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believe09
07-23-2009, 04:06 PM
http://www.newsnet5.com/news/20148076/detail.html

:eek:

Officers responded to a call by the bio mother to gather her "things" from the hotel room; the call was precipitated by the woman's brother and her familys concern for her.

Officers entered the room and found three horribly emaciated children in a back bathroom-11, 10 and 5 years of age. The couple renting the room had a healthy 1 year old who was found in a crib. The children told a horrifying tale of starvation, beatings and sexual abuse while the children's mother was working.
:behindbar:behindbar:behindbar:behindbar:behindbar :behindbar:behindbar

Give them to me-the children I mean. I could give a rat's a** about the adults, but let me take those precious little ones and let them know that they can in fact be loved and cherished.

Three cheers for the uncle and the children's bio grandmom who tracked them all down and forced the rescue of the little ones....

nurselady
07-23-2009, 04:22 PM
http://www.newsnet5.com/news/20148076/detail.html

:eek:

Officers responded to a call by the bio mother to gather her "things" from the hotel room; the call was precipitated by the woman's brother and her familys concern for her.

Officers entered the room and found three horribly emaciated children in a back bathroom-11, 10 and 5 years of age. The couple renting the room had a healthy 1 year old who was found in a crib. The children told a horrifying tale of starvation, beatings and sexual abuse while the children's mother was working.
:behindbar:behindbar:behindbar:behindbar:behindbar :behindbar:behindbar

Give them to me-the children I mean. I could give a rat's a** about the adults, but let me take those precious little ones and let them know that they can in fact be loved and cherished.

Three cheers for the uncle and the children's bio grandmom who tracked them all down and forced the rescue of the little ones....

This is just too much.I fell like throwing up,this man needs some good old boy justice,bring him to my house for a while and i will gladly take care of him.

Sarahsue
07-23-2009, 04:26 PM
I loose faith in humanity more and more everyday.

Tranaice
07-23-2009, 04:30 PM
Things like this just break my heart. I pray that these children get the emotional and physical help they need to get better. :(

I'm with you nurselady, let me at him!!!!

angeleleven
07-23-2009, 04:45 PM
This is just horrible. The kids will carry this horrible ordeal with them forever, bless their hearts. I hope the boyfriend spends the rest of his life in jail. I pray for these kids and hope they will find someone to love and take care of them. The mother should be charged also. IMO

MomofBoys
07-23-2009, 06:48 PM
This is why I have decided that if, God forbid, something were to happen to my husband, I would not bring another man into my children's lives.

Would she have kept them in there forever? How very Flowers in the Attic. Only the mother didn't even have greed as a motive. She just had forsaken her kids for "love." I will never understand how love for a significant other can trump love for the children you brought into this world. Never.

I wonder how long they'll get. To me, it's akin to murder. Not only did these kids lose part of their lives, but I can't imagine that they won't be irreperably damaged by this ordeal.

TheMeaningOfItAll
07-23-2009, 07:44 PM
This is why I have decided that if, God forbid, something were to happen to my husband, I would not bring another man into my children's lives.

Would she have kept them in there forever? How very Flowers in the Attic. Only the mother didn't even have greed as a motive. She just had forsaken her kids for "love." I will never understand how love for a significant other can trump love for the children you brought into this world. Never.

I wonder how long they'll get. To me, it's akin to murder. Not only did these kids lose part of their lives, but I can't imagine that they won't be irreperably damaged by this ordeal.

I'm right there with you. I trust my own judgement enough, but I always say that if something happened to my husband, I'd just concentrate on raising my little ones on my own and not bring a partner into my life until they are fully grown and out of the house...you just never know anymore.

As for these poor little babies, thank goodness their uncle tracked them down! I'm disgusted at their mother's actions and I agree that she needs to be in jail right along side her (insert expletive) partner. In some ways, I believe she's MORE at fault because they're her children and it's her responsibility to keep them safe. I just want to cry for those children. Hopefully they'll get the help they need and the grandma/uncle can give them the love they have been missing these past few years.

Openmind
07-23-2009, 08:06 PM
As for these poor little babies, thank goodness their uncle tracked them down! I'm disgusted at their mother's actions and I agree that she needs to be in jail right along side her (insert expletive) partner. In some ways, I believe she's MORE at fault because they're her children and it's her responsibility to keep them safe. I just want to cry for those children. Hopefully they'll get the help they need and the grandma/uncle can give them the love they have been missing these past few years.


The uncle is the hero. His first and only concern was the children -- as it should be.

SFAladyjack
07-23-2009, 11:35 PM
believe09: Three cheers for the uncle and the children's bio grandmom who tracked them all down and forced the rescue of the little ones....

