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    Why did Kaine and Terri avoid the media.?

    I have been bothered by this video, especially where is shows BOTH Terri and Kaine leaving the gym after Kyrons disappearance.. Why did they avoid the media...?? This video was taken before the first press conference.....
    http://www.katu.com/news/local/96033344.html?tab=video
    Last edited by froginTtown; 08-24-2010 at 06:59 AM.
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    If that were me... I would have said..."Give me an hour to clean up, and meet me at my house..""
    .. Please help Kyron come home!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by froginTtown View Post
    I have been bothered by this video, especially where is shows BOTH Terri and Kaine leaving the gym after Kyrons disappearance.. Why did they avoid the media...?? This video was taken before the first press conference.....
    http://www.katu.com/news/local/96033344.html?tab=video
    I think Kaine had decided (with or without the help of LE/Tony) to avoid the media completely. I think he made it clear to those around him that that's what he wanted/expected. We have the email to Intel and other quotes saying he wanted people to avoid the press, and we have his own actions to back that up. (trying to control certain papers and what they printed, etc.)

    Honestly, I think he expected/hoped for this to be cleared up very quickly. In all likelihood, everyone truly expected Kyron to be lost behind the school and found shortly after. (like Nadia).

    Whether he has followed another case, like Caylee or another high profile missing persons case, he might have been determined not to be fodder for the press, and he treated them like bears at a campsite - if you feed them once they'll never leave you alone!

    I think they only came out in the press when they did once it became apparent that this wasn't going to be over quickly and they may have missed some crucial time and witnesses by being silent. I'm sure there is a lot of second guessing himself, guilt, and "what ifs" right now, but I think he did the best he could with the advice he was given.

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    Yeah, that bothered me as well. Why would they act so...odd?

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    The video won't load for me but I wondered about their silence more in the beginning than I do now, having found out that the family suspected Terri from early on.

    Terri said in her email that she was going to her fifth interview on Saturday and already thought she was being blamed so IMO it's very likely that she had caught on that LE had some doubts about her story by this time. It could be a factor in her avoiding talking to the media, whether or not she did it. She might have been afraid of saying something that helped people to realize that she was a suspect and judge her, fairly or unfairly.

    I'm not exactly sure when Kaine began to suspect Terri but I think he may have had some doubts by this time as well. DY and TY said they were suspicious very early. Maybe LE or Terri said something to him that let him see LE thought Terri as a suspect.

    In such a case he might not have wanted to have the media clued in to the Terri as a suspect scenario because he was not sure himself yet and didn't want the strain on Terri, because he wasn't ready to have them all over his family's business just yet and/or because he felt it would distract from the active search for Kyron that was still going on if people concluded that the stepmom did it, end of story. Etcetera.

    The initial caution is understandable IMO taking all the conflicts of interest into account. It would have been a walk on the eggshells situation and this was a surprise attack. Even the talking family members have chosen mostly to talk only in a controlled environment in scheduled pressers, with prepared statements and agreed-upon questions.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Donjeta View Post
    The video won't load for me but I wondered about their silence more in the beginning than I do now, having found out that the family suspected Terri from early on.

    Terri said in her email that she was going to her fifth interview on Saturday and already thought she was being blamed so IMO it's very likely that she had caught on that LE had some doubts about her story by this time. It could be a factor in her avoiding talking to the media, whether or not she did it. She might have been afraid of saying something that helped people to realize that she was a suspect and judge her, fairly or unfairly.

    I'm not exactly sure when Kaine began to suspect Terri but I think he may have had some doubts by this time as well. DY and TY said they were suspicious very early. Maybe LE or Terri said something to him that let him see LE thought Terri as a suspect.

    In such a case he might not have wanted to have the media clued in to the Terri as a suspect scenario because he was not sure himself yet and didn't want the strain on Terri, because he wasn't ready to have them all over his family's business just yet and/or because he felt it would distract from the active search for Kyron that was still going on if people concluded that the stepmom did it, end of story. Etcetera.

    The initial caution is understandable IMO taking all the conflicts of interest into account. It would have been a walk on the eggshells situation and this was a surprise attack. Even the talking family members have chosen mostly to talk only in a controlled environment in scheduled pressers, with prepared statements and agreed-upon questions.
    Thank you for this great post!

    I remember the way Kaine seemed to "shelter" Terri in his arms in that first press conference...and the way she nestled into him. My feeling is that Kaine was very protective of Terri in the beginning. Knowing that she was "step-mother" and possibly the last person with Kyron, coupled with her emails about being suspected on the Blogs, makes me think he was thinking of "sheltering" her from any speculation, any hurtful comments as well.

    Exercising with her, keeping her away from hurtful media questions, asking people not to speak...Terri was moved from "last person with Kyron" into a cocoon of his protection. At least as it was in his power to do so.

    I think his faith in her was strong. This is why I believe there is something MORE than just the Landscapers sordid story. I believe the police HAD to have something else, because I don't think Kaine, the engineer, the data-guy, would just "buy-in" to a story from some random guy...against the wife that he encircled in his arms, that he COMFORTED in that first press conference.

    At the least, they had something like sexually explicit "texts"...something that threw Kaine's trust into a tail-spin. Something that turned his complete faith in Terri's innocence(and her commitment to their marriage) into a "could-be." Something that sent him out of that house with Little Baby K and immediately out of that marriage.

    Whatever that "something" is...Terri lost her protector and her child. And it is so potent she fights to regain..NEITHER.

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    At that point Kaine had no idea just how surreal this was going to be. All the accusations against Terri had not come out, yet. I think