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Here's one you probably don't think of...but it does exist. (It probably happens in the Jewish, Islam, Hindu, etc community as well--not just at Christian churches).
I've seen a ton of bullying at churches...not just kids to kids, but also adults.
Here are some examples (names of people changed to aliases):
1. At Junior Church (a program many churches have during the services where the kids leave before the sermon and learn about Jesus through activities), "Leonardo" was constantly teased by "Raphael" because he liked to read, liked to draw, and never had a bad word for anyone. He also despised "Leonardo"'s ability to relate everything to literature he had read. "Raphael" was a third grader, "Leonardo" was a first grader who was extremely bright for his age (he was reading middle school level books already) and was also quite the sensitive child (he had a nearly absent father figure and was raised by his mother; he was also an only child). "Leonardo" stopped going to Junior Church because he felt, to use his words, "it's not how Jesus would have wanted it". Ironically, "Leonardo" and "Raphael" were together at a camp at a later date and became friends.
2. At a Sunday School class for middle schoolers, "Donatello" was put down and called a "dork" by "Michaelangelo". When the teacher had asked the class for suggestions on conduct, "Donatello" had suggested not using the Lord's name in vain and to refrain from swearing in general. "Michaelangelo" said that "only nerds go without swearing". "Donatello" argued back by saying that it was against God's Commandments. "Michaelangelo" not only continued to tease him throughout the day, he also carried it over into school (they were classmates). "Donatello" only returned to Sunday School when he was required to (for Confirmation Class), and even then had only four people he could trust there--everyone else sided with "Michaelangelo" and picked on him, especially at church. "Donatello" never went to youth group or any church events because he was afraid he'd be bullied even further.
3. At church summer camp, "Casey" came into camp as a sensitive boy who wanted to learn about Jesus and also play hockey as an elective. His mother had also hoped he'd make a few new friends--he was a relatively quiet boy. He was placed in a group led by "Splinter", a college student, and "April", a high school student. Both were extremely nice to him and would always be able to calm him down if he needed it. "Splinter" in particular was excellent, as he was quite sensitive as a child and had been in "Casey"'s shoes before. He even would take him aside when he needed someone to talk to. "Casey" was sometimes bullied by other counselors. However, the worst bullying came from the camp director, "Shredder" (an adult). "Shredder" didn't bully "Casey" directly, but did say bad things about some campers behind their backs and really came down hard on "Splinter", who she accused of not doing his job--a completely unjustified statement, as he went above and beyond (he even got letters from the parents about how good he was). "Splinter" wasn't invited back to be a counselor this year, sadly enough. "Shredder" doesn't even look at "Splinter" when he comes to church. It's really pathetic that an adult who runs a camp for kids bullies the counselors simply because they aren't the same personality type as her and because they take some time out of their schedules to help the kids who need it.
Any thoughts on this? Anything at YOUR churches?
I've seen a ton of bullying at churches...not just kids to kids, but also adults.
Here are some examples (names of people changed to aliases):
1. At Junior Church (a program many churches have during the services where the kids leave before the sermon and learn about Jesus through activities), "Leonardo" was constantly teased by "Raphael" because he liked to read, liked to draw, and never had a bad word for anyone. He also despised "Leonardo"'s ability to relate everything to literature he had read. "Raphael" was a third grader, "Leonardo" was a first grader who was extremely bright for his age (he was reading middle school level books already) and was also quite the sensitive child (he had a nearly absent father figure and was raised by his mother; he was also an only child). "Leonardo" stopped going to Junior Church because he felt, to use his words, "it's not how Jesus would have wanted it". Ironically, "Leonardo" and "Raphael" were together at a camp at a later date and became friends.
2. At a Sunday School class for middle schoolers, "Donatello" was put down and called a "dork" by "Michaelangelo". When the teacher had asked the class for suggestions on conduct, "Donatello" had suggested not using the Lord's name in vain and to refrain from swearing in general. "Michaelangelo" said that "only nerds go without swearing". "Donatello" argued back by saying that it was against God's Commandments. "Michaelangelo" not only continued to tease him throughout the day, he also carried it over into school (they were classmates). "Donatello" only returned to Sunday School when he was required to (for Confirmation Class), and even then had only four people he could trust there--everyone else sided with "Michaelangelo" and picked on him, especially at church. "Donatello" never went to youth group or any church events because he was afraid he'd be bullied even further.
3. At church summer camp, "Casey" came into camp as a sensitive boy who wanted to learn about Jesus and also play hockey as an elective. His mother had also hoped he'd make a few new friends--he was a relatively quiet boy. He was placed in a group led by "Splinter", a college student, and "April", a high school student. Both were extremely nice to him and would always be able to calm him down if he needed it. "Splinter" in particular was excellent, as he was quite sensitive as a child and had been in "Casey"'s shoes before. He even would take him aside when he needed someone to talk to. "Casey" was sometimes bullied by other counselors. However, the worst bullying came from the camp director, "Shredder" (an adult). "Shredder" didn't bully "Casey" directly, but did say bad things about some campers behind their backs and really came down hard on "Splinter", who she accused of not doing his job--a completely unjustified statement, as he went above and beyond (he even got letters from the parents about how good he was). "Splinter" wasn't invited back to be a counselor this year, sadly enough. "Shredder" doesn't even look at "Splinter" when he comes to church. It's really pathetic that an adult who runs a camp for kids bullies the counselors simply because they aren't the same personality type as her and because they take some time out of their schedules to help the kids who need it.
Any thoughts on this? Anything at YOUR churches?