I sooo agree....He is a hero.:rose:

http://www.dallasnews.com/sharedcontent/dws/dn/localnews/columnists/jfloyd/stories/DN-floyd_23met.ART.Central.Edition1.4bc3a2d.html

Uncle's intervention likely saved abused Dallas kids

12:00 AM CDT on Thursday, July 23, 2009

It's hard to find a hero in a sick story about the torture and starvation of children.

It's crazy to look at three kids held prisoner for months in the dirty bathroom of a cheap motel room and see any evidence of good fortune in their young lives.

Yet in one respect, these children bruised, filthy and traumatized as they were had a little piece of luck.

There was somebody out there who cared enough about them to ask questions and, dissatisfied with the evasive answers, drive 1,200 miles to find out what the hell was going on.

The children an 11-year-old girl and her two brothers, 6 and 10 were rescued early this month when their uncle, Abner Santiago, made a marathon drive from Cleveland to Dallas to check up on them.

What he found made him sick.

Frail and emaciated as famine victims, the kids had been starved and beaten, police say, by their mother's boyfriend, Alfred Santiago (who shares the same last name as his girlfriend's family, but is not related). The boyfriend, police say, had been raping the little girl regularly.

The children's mother, who worked six days a week while her boyfriend "cared for" the kids, had been unwilling or unable to stop him.

"I thought something was wrong, but I never imagined anything close to this," said Abner Santiago, who has returned to his family and job in Ohio while police and child-welfare workers sort out the case against his sister and her boyfriend. "God, I just wish I'd gone sooner."

Openmind
07-23-2009, 11:40 PM
They can't lock this monster up long enough.


In an interview from jail, Alfred Santiago said he did nothing wrong and he considers himself the victim. He said the three children were a danger to his daughter and accused them of pouring urine on the baby.
"The one who is being disrespected right now is I, because I'm the one who's being abused," he told The Dallas Morning News. "What I was doing is protecting my baby daughter from her kids. What I did was I did not leave my daughter out of my sight."
He also told the newspaper that the children were to blame for their poor health because of their refusal to eat "mountains of rice, of chicken, of pork chops, of hot dogs."
"They were skinny because they were not eating the food," he said. "I'm not ashamed to say it, I was feeding them, but they were not eating their food."


http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,534647,00.html?test=latestnews

Reannan
07-23-2009, 11:51 PM
OMG!!! You know, I drive by houses and apartments, and I always say a prayer for any children or adults that are living in He!! inside. I can't believe the neighbors never heard or suspected anything. Those poor kids must have been completely terrorized. This satement about the Mother sort of pizzes me off, however:

""She just had a history of making poor judgments about her male companions," Jamison said. "I think ultimately the evidence will show that this man was controlling her and controlling the children."

WTF??? It is like saying "She had a history of making poor choices in colors that were flattering to her skin tone. I think ultimately, the evidence will show that she had very poor choices in colors due to the lack of variety in the stores she was shopping in". I mean COME ON!!!! :banghead::banghead::banghead: I am a Mother, and there is NO amount of ANYTHING on this earth that would force me to allow my children to live like that - especially not some worthless, pathetic excuse for a human being that was masquerading as a "man". :furious:

http://www.newsnet5.com/news/20148076/detail.html

alwaysonmymind
07-23-2009, 11:58 PM
What a sad story.

Police say mom had chances to help kids locked in Love Field area hotel bathroom

http://www.dallasnews.com/sharedcontent/dws/dn/latestnews/stories/072209dnmetabusecase.41c175b.html

~snip~

A doctor's report said the children were severely underweight and suffered from life-threatening malnourishment. The 11-year-old girl weighed 59 pounds; the 10-year-old boy, 58 pounds; and the 6-year-old boy, 29 pounds.
Police say Abneris Santiago knew that the children were starving and failed to do enough about it.

"Any reasonable person could see that the [children] were in immediate need of medical care," a police affidavit says. Abneris Santiago "stated that she was aware that the accomplice was not feeding the complainant and her siblings because 'they were not his responsibility.' "


Alfred Santiago "The suspect went to work daily and had ample opportunity to seek help and medical care for the [children]," the affidavit says. "The suspect failed to seek medical attention."

Jamison said his client acted when she could.

"If she has to end up in jail, and the children have to be placed with relatives, she's willing to accept that just as the consequence of being able to get away from this man," he said.

~snip~

Bless the Uncle for coming and saving them. They would still be locked in the bathroom.

LaLaw2000
07-24-2009, 12:16 AM
I have no words that I can write here about the so called mother and her 'monster man'.

I do hope the children will know nothing but love and caring from now on. If anyone ever needed a rescuing angel, these children did. Now what they need is a guardian angel and lots of love.

