stmarysmead
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I was thinking about this yesterday and suddenly a partial explanation came to me. Try this the next time you are in church, in a workplace, at a PTO meeting...anywhere where there are a lot of people you at least KNOW BY SIGHT...if not as friends.
What do you notice?
Not what looks right, what looks like you always see it.
You notice what looks different.
A family in a pew who has an additional child with them; a person standing by the water cooler you have never seen before; a man sitting at a restaurant table with a woman you know is not his wife. Someone you've never seen before in a place where you visit often and know pretty much everyone by sight.
The things that are "off"...we remember. The things that "fit"...no reson to retain.
In any place we visit that has a regular "population", I think our minds "store" certain faces and combination of faces. This is why we can tell a family in church has brought an additional child...we may not KNOW them...but we see them as a "set."
This is another reason I have trouble accepting a stranger abduction. Kyron walking with his Stepmom anywhere that day...would NOT be memorable. They would just fade into a sea of "what we expect to see."
But Kyron ANYWHERE that day...with someone else's Dad or a stranger...I think at least some people would have registered ..."HMMM...That's different." and remembered.
We remember what seems "off" or different even when benign. When everything is as it should be...there is nothing to recall.
Just a point to ponder....
What do you notice?
Not what looks right, what looks like you always see it.
You notice what looks different.
A family in a pew who has an additional child with them; a person standing by the water cooler you have never seen before; a man sitting at a restaurant table with a woman you know is not his wife. Someone you've never seen before in a place where you visit often and know pretty much everyone by sight.
The things that are "off"...we remember. The things that "fit"...no reson to retain.
In any place we visit that has a regular "population", I think our minds "store" certain faces and combination of faces. This is why we can tell a family in church has brought an additional child...we may not KNOW them...but we see them as a "set."
This is another reason I have trouble accepting a stranger abduction. Kyron walking with his Stepmom anywhere that day...would NOT be memorable. They would just fade into a sea of "what we expect to see."
But Kyron ANYWHERE that day...with someone else's Dad or a stranger...I think at least some people would have registered ..."HMMM...That's different." and remembered.
We remember what seems "off" or different even when benign. When everything is as it should be...there is nothing to recall.
Just a point to ponder....