married and having some lady adopt his baby- they leave it with a nanny and jetset off to **paris**. One of the most upsetting things I have ever had to watch, to have been with his first wife during her last months and see how he treated her and how fast he moved on...and worst of all, his new wife gets jetsetted around like a queen, AND they don't let the baby have pictures of her mama- they have her treat his new wife as her mother and don't talk about her real mother.

Daniel Horowitz was obviously destroyed when Pamela was killed but this does seem a bit too soon, however, I wish him the best.

Lauren
06-26-2007, 09:02 PM
He probably didn't know how to do his own laundry... :doh:

PrayersForMaura
06-26-2007, 09:08 PM
Exactly. I think they had started a friendship when Pamela was killed and it grew into more sometime after.

I am glad that Daniel found someone to help ease the pain. I do understand why her children are upset, but hopefully in time they will grow to understand Daniel's feelings as well.


you're not in her kids' shoes, how can you "understand" how they feel. You're minimizing their pain by saying not to judge Horowitz. That's kind of a sideways way of thinking. You haven't walked in their shoes.

sillygoose
06-27-2007, 02:19 AM
I do not think it's fair to say an affair was blossoming. After my dad died, my mom remarried an old family friend after his wife died. I know for a fact that there was never an affair blossoming for the many years they knew each other. Just because you know someone at the time of your spouse's death, and later marry them, doesn't mean you were cheating at the time of their death. Btw, I love my stepfather and I never once felt that my mom betrayed my dad. They were parted in death!

I still don't get it. For some people Brad Pitt is still a saint after what he did to his wife, yet Daniel Horowitz is the devil for marrying "too soon". It's just absurd.

LNL
06-27-2007, 05:00 AM
I wish Dan and his new wife well.

This does kinda explain why we never really saw a united front with him and Pamela's family at the time of the trial. Remember how her parents and sister spoke of her at the PC after the verdict. Dan was out in the hall.

MagicRose99
06-27-2007, 06:57 AM
I do not think it's fair to say an affair was blossoming. After my dad died, my mom remarried an old family friend after his wife died. I know for a fact that there was never an affair blossoming for the many years they knew each other. Just because you know someone at the time of your spouse's death, and later marry them, doesn't mean you were cheating at the time of their death. Btw, I love my stepfather and I never once felt that my mom betrayed my dad. They were parted in death!

I still don't get it. For some people Brad Pitt is still a saint after what he did to his wife, yet Daniel Horowitz is the devil for marrying "too soon". It's just absurd.

Nobody has called Horowitz "the devil". Each and every one of us is entitled to our opinion...

And for the record... I think her children have a right to be upset that he could and would "replace" their mother in his life this soon. I think she took advantage of a situation where time should have been give the widower... this I can bet that this marriage won't last.

And last, I think Bradd Pitt and Anajolie are scum of the earth and have no respect whatsoever for them.

You're entitled to your opinion, and I'm glad it worked out for your mother... but don't belittle us for ours... we're ALL entitled to have an opinion of our own.

Bobbisangel
06-27-2007, 07:22 AM
you're not in her kids' shoes, how can you "understand" how they feel. You're minimizing their pain by saying not to judge Horowitz. That's kind of a sideways way of thinking. You haven't walked in their shoes.


I go into a forum for people who have lost a loved one to murder. Right after Pamela V was murdered her son came into the forum. He said that he came there because he was having a really hard time after the murder of his mom and he had no one to talk to. At the time I thought...I wonder why he doesn't talk to Dan as they both loved Pamela so much. Now I understand why he didn't turn to Dan.

At the trial I also wondered why Dan and Pamela's family didn't sit together. They acted like they didn't know each other. I just thought that was really strange.

We don't know when this friendship turned into a relationship but I know that if I was one of Pamela's kids and I found out that someone who had been on the jury went to work for my stepdad right after she got the boot and then they became good friends and were probably seen together a lot I would be greatly upset. It would be a betrayal to me and my mother if this woman was seen around a lot with my stepdad and I would question what was going on. Why couldn't he lean on male friends for support...not someone from the jury of his latest case. Why would a ex-juror go to work with him? How did that come about? I would have a ton of questions. That was just way to soon after a wife had been murdered and I can only imagine how her children must have felt. I know I felt so bad for her son and he seemed so lonesome and in need of someone for support. A shame he couldn't turn to Dan. I would have thought that Dan would have turned to Pamela's children during and after that horrible tragedy. If he had been close to them like he implied they could have been a big help to each other.