GB these little ones.

Fairy1
07-24-2009, 12:35 AM
I'm sorry, but I have no sympathy for this mother. The maternal instinct is a powerful thing and she chose a filthy POS over that. Shame on her and God help those babies.

Thinaire
07-24-2009, 12:39 AM
This is just too much.I fell like throwing up,this man needs some good old boy justice,bring him to my house for a while and i will gladly take care of him.

By no definition should this woman be called a "mother." A REAL mother would throw herself in front of a speeding vehicle for her children...a real mother would have packed up those kids and given that creep a hard knee to the jewels as she walked out the door!

No doubt the defense attornies are already preparing the "I was a victim too" defense.

Truthwillsetufree
07-24-2009, 12:40 AM
I do not understand women that allow these things to happen. I would kill for my children and not even bat an eyelash.

Truthwillsetufree
07-24-2009, 12:45 AM
By no definition should this woman be called a "mother." A REAL mother would throw herself in front of a speeding vehicle for her children...a real mother would have packed up those kids and given that creep a hard knee to the jewels as she walked out the door!

No doubt the defense attornies are already preparing the "I was a victim too" defense.

If I were on a jury with what little I know, I still say BS. She goes out works a job while he stays at the motel "babysitting", I call it freeloading all the while beating and raping her daughter. The woman had every oppertunity to call the police from work, tell someone at work, do something to intervene on behalf of her children but she chose not to as evidenced by the condition the children were found in.
This woman was a willing participant in the rape and torture of her 3 children, just as if she did it herself. God help her because if I were on that jury, I'd hang her.JMO.

Sheromom
07-24-2009, 01:58 AM
I'm right there with you. I trust my own judgement enough, but I always say that if something happened to my husband, I'd just concentrate on raising my little ones on my own and not bring a partner into my life until they are fully grown and out of the house...you just never know anymore.

As for these poor little babies, thank goodness their uncle tracked them down! I'm disgusted at their mother's actions and I agree that she needs to be in jail right along side her (insert expletive) partner. In some ways, I believe she's MORE at fault because they're her children and it's her responsibility to keep them safe. I just want to cry for those children. Hopefully they'll get the help they need and the grandma/uncle can give them the love they have been missing these past few years.

On the other hand, there are so many wonderful men out there doing a terrific job at raising their step-children. I am fortunate enough to be married to one of them. We married when my oldest childest were 8 and 4 and then had two more daughters. Never has he shown any favoritism between the children and I have no doubt of how much he loves every one of them. I know that many children are raised in single parent families and turn out happy and well-adjusted. But I also think that it is best if they are able to have two parents to turn to during times of need. Certainly, any parent, male OR female needs to exercise extreme caution when deciding to marry.:blowkiss:

That said, I HATE this mother!!!! No way this should have happened to these poor babies!

txsvicki
07-24-2009, 02:14 AM
I'm not so sure the Uncle had anything to do with the kids being found. My local texas paper reported that the mother called, and her attorney credited her with having courage (yeah right). It seemed as if the uncle was called afterward and had his mouth agape at hearing of the circumstances. The family said that, I believe, a grandma had pretty much raised these kids and they all were worried after the mom took up with Abner. One whole year went by after that. The kids were so malnourished that they vomited when CPS workers tried to feed them some food. Were there not any calls to authorities or calls from the crap mom of the year to let anyone in her family know where she was, there was a new baby on the way, etc. ? I figure these people were collecting foodstamps on these kids plus WIC on the baby the whole time. I don't think Texas calls and checks on school attendance with foodstamps, only TANF, but not positive.

believe09
07-24-2009, 08:08 AM
I'm not so sure the Uncle had anything to do with the kids being found. My local texas paper reported that the mother called, and her attorney credited her with having courage (yeah right). It seemed as if the uncle was called afterward and had his mouth agape at hearing of the circumstances. The family said that, I believe, a grandma had pretty much raised these kids and they all were worried after the mom took up with Abner. One whole year went by after that. The kids were so malnourished that they vomited when CPS workers tried to feed them some food. Were there not any calls to authorities or calls from the crap mom of the year to let anyone in her family know where she was, there was a new baby on the way, etc. ? I figure these people were collecting foodstamps on these kids plus WIC on the baby the whole time. I don't think Texas calls and checks on school attendance with foodstamps, only TANF, but not positive.

