I recently started following this case and was blown away by AS' fake histrionics, the melt-down "crying" with no tears, accompanying gestures or mucous, etc. I would like to share my perspective, agree or disagree welcome.
I have no idea but surmise she married Rusty for his money in the first place. He looks like he may have been a little immature. We see how commanding, smug and manipulative she is and I'd guess she was the same way in their marriage. She's an average-looking if not dowdy woman. She bragged about their choosing to live "frugally" ("we ate a lot of peanut butter ... so we could save money"). I can imagine their lives were their careers, money, nitpicking one another, trying to be "successful", and her hectoring him a lot. They have 2 children but I don't get the impression that she could have been very maternal. I can very well imagine her coming home after a "hard day at the office" (!!! trips out of town screwing around and how hard could her job have been !!!???) and browbeating her husband that he didn't cook dinner, etc.
I see a scenario where HN was attracted to her and she led him on and liked the attention and the "romance", enjoyed *****ing about her husband and her terrible dilemma and having no intention of changing anything, and why should she? Now she has 2 men to do her bidding. She can stay in her big house and nag her husband, he can take care of the kids, and she can play Cinderella with the trips and the attention and the thrill of thinking she is so desirable. She definitely played dangle and snatch with HN, like so many other women in history who have been seductive with men and then kept them at arms length. I think she did that because it made her feel powerful.
IMO she is not intelligent in a perceptive way to recognize HN was becoming obsessed with her - or, she knew it but didn't care. She just wanted things to continue on having her family but also the thrill of a man "in love" with her, and at some point she decided to withold the sex but still put out signals that she wanted to "be" with him in whatever kind of relationship would fit her own needs and agenda.
I am trying to figure out a scenario where she deliberately led him on in order to push him into snapping and murdering Rusty, the motive being that she would get the insurance money, HN would be arrested and she would be free of the whole deal coming out as the grieving widow. But it seems to make more sense that she just could no longer control HN and started fearing that the affair would get back to Rusty so she started backing off, HN wasn't going to give up, and he just up and decided if he could kill Rusty he could eventually win her, because, IMO although she told him she was never going to leave her husband, I don't recall her having told him that she LOVED her husband....so he felt he could eventually win her love.
But when the deed was done, she knew he did it and wanted to cover her own A$$ so she wanted that computer and lied about the affair. If she had come forward and admitted to the affair and showed remorse about that, and turned over all of the evidence of it, I don't think she would have been suspected of conspiring the murder, because I haven't seen or heard any evidence of a specific conspiracy.
Those are just my thoughts. She is indeed a despicable person and her arrogance and combativeness are disgusting. In no way does she indicate she ever loved her husband or personally cared that he died, or misses him, or anything - except to sit there and fiddle with her wedding ring while the cameras are on her. I'd like to see her father in law rip that ring off her finger.
Just my thoughts.
And can somebody PLEASE explain to me why men are attracted to these skanky, dowdy, manipulative, boring, women, all of whom seem to have arrogant egotistical personalities and voices that grate on the nerves? Thanks.