If neither Kaine nor Desiree is suspected of participating in the disappearance of Kyron, then I, personally, don't see the point of "constructively criticizing" their public appearances. It makes it difficult to actively advocate to find your child and bring the perp to justice when you are also opening yourself up to be scrutinized and "Monday-morning quarterbacked" and worse. I applaud their courage and their candor, something we have not seen from Terri.
Since Kaine got away from Terri, he has been very open with the media, and I think that indicates who it was in the family whose idea it was to avoid the media.
Steadfast, sometimes an extreme example makes things clearer for me.
There is a case from 1984 where a husky 12 year old boy named Johnny Gosch disappeared from his paper route. He has never been found, according to most people and to the police. His parents were never suspects in his disappearance.
However, his mother, Noreen Gosch, has insisted that Johnny was abducted by a ring of pedophiles and lives in hiding. She claims that he actually visited her in the middle of the night in the late 90s. No other witnesses, no evidence left behind. She has gone into criminal court to testify that Johnny is still alive, which led to the finding of not guilty against an accused pedophile.
Johnny's father, John Gosch, does not believe his son is still alive. The local police do not believe Johnny is still alive. I can't think of any reasonable person familiar with the case who believes Johnny is still alive.
At one point, a copy of a photograph was given to Noreen anonymously. It showed a group of young adolescent boys in their skivvies in a bedroom or motel room and they appeared to be bound. Noreen identified one of the boys as Johnny and said that the photograph was evidence that he'd been abducted by an organised pedophile ring.
She continues, so far as I know, to believe that Johnny is depicted in that photograph even though LE has tracked down the person who took the photo and all the boys (now adult men) in the photo. According to LE, it's a picture of a junior high school wrestling team at state finals, commemorating a night of goofing around. They were pretending to be tied up. Why? They were 13 and 14 year old boys and that's the way they think!
Noreen Gosch is clearly a victim and it seems clear to me that she continues to suffer terribly to this day. That does not mean that when she says something, I automatically accept it as the objective truth. I just can't. Not because she is evil but because her personal filters and biases cause her to believe and say things that are not consistent with consensus reality.
As for Monday morning quarterbacking, it is sometimes useful. For example, in the Johnny Gosch case, LE assured the community that there was nothing to fear, it was an isolated incident, no need to worry. Sound at all familiar?
Based on those assurances, the newspaper that Johnny Gosch was delivering that Sunday decided after consulting LE not to change their procedures.
Two years later, almost to the day, Eugene Martin, a slight 14 year old delivering the same newspaper, disappeared under nearly identical circumstances. Almost completely the same, including same area of town, day of the week (Sunday), lack of eyewitnesses to the actual event, eyewitnesses placing Eugene near his drop spot, etc. The two boys even looked like they were the same age at disappearance because Johnny was large for a 12 year old and Eugene small for 14.
There's no evidence to link the two disappearances. But that newspaper immediately made the decision to change their procedures (including raising the age of their delivery personnel) and there have been no more abductions of their delivery staff.
I'm among those who believe that had LE not been so quick to characterise Johnny Gosch's disappearance as an isolated incident, Eugene Martin would not have been abducted.
A little constructive challenging of assumptions and biases, a little Monday morning quarterbacking, can be very useful. Might even save a life or two.