I see your point but I guess my understanding of the story was that Gma dispatched Uncle to go and get all of them or to at least see what was going on. My suspicion is that mom called the police because of the imminent arrival of her brother and knowing what he would find, she opted to pull the trigger herself.,..JMO

Fairy1
07-24-2009, 07:49 PM
I see your point but I guess my understanding of the story was that Gma dispatched Uncle to go and get all of them or to at least see what was going on. My suspicion is that mom called the police because of the imminent arrival of her brother and knowing what he would find, she opted to pull the trigger herself.,..JMO

You may very well be correct, believe09. In any case, the fact that this "mother" clearly had a family to which she could turn for help and that had cared for these children previously just makes me even angrier. There was no reason, whatsoever, for these babies to have suffered so terribly at the hands of that monster. Whatever she did in the end was too little, too late.

OneLostGrl
07-25-2009, 12:32 AM
OMG!!! You know, I drive by houses and apartments, and I always say a prayer for any children or adults that are living in He!! inside. I can't believe the neighbors never heard or suspected anything. Those poor kids must have been completely terrorized. This satement about the Mother sort of pizzes me off, however:

""She just had a history of making poor judgments about her male companions," Jamison said. "I think ultimately the evidence will show that this man was controlling her and controlling the children."

WTF??? It is like saying "She had a history of making poor choices in colors that were flattering to her skin tone. I think ultimately, the evidence will show that she had very poor choices in colors due to the lack of variety in the stores she was shopping in". I mean COME ON!!!! :banghead::banghead::banghead: I am a Mother, and there is NO amount of ANYTHING on this earth that would force me to allow my children to live like that - especially not some worthless, pathetic excuse for a human being that was masquerading as a "man". :furious:

http://www.newsnet5.com/news/20148076/detail.html

:clap: :clap:

SoccerMom
07-26-2009, 08:17 AM
I do not understand women that allow these things to happen. I would kill for my children and not even bat an eyelash.

I agree. Yet I have a "friend" who in the past year has lost her husband (he left her) and her Mother (death) and who is now moving in with her boyfriend of 2 months. Leaving the state and one of her two children behind because the boyfriend won't move here. Another friend and I have tried to talk to her about it, but she's "in love." I don't trust this guy and I never would have thought that she'd leave her daughter for him. It's destroyed our friendship. In a way, I'm glad that her daughter isn't going to be with him, but I worry about her son. This guy just seems way too eager to be a "father" to a little boy who already has a father. I often wonder if it would be better for his father to get custody over her.

Salem
07-29-2009, 07:51 PM
Heartbreaking update to this story. Those poor kids. I don't even know what to say.

http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/32208414/ns/us_news-crime_and_courts/

Salem

Salem
07-29-2009, 08:14 PM
The uncle is the hero. His first and only concern was the children -- as it should be.

He really is - driving 1,200 miles, taking time off work and maybe from his own family. Bless him and Grandma for caring enough. I think about what I would say/do if someone asked me to do this..... would I pooh pooh the idea because it was so far, and I was busy, and then what about my job? I can soooo see how easy it would have been to talk yourself out of going. That's about a 24 hour road trip with no stopping.

Bless these children and the Grandma and Uncle, and give the Uncle extra kudos! I am so glad he made the time for these children.

Salem

Recovering-Lurker
07-29-2009, 08:26 PM
Heartbreaking update to this story. Those poor kids. I don't even know what to say.

http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/32208414/ns/us_news-crime_and_courts/

Salem

I am both sad and sick to my stomach. Bless those kids. I pray they are kept together and go to a wonderful, loving home.

Recovering-Lurker
07-29-2009, 08:39 PM
The mother's boyfriend, Alfred Santiago, 37, faces charges of aggravated sexual assault and continuous sexual abuse. He remained jailed Wednesday, unable to make his $125,000 bail. No court appearance has been set.

The mother, Abneris Santiago, 30, is charged with injury to a child. She remained jailed on $50,000 bail and is expected to appear in court next week, when a judge will decide whether the case will go to a grand jury.

Those are their bails??? Grrrrrr!!!!!!!

Fairy1
07-29-2009, 10:13 PM
They should have been denied bail - both of these POS's! What the HEL* kind of sadistic monster could do these things to innocent children and what kind of "mother" could let it happen? She's medically obese? Guess she wasn't missing many meals. Bi*ch!

I will pray for all of these babies. They have a long road ahead of them.

I will also pray for the worst possible punishment for the "parents." Have to believe they will get what's coming to them or I won't be able to sleep!

:furious::furious::furious:

Fairy1
08-04-2009, 08:40 PM
DALLAS — Abernis Santiago, the Dallas mother accused of letting her children starve, claims an abusive relationship drove her to do it.

Police found the three children malnourished and on the brink of death. They had spent the last year of their lives locked in the bathroom of a Dallas motel room.

