I've been thinking about this morning and wondering how it quickly went so sideways and I apologize for hurting your feeling. Yes, I was also an abandoned child - that was the beginning...
No where in my posts did I ask you or anyone to forgive, forget, not hold the Anthony's responsible for their actions and I also didn't ask anyone to "understand" them. I simply stated that "understanding" the personalities behind their actions was something that I was seeking.
Again, my apologies to anyone here on the Caylee threads who felt I was attacking them. It may take me a few days to understand how asking for some simple decorum caused such a brush fire.
Logical,
The reason I got upset is because you have stated your forgiveness evolved belief system over and over and over again. The way in which you state it, is to reply to others showing their continued mistrust, frustration and anger at the players in the case.
You stated: "
The question for me is not whether or not the Anthony's were on a reality show but whether or not we at Websleuths are."
Then when I asked why WS is on a reality show - You replied to me:
"Not on -
in! :floorlaugh:" THE Word you used was ON - but that reply felt mocking of me for not understanding your message. But ON or IN - this comment comes off as judgmental, IMHO.
Then in that same reply you said:
"What I was talking about was the way or manner this hatred of the Anthony's is expressed. If we are criticizing someone like CA, or GA, the fact that we are "right" doesn't mean we have to sink the the level of the Jerry Springer show to show our dislike or disapproval does it?"
This offends me as I don't think WS reads at all like the Jerry Springer show or the "level of the Jerry Springer show." Maybe I missed some posts that have been deleted but I have never seen anything close to the level of trashiness of that show.
You say above you have not asked anyone to forgive, forget, etc and you also said this in a reply to me:
"I'm not asking anyone to show sympathy or forgiveness and I'm not scolding anyone - I'm asking if we could "lift the level" of our disapproval is all." Again, this feels scolding of those whom don't feel as you do and one of the things I ADORE about WS is that we can respectfully disagree in a non-judgmental fashion. I don't see anything wrong with our 'level of disapproval' by any of the members posting, so I am confused why you are telling us to up our game? I guess if the mods had come in and said, if you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all- and we continued to show our frustration, mistrust or anger then you would be right to guide us to conform to your comfort level or your evolved belief system.
The same standard doesn't apply to jose - and IMHO, you even encourage the display of discontent for him and others. I do too, as I want them exposed for the lies and trickery.
AZ posted "Any of us who have never made a choice of which we were later ashamed should keep on bashing him... "
This seems hypocritical to me as the same standard doesn't apply to others in the case (jose being the classic example) and this too feels like judging fellow posters for 'where they are' with GA and CA. I think bashing is against TOS and I am not seeing any moderators deleting posts and taking away drinks for bashing. So to those whom still want to vent frustration, this feels like scolding, especially coming from highly respected members.
I consider everyone here my 'friends' - yeah, feel like I know most of you guys and in real life we would be a hoot. But, in real life my friends don't scold me or judge me or reprimand me with "I feel" camouflaged statements. They don't tell me to "up my level" - etc.
I had been reading since GA showed up at JA's victory party and you shared your opinion over and over and over again and it felt stifling to me to speak my opinions of why he showed up. Heck, I was even just not thanking any posts for fear it would put me on a side. I doubt I was the only one sitting on my hands wanting to speak up but not wanting to rock the boat of posters that are so popular and liked. It felt as if anyone said, no I am not ready to give the benefit of doubt; or anything not 'give them grace-ish' then you replied to again state your highly evolved belief system. Those words have a way of making one feel inferior, not evolved. Those words make one feel intimidated to not want to post for fear of looking shallow. That is what I saw and was feeling reading your posts on GA so I posted to ask you to clarify and see if you realized that was how I was reading what you wrote.
I didn't see a lack of decorum so your asking for "simple decorum" was and is still baffling to me. Again, if a mod asks - I know not to question it. Then to say that me asking you about your post and expressing my feeling has "caused such a brush fire" is hurtful. I don't feel I started a brush fire.
I am not going to speak on this topic again. I hope that our friendship is strong enough to support the truth of what I felt. I am only responding out of respect for that friendship, and others, and only posting this here as you addressed it again after I said I was going on vacay. So, now I am going back on vacay and might just get lost at sea after all this.
