There seems to be alot of conversation about what family members outside of the 4 parents of Kyron have said about their family .
Honestly you cannot control any family member that speaks to the press. Not all members of familys have all info correct, nor do they always tell it correctly.
Some family members like to exaggerate, embellish etc.
You cannot hold Terri, Kaine, Desiree or Tony accountable for what anyone else says about their family.
Im sure there are members of my family that don't know a whole lot about how me and my husband got together. Im sure it is the same with many people.
Also, at the time that Terri's mother was interivewed, I believe it was still thought to be at least possible that Kyron was merely "lost"? I doubt that she would have given this same interview once her daughter had been singled out to this degree. She could not have imagined what would come out, or that she was even giving information that would turn out to be untrue.
Just my opinion, of course.
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I don't think that people are very likely to mistakenly suppose that their relatives got together because the man had a child whose ill mother's friend moved in to take care of that child in a purely platonic manner unless someone has deliberately directed their thoughts to that direction. The story is so detailed that it has to come from somewhere. But of course the original source doesn't have to be Terri or Kaine, it could have been anyone with a motive to conceal how the relationship started (who?)
Have you noticed how the blended family article sticks to Terri? It tells us everything about Terri except the number of fillings in her teeth but next to nothing about any other members of Kyron’s blended family. It could be retitled as “Terri Horman’s life and experiences” and nobody would notice the difference.
To recap the blended family article:
Terri standing with Desiree at a presser, Terri and Desiree have not spoken in public, Terri is the last to see Kyron, Terri is the first to report missing, Terri cared for him for years, Desiree went to Canada, Terri became Kyron’s caretaker, Desiree and Kaine married, got pregnant, divorced, Kyron was born, Desiree was ill, Kyron moved in with dad, Terri moved in, Terri is Desiree’s friend, Terri brought her son, Desiree came back in the USA with bills, has new husband and close relationship with Kyron. Terri and Kaine’s relationship blossoms, Terri and Kaine got married, looking buff in their bathing suits on Hawaii, Terri posts happy photo on FB, Terri gets a candy red apple Mustang for Mother’s day, Terri writes on FB about it, Terri has a vanity plate, hair and nickname. Terri and Kaine get a girl. Kaine’s family has names starting with K. Terri and Kaine’s family play boardgames, go bowling and have been to Disneyworld, the Roloff farm and the zoo. Terri volunteers at school and takes kids swimming. Swimming teacher has no idea Terri is stepmom. Terri was born March 14, 1970, grew up in Roseburg, the daughter of two teachers, Carol and Larry Moulton, graduated from Roseburg High School in 1988, met first husband in Umpqua Community College, married in 1991, got a child Jan. 26, 1994, divorced in 1995, didn’t get child support in 1996-98 and tangled in court 1999, remarried 1996. Terri’s new hubby adopts and pays child support 500$ a month. Terri gets a bachelor’s degree, moves to Beaverton, separates in 2001, and divorces again in 2002. Terri looked for work, was a substitute teacher in Hillsboro, Eastwood, Mooberry and Lenox elementaries. Moves in with Kaine, stops teaching 2003-2006 to be with Kyron, earns a master’s in education 2004 from Pacific University, dreams of being superintendent of school district, likes WOW, does bodybuilding, placed fourth in a competition. Terri drives drunk, Terri is attentive mom and gifted teacher who would not hurt a child, posts lots of daughter photos on FB and sends them to her ex. Terri’s son moves in with grandparents. Kyron’s parents have cordial relationship. Terri’s mom comforts Terri and Kaine. Kaine’s dad says it’s devastating to lose a child.
Do you see a pattern? The article drops some names in Kaine’s family history but there are no details about them. The article very briefly mentions that Desiree is married to a Medford police detective but doesn’t say the date of their marriage or anything. They report, however, that Terri and Kaine were married in Kauai looking buff, and we know what Terri got for Mother’s day. We don’t hear what Desiree or Tony’s educational history or career ambitions are, no idea what their nicknames are, what kind of cars they drive or what they do on the internet, what their hobbies are, nor do we hear anything about their extended family. We know the exact birthdays of Terri’s other children but the article doesn’t even say if Desiree and Tony have other children although they’re very much part of Kyron’s blended family. We know that Terri plays World of Warcraft, we know what her licence plate says and we know when she went to the zoo with her family. We know Terri’s exact birthday and what her parents do but there is no mention about Desiree’s parents, if they’re even alive. We know which high school Terri graduated from and which elementary schools she used to work at several years ago but the article makes no mention about what Desiree does for a living. We know when Terri was in court with her first ex years before Kyron’s birth but we don’t know when her mom married his stepfather. We know how much child support she’s been getting monthly but have no idea about Desiree and Tony’s finances beyond her medical bills from 2004.
Some of it may be reported simply because the reporter had access to Terri’s facebook and not that of Desiree’s but the article is clearly focused on Terri, like it’s a celebrity featurette, or a suspect profile.
Wonder what the reporter really thought of her? It’s written quite nicely and they say nice things about her, but the exclusive focus on her despite the title makes me wonder.
Kaine's brother's ex seems to have been pretty far from the truth as she says that Terri was Desiree's friend when she moved in, not Kaine's although apparently the women hadn't even spoken with each other at that point and Terri and Kaine had been together for more than a year. It's a mystery to me how that kind of error can be a result of an accident rather than deliberate.