The children's stepfather is charged with sexual abuse.
A judge on Tuesday decided there's enough evidence for the mother's case to go before a grand jury.

http://www.wfaa.com/sharedcontent/dws/wfaa/latestnews/stories/wfaa090804_lj_motelroom.a99b25af.html

believe09
08-05-2009, 09:22 AM
DALLAS Abernis Santiago, the Dallas mother accused of letting her children starve, claims an abusive relationship drove her to do it.

Police found the three children malnourished and on the brink of death. They had spent the last year of their lives locked in the bathroom of a Dallas motel room.

The children's stepfather is charged with sexual abuse.
A judge on Tuesday decided there's enough evidence for the mother's case to go before a grand jury.

http://www.wfaa.com/sharedcontent/dws/wfaa/latestnews/stories/wfaa090804_lj_motelroom.a99b25af.html

I am thrilled the judge is going this route. I do think that a grand jury should decide if mom participated and can be held responsible for this.

I understand the abuse excuse, but she was working OUTSIDE the "home" so to speak. She had a family who was concerned and worried....they forced the rescue at least that is how I see it.

I dont know if her three older kids will ever understand why they were thrown to this wolf.

Angels_Not_Forgotten
08-05-2009, 10:31 AM
I am thrilled the judge is going this route. I do think that a grand jury should decide if mom participated and can be held responsible for this.

I understand the abuse excuse, but she was working OUTSIDE the "home" so to speak. She had a family who was concerned and worried....they forced the rescue at least that is how I see it.

I dont know if her three older kids will ever understand why they were thrown to this wolf.

well, in case they look it up one day, i'll tell them. their mothers a b!tch. Sorry if that's not allowed, I'll erase it but its just how I feel.

Fairy1
08-05-2009, 08:26 PM
Not to judge a book by the cover, but this woman doesn't look like she'd be easy to push around. She looks pretty tough to me - especially with that tattoo on her neck. I'm just not sure I buy her abuse story. We shall see.

Salem
08-06-2009, 10:41 AM
These children really touch me. I don't know if it is because they do have a family that cares enough about them to go find them or what. All I can say is Thank God! These children were so close to losing their lives - it just makes me cry.

Of course mom will say it was an abusive relationship - we all know women are never responsible for their actions. There is always some man that made them do it. Well, all I can say is, if you are that danm weak - maybe you should keep your legs crossed.

I no longer belive in "he made me do it". In our County, every public bathroom has the Women's Emergency Shelter number pasted on it. It's on TV all the time, family and friends will discuss it with you - and in this case - will be smart enough to know that this POS would do anything to keep her POS.

Prayers for these children that from this day forward they will always be allowed to enjoy the sunshine, they will always have enough to eat and that their Grandma and Uncle will keep them close and love them till the pain goes away.

Salem

Kat
08-06-2009, 12:43 PM
These children really touch me. I don't know if it is because they do have a family that cares enough about them to go find them or what. All I can say is Thank God! These children were so close to losing their lives - it just makes me cry.

Of course mom will say it was an abusive relationship - we all know women are never responsible for their actions. There is always some man that made them do it. Well, all I can say is, if you are that danm weak - maybe you should keep your legs crossed.

I no longer belive in "he made me do it". In our County, every public bathroom has the Women's Emergency Shelter number pasted on it. It's on TV all the time, family and friends will discuss it with you - and in this case - will be smart enough to know that this POS would do anything to keep her POS.

Prayers for these children that from this day forward they will always be allowed to enjoy the sunshine, they will always have enough to eat and that their Grandma and Uncle will keep them close and love them till the pain goes away.

Salem

:clap: :clap: :clap: a standing ovation to you Salem. Thank you sistah!

JoeDean
08-06-2009, 02:56 PM
I truly wish I had a big enough house and more money as I have enough love for all of the abused children. I would welcome them to my home with open arms and an open heart. The poor children deserve so much more than they get from the parents who are supposed to love and nurture them.

VespaElf
08-06-2009, 03:16 PM
If Granma basically raised the kids there was no point for the "Mother"to move them.Clearly B/F wanted some "punching bags" & she went along with it as ONCE AGAIN we have a woman who will do ANYTHING to keep "her man" even at the expense of her kids.
Im sure all she had to do was call her family to take her "unwanted"children & they wouldve ........happily.I think the B/F pre-planned the sex abuse & that was a motivating factor too! UGH! This makes me so ill!

Lovejac
07-21-2010, 08:38 PM
http://www.myfoxdfw.com/dpp/news/072110-starved-kids-uncle-takes-stand

A trial began in Dallas Wednesday for a man accused of locking his girlfriend's children in a hotel bathroom and starving them for up to nine months.

The uncle of the three children described the day he and police rescued the children, and told the courtroom they were weak and malnourished.