Bobbisangel
06-27-2007, 07:24 AM
Does this Valeria happen to be the big gal that was so supportive to Susan Polk before and during the trial or was that another woman? I thought that gal said that she worked for Dan's office. Is there a pic of her somewhere?

mjak
06-27-2007, 07:25 AM
I recently had a freind remarry after losing her husband a year and a half ago. She had had a wonderful 30 year marrage. At first I was shocked and confused that she would marry so soon. Then my mother explained to me that when you have had a wonderful marriage statisticly it is common that if your spouse dies you will marry again quickly. The reason for this she explained is that marriage is a lifestyle as much as love affair. When you have had a life style you have loved and enjoyed for years and years it makes complete sense you would seek out that life style. The remarrage may not be the love affair you shared with your diseased spouse but it is often based on a mutual desire to share a life, companionship and a love all of its own. When having it explained to me like this it made sense. I hope Daniel and his new wife are happy.

mjak

cinsbythesea
06-27-2007, 09:57 AM
Does this Valeria happen to be the big gal that was so supportive to Susan Polk before and during the trial or was that another woman? I thought that gal said that she worked for Dan's office. Is there a pic of her somewhere?

You're thinking of Valerie Harris. I think she met Horowitz during the Peterson trial - she was there every day to watch the trial. How she ended up working for Horowitz for awhile is beyond me. Also - Valerie Harris is married.

fundiva
06-27-2007, 11:56 AM
You're thinking of Valerie Harris. I think she met Horowitz during the Peterson trial - she was there every day to watch the trial. How she ended up working for Horowitz for awhile is beyond me. Also - Valerie Harris is married.
An article that I read (I googled Valerie) in a California paper said that she was a proposed juror, but was dismissed when Susan Polk told Dan that she wanted her on the jury and the prosecution heard. The day after she was dismissed she came back to court and approached Dan saying since she was an author she wanted to write a book on the trial. She started hanging around him and about a week or so later he "hired" her. Four days later his wife was murdered. On a website for Susan Polk (that came up in the google search), Susan said that was the reason she didn't want him representing her anymore; she thought he might have had something to do with his wife's death. I guess that's why Pamela's children are having a hard time with Dan marrying this particular woman. It's one thing to wait over a year to get married; it's another to begin seeing someone on a regular basis (platonic or not), have your spouse killed and then continue to see this person instead of any stepchildren. My guess this is a betrayal of some sort in the children's mind. How could he love their mother so much and then turn immediately to another woman. IMO most grieving men would have spent time making sure the case was solved and the step children were doing well before beginning any long term relationship.

Darlene733510
06-27-2007, 11:57 AM
I think that Dan really loved Pamela. She will always have a special place in his heart, even though there is a new woman in his life.
I wish them the very best.

Agatha
06-27-2007, 04:27 PM
I kind of had hopes that he might hook up with Nancy Grace, however........

Me, too! I was a little surprised when she announced her marriage and it wasn't to Daniel. I wish all four of these newlyweds the very best, always.

HappyChic727
06-27-2007, 04:44 PM
Why is it when people get divorced they can re-marry in a manner of months, but when a marriage ends in death, people want the widow/widower to wait years and years before re-marrying? Why is it a betrayal of the spouse that is deceased and not to an ex-spouse that is still living? It doesn't make sense to me. We do say, "til death do we part" don't we?Well . . . usually when people get divorced, it's been coming for awhile. Daniel's wife's death was so tragic. I'm glad that he found happiness. I hated him during the Peterson case. He said some awful things. But I really felt for him when his wife was murdered and I'm glad that there's always more than one person for everyone.

Now where in the Sam Hell is my man!

Jeana (DP)
06-27-2007, 06:16 PM
I'm sad to hear that Pamela's children have taken Daniel's relationship with his now new wife as a betrayal to their mom, but life doesn't always take a straight path. Of course I don't know all that went on behind the scenes, but some day they'll realize that Daniel was dedicated to their mom to the day she died. But then, life goes on................sometimes just sooner than you would expect.

I'm happy for Daniel and his new bride. I truly wish them the best.

JMHO
fran

I agree Fran. Her children are upset about their mother and they would probably feel better, for now, if they knew he was just as upset as they are. I think they may feel differently when they get a little bit older and have more life experiences. I'm glad that he's not alone and I wish all of them nothing but the best.

OneLostGrl
06-27-2007, 11:55 PM
My brothers wife (yeah, the Scientologists) was dying for over a year (diagnosed with cancer 3 months after giving birth to their first child) and had a hospice nurse coming into the home to help care for her the last couple of months. His wife finally died a month or 2 ago...

well, about a week ago, my brother called my mom to let her know he got married 3 weeks ago and his new wife is none other than the hospice nurse AND she is pregnant with his baby and is due in October!!