I totally understand your post. Yes, everyone close to RN has said how much she loved the children.
But we don't know how the children's mothers (specifically DS) felt about RN's relationship with the children. The LE said RN died "violently" and "bizarre". Am trying to look at all aspects and possibilities in the case. Nothing worst than a scorned women....then to have her son die in the care of her ex's live-in girlfriend. It appears that JS may have been seeing RN before his divorce from DS.
http://www.signonsandiego.com/news/2011/jul/18/death-of-shacknai-boy-sparks-investigation/
Shacknai and his former wife, Dina, leveled claims and counterclaims of physical violence and verbal abuse against each other when they were divorcing in 2008 and 2009, according to reports from the Paradise Valley Police Department. He also went to police in 2007 about a dispute with her.
In the 2009 conflict, Dina Shacknai said that he elbowed her in the right breast and cursed at her as he tried to drive a car away from the house they had shared.
Jonah Shacknai told police that he did not hit her and that Dina tried to yank his car keys out of the ignition while repeatedly yelling,
You cannot leave me!
BBM - says a lot
Now her son is gone......
Just throwing different things out.........