The uncle, Abner Santiago, said that when the oldest child walked out of the hotel room where she and her 10-year-old and 5-year-old half brothers had been kept, she saw tears in his eyes she told him: "It's OK, we're safe now. Everything is going to be OK."

Tuffy
07-22-2010, 05:59 PM
The pediatrician at Children's Medical Center Dallas told jurors Thursday that the oldest child, a then-11-year-old girl, told him that she and her brothers -- ages 5 and 10 -- were fed once a day, eating tiny amounts of chicken and rice with a few sips of juice.

http://www.myfoxdfw.com/dpp/news/072210-abuse-trial%3A-children-fed-once-a-day

fhc
07-27-2010, 03:53 PM
just got an email from DallasNews.com

Man who locked children in motel bathroom and starved them is found guilty. Alfred Santiago faces 5 years to life for knowingly and intentionally causing serious bodily harm to the girl. He faces 25 years to life for continuously sexually abusing her.

reen
07-27-2010, 04:12 PM
I still don't understand how housekeeping did not come in for a whole year! Or at least maintenance. Surely they come by to check the condition of the room, plumbing or smoke alarm checks, other inspections??

Thank the stars for this uncle who rescued these poor souls. I hope they are having feast after feast and ice cream for dessert!

believe09
07-27-2010, 04:19 PM
I still don't understand how housekeeping did not come in for a whole year! Or at least maintenance. Surely they come by to check the condition of the room, plumbing or smoke alarm checks, other inspections??

Thank the stars for this uncle who rescued these poor souls. I hope they are having feast after feast and ice cream for dessert!

I doubt they were left alone in the motel room. I bet he was omnipresent.

reen
07-27-2010, 04:27 PM
I doubt they were left alone in the motel room. I bet he was omnipresent.

I'm sure he probably was. Still, this isn't a seedy motel - it's a newish extended stay hotel and those I've been to are fairly well maintained. Just seems sooo weird that he could keep hotel staff away from the bathroom for that long.

SoccerMom
07-27-2010, 05:16 PM
I agree. Yet I have a "friend" who in the past year has lost her husband (he left her) and her Mother (death) and who is now moving in with her boyfriend of 2 months. Leaving the state and one of her two children behind because the boyfriend won't move here. Another friend and I have tried to talk to her about it, but she's "in love." I don't trust this guy and I never would have thought that she'd leave her daughter for him. It's destroyed our friendship. In a way, I'm glad that her daughter isn't going to be with him, but I worry about her son. This guy just seems way too eager to be a "father" to a little boy who already has a father. I often wonder if it would be better for his father to get custody over her.

I am quoting my own post here. Months after I wrote this, it came to my attention that my friend's boyfriend was on Megan's List for child molestation. Amazing. @@ And after he went back to jail for more of the same (but with adult women this time) she is actually going to marry him! I have completely cut her out of my life. I tried to help her but she "loves" him. It's disgusting.

zelmajane
07-27-2010, 05:28 PM
I have cried three times in this thread.

Those poor children. Thank the dear Lord they have extended family that loves them.

Glad he got life. Hopefully they'll find out what he did while he is there.

RoseWhite
07-27-2010, 06:00 PM
If I came home from work and discovered my boyfriend/husband/father of my children had locked my kids in the bathroom for even a DAY, that would be the end of it all. I can't believe anyone would have let this happen for as long as it did.

Missizzy
07-28-2010, 12:13 AM
http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20100728/ap_on_re_us/us_starved_children;_ylt=AkdSO5xaIazyHNoo._Bh26qs0 NUE;_ylu=X3oDMTNuZjYwM2c4BGFzc2V0A2FwLzIwMTAwNzI4L 3VzX3N0YXJ2ZWRfY2hpbGRyZW4EY2NvZGUDbW9zdHBvcHVsYXI EY3BvcwM0BHBvcwMxBHB0A2hvbWVfY29rZQRzZWMDeW5faGVhZ GxpbmVfbGlzdARzbGsDdGV4YXNtYW5zZW50

Texas man sentenced to 99 years in starvation case

"A Dallas man convicted of starving three children locked in a hotel bathroom for nearly a year was sentenced to 99 years in prison Tuesday after jurors heard testimony that one child was suicidal and another preferred urinating in his hospital bed to entering a restroom.

The youngest victim, a 6-year-old boy whose head barely peeked over the witness stand, told jurors he liked the hospital where he was taken after being rescued from the squalid hotel along a busy Dallas highway in July 2009.

"I got to eat," he said.

The jury sentenced Alfred Santiago, 38, hours after they convicted him of injury to a child and continuous sexual abuse.

and

"The four children live together with a foster family."


more at link


Hopefully, this foster family will be a permanent resource for these children. I'm so pleased that a family had the strength to take them all on. They need all the support we can provide.