I suppose we view it differently. IMO a person who in good faith repeats a false story that he's been told because he believes it is not to blame for the lie as much as the person who told it to him to begin with, knowing it was a crock.Of course you have to also take into consideration how each one views it as well. In the end everyone is accountable for only what they say anyways, not what someone else says they said.
Of course it may all have been completely innocent in the beginning. I bet most of us have got relatives and acquaintances that we wouldn't like to know all of our secrets because we fear their anger, judgment or gossiping etc. and many might choose to tell half-truths or white lies to keep the peace. Nothing wrong with that necessarily, it's just hard to control later if something unexpected happens to make you interesting to media.
In the presser yesterday, Desiree said she did not even speak to Terri until Kyron was almost 2 years old. So they weren't friends?
So where did Terri come from?
It's beginning to look like Kaine began dating Terri before he got divorced. That does not automatically mean he CHEATED on Desiree. But he might have. So you have to ask: Did Desiree file for divorce from Kaine BECAUSE of Terri? We may never know the answer to that question, but it sure would explain A LOT.
This could be why Kaine seems so "suspicious" in his behavior to the media. IF it's true that Terri was the other woman, he probably does not want that info leaking out. It would be a serious blow to the sympathies of the public. Could you imagine the headlines? "Stepmom was Kaine's mistress!" That would seriously detract the attention away from finding Kyron and aim it squarely at Kaine.
I'm going to guess here.... I bet that's the story that Kaine and/or Terri told her. Was it true? According to Desiree, no - it's not true, they were not friends. I think the ex was only recanting the version told to her. I don't think she intentionally got it "wrong."Kaine's brother's ex seems to have been pretty far from the truth as she says that Terri was Desiree's friend when she moved in, not Kaine's although apparently the women hadn't even spoken with each other at that point and Terri and Kaine had been together for more than a year. It's a mystery to me how that kind of error can be a result of an accident rather than deliberate.
I was surprised to read that Tony was taking Kyron for that weekend to go fishing. If Medford is 4+ hours away...How do they accomplish this child trade-off?
...Past behavior predicts future behavior...
If it's a 4 hour drive between Portland & Medford...
Was there a midway pickup/drop off point? That would be Eugene, Oregon.
When had Tony arrived?
...Past behavior predicts future behavior...
"What does Kyron’s room look like now? Have you made any changes to it since he disappeared?
Desiree – I haven’t made any changes to his room other than to vacuum it. I still have his laundry laid out and his bed not made because I can’t bring myself to make his bed. I like to see that it looks slept in."
This bothers me for some reason. Do we know the last time Desiree had Kyron prior to his disappearance?
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I found it interesting that Terri was the person who was called Desiree to let her know about Kyron't disappearnce; that Terri was supposed to drive and and off to Desiree that day. And that Desiree suspected Terri immediately of being involved in Kyron't disappearance--and said so!
Yet Desiree says the blended family was "working." Personally, I would be hanging with my 19 month-olde while my husband dropped off his son with his mother, were I in this situation.
Kaine and Desiree look close at this time, but it seems Terri was carrying the ball as far as communication between the family and Desiree up until now. Not a good situation for Kyron.
When I was younger my step-mom and bio mom did NOT get along for anything! Nor did my bio parents for that matter. My step mom loved to be in the car when my dad picked up or dropped us off. She loved to show face at sporting events, school events, and even major milestones. It was her way of constantly being in my mom's face. She never talked to my mom, but they definetly shot ugly glances at one another every chance they got.
You get the vibe from interviews that Desiree was not Terri's biggest fan, so maybe Terri dropped Kyron off to Desiree each visitation as a "hey remember me" rub in her face. JMO
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Being as that KH is in the IT field, it is possible that his work schedule did not always accommodate him leaving early on Fridays to take Kyron to meet DY. IT hours can be crazy at times. Maybe he saved the times that he got off early for when Kyron had something special going on, like was the case on that day. Also, it seems that since TMH appeared to be very involved in Kyron's activities, it was easier for her to communicate with DY. It may not necessarily have been a negative thing for her to be the primary communicator and transporter, at least from my experience.
Well, they do have a school secretary or other employee who has fingers and phones. But when an elementary school student is marked absent and his/her parents don't call in, they don't think, gee, hope little Gladys is okay, I better call her house just to make sure nothing has happened. That is the way that every school system I've been involved with operates. It could't have been more than a few minutes worth of work each day, if that. Most parents are conscientious about calling their kids in, and in a small school, how many absences can there be? And what occupies a school employee that is more important than accounting for the safety of their students- filling out forms?
But when the system realizes Kyron is missing, they immediately call a parent who lives four hours away. CYA, anyone?
If the blended family situation was working, it seems to me that it was entirely Desiree's doing, by choosing not to take the bait or allow conflict to escalate.
If Kyron was indeed supposed to go to DY's for the weekend, what seems strange to me is not who was taking him, but that KH, TMH & Kyron would go for ice cream after he got off the bus at 3:30, instead of getting on the road to take Kyron to meet DY at least 2 hours away that would not put him to DY's house until 8 or 9pm.
Does it make more sense for TMH to stay home with Baby K? Possibly, but there have been a couple of times where both DH and I have taken our younger children to return my step-daughter to her mother's for no other reason than we enjoy the drive and spending time with each other.
Supposing anyone of them didn't know that Kyron would be missing and no one would have to drive him anywhere when they made their plans, it could have been just that TH used to be home with the baby all day every day and it was a welcome change in the routine to drive Kyron.