Belinda
07-28-2010, 05:08 AM
I'm so sorry for all these children have suffered. I know they will have lingering effects for the rest of their lives. I hope they are with the best family in the world and are receiving all the care they need. It's so sad to hear that one is suicidal. I hope they can help him get through that and become healthy and happy again. The man (insert appropriate other names here) still doesn't accept any responsibility for what he did to these poor babies. Shame on him. I will be interested to hear mom's sob story when she goes to court. No doubt she also is not responsible and had no choice. Yeah, right. And we will all believe that. Not.

Openmind
07-28-2010, 06:05 AM
Never will be able to understand how anyone, little more a parent, can commit such abuse on their children. This article will break your heart. So much abuse and then the rigors of recovery.


Lind also testified that the two older children, who testified earlier in the trial, had a hard time coping with telling a room full of strangers what happened to them. Both were curious about what people thought about them and what they said.
The middle child, now 11, had the hardest time. He threw up five or six times after testifying on Monday. Of all the children, she said, he has the most difficulty coping with what happened.
Lind also testified that the 11-year-old believes that he should forgive Alfred Santiago because the child is a Christian.
"He couldn't do that, and he thought he might go to hell," she said. She said that the boy decided that he can't forgive him even if it means he might go to hell.
Lind said the 11-year-old believes that Alfred Santiago "should die for what he did."
The boy "believes Alfred is a monster and he has so devastated his life, he should understand what he did," Lind testified.



http://www.dallasnews.com/sharedcontent/dws/news/localnews/crime/stories/072810dnmetsantiagopunishment.25af5b74.html

Now they have to endure their mother's trial.

Andy C.
07-28-2010, 06:21 AM
I'm so sorry for all these children have suffered. I know they will have lingering effects for the rest of their lives. I hope they are with the best family in the world and are receiving all the care they need. It's so sad to hear that one is suicidal. I hope they can help him get through that and become healthy and happy again. The man (insert appropriate other names here) still doesn't accept any responsibility for what he did to these poor babies. Shame on him. I will be interested to hear mom's sob story when she goes to court. No doubt she also is not responsible and had no choice. Yeah, right. And we will all believe that. Not.
It is heartbreaking that people behave like this.

Andy C.
07-28-2010, 06:23 AM
Never will be able to understand how anyone, little more a parent, can commit such abuse on their children. This article will break your heart. So much abuse and then the rigors of recovery.





http://www.dallasnews.com/sharedcontent/dws/news/localnews/crime/stories/072810dnmetsantiagopunishment.25af5b74.html

Now they have to endure their mother's trial.
Sending blessings to them.

Andy C.
07-28-2010, 06:25 AM
I loose faith in humanity more and more everyday.
Yep, me too!

Andy C.
07-28-2010, 06:26 AM
http://www.newsnet5.com/news/20148076/detail.html

:eek:

Officers responded to a call by the bio mother to gather her "things" from the hotel room; the call was precipitated by the woman's brother and her familys concern for her.

Officers entered the room and found three horribly emaciated children in a back bathroom-11, 10 and 5 years of age. The couple renting the room had a healthy 1 year old who was found in a crib. The children told a horrifying tale of starvation, beatings and sexual abuse while the children's mother was working.
:behindbar:behindbar:behindbar:behindbar:behindbar :behindbar:behindbar

Give them to me-the children I mean. I could give a rat's a** about the adults, but let me take those precious little ones and let them know that they can in fact be loved and cherished.

Three cheers for the uncle and the children's bio grandmom who tracked them all down and forced the rescue of the little ones....
Thank God for grandmothers.

Andy C.
07-28-2010, 06:27 AM
This is just too much.I fell like throwing up,this man needs some good old boy justice,bring him to my house for a while and i will gladly take care of him.

I will help you.

Andy C.
07-28-2010, 06:28 AM
This is just horrible. The kids will carry this horrible ordeal with them forever, bless their hearts. I hope the boyfriend spends the rest of his life in jail. I pray for these kids and hope they will find someone to love and take care of them. The mother should be charged also. IMO
I agree.

RoseWhite
07-28-2010, 01:02 PM
Sentenced to 99 years.

http://www.komonews.com/news/national/99463649.html

A Dallas man convicted of starving three children locked in a hotel bathroom for nearly a year was sentenced to 99 years in prison Tuesday after jurors heard testimony that one child was suicidal and another preferred urinating in his hospital bed to entering a restroom.

The youngest victim, a 6-year-old boy whose head barely peeked over the witness stand, told jurors he liked the hospital where he was taken after being rescued from the squalid hotel along a busy Dallas highway in July 2009.

"I got to eat," he said.

KeyboardCat
07-28-2010, 02:02 PM
I bet he is out in less than 20, maybe 10.

I hope this doesn't sound too offensive.. but I hope he gets put in gen pop. That's the only chance that he'd never see the outside again. I'm sorry.

Belinda
07-28-2010, 02:12 PM
I'm waiting for him to be transferred to DOC, so I can see what his projected release date is. Texas doesn't play around though, so he will do the majority of it I'm sure. They don't do half-time like Indiana.

reen
07-28-2010, 02:53 PM
I couldn't breathe while reading the children's testimony, it's so unimaginable the damage that's been inflicted on them. Two are suicidal, they all likely have eating disorders now, at least one has brain atrophy, they're terrified of the bathroom...the list is endless.

Children are resilient. They have gained weight and physically should be OK. But the wounds here go so deep...the amount of help and support they're going to need long-term is staggering. I truly hope the foster family is up for this, and closely and broadly supported while caring for these children. My heart just aches.

Speaking of that, I noticed this at the end of one article, in case like myself you would like to help:

"To donate clothes, toys, money or other items to the children in this case, contact Rebecca Farrow at the Dallas Children's Advocacy Center at rfarrow@dcac.org. The center is a nonprofit organization that helps abused children, as well as law enforcement agencies investigating and prosecuting abuse cases."

RoseWhite
07-28-2010, 03:04 PM
I couldn't breathe while reading the children's testimony, it's so unimaginable the damage that's been inflicted on them. Two are suicidal, they all likely have eating disorders now, at least one has brain atrophy, they're terrified of the bathroom...the list is endless.

Children are resilient. They have gained weight and physically should be OK. But the wounds here go so deep...the amount of help and support they're going to need long-term is staggering. I truly hope the foster family is up for this, and closely and broadly supported while caring for these children. My heart just aches.

Speaking of that, I noticed this at the end of one article, in case like myself you would like to help:

"To donate clothes, toys, money or other items to the children in this case, contact Rebecca Farrow at the Dallas Children's Advocacy Center at rfarrow@dcac.org. The center is a nonprofit organization that helps abused children, as well as law enforcement agencies investigating and prosecuting abuse cases."

Me too. I wish I could just hug them and tell them they will never see that man again, let alone that room. Thank you for posting the donation link!

believe09
07-28-2010, 03:17 PM
99 years works for me. I hate to point this out, but it is unlikely he will do well in GP.

TY for the link to the email for donations etc...

Belinda
07-30-2010, 02:11 PM
DALLAS - A woman accused of starving her three children and holding them for months in a Dallas hotel bathroom has told a judge she plans to change her plea.

Abneris Santiago said she will plead guilty Friday to causing her daughter serious bodily harm. She faces a life sentence.

More at link:
http://www.verizon.net/newsroom/portals/newsroom.portal?_nfpb=true&_pageLabel=newsroom_portal_page_us_article&_article=2996942

believe09
07-30-2010, 02:31 PM
I just KNEW she would change her plea. She was waiting to see what happened with him. I will say this, regardless of why she changed it it is the right thing to do. Now these children can have some peace as strange as that may seem....

Belinda
07-30-2010, 02:42 PM
I'm just waiting to see what her sentence is. So often the women get off easy, so I'm hoping she will get a stiff sentence.

Belinda
07-31-2010, 03:14 AM
By JEFF CARLTON Associated Press Writer 2010 The Associated Press

July 30, 2010, 4:40PM

DALLAS A mother whose three children were found starving after being shut away in a hotel bathroom for as long as nine months was sentenced to life in prison Friday after changing her plea to guilty in the middle of her trial.

Abneris Santiago, 31, had faced between five years and life in prison on a felony charge of injury to a child.

BBM - More at link:
http://www.chron.com/disp/story.mpl/ap/top/all/7132739.html

Belinda
07-31-2010, 05:28 AM
I am beyond thrilled that she got life. Waiting for her to be transferred to DOC, so I can see when she will be up for parole. I'm not sure what Texas minimum is for life. I was so afraid they would buy the abuse baloney and give her a slap on the wrist. I feel like these children got justice and I don't feel that way very often. I hope the little boy who is suicidal will be able to heal and be happy. I wish so much love for them.

believe09
07-31-2010, 08:41 AM
Life is appropriate. This story makes my heart hurt. :(

RoseWhite
08-11-2010, 02:16 PM
I'm glad these two will be locked up for the rest of their lives. It is just punishment. Too bad they get square meals a day. I'm sure Mr. Santiago will have a warm reception in prison as well. I hope that reception lasts 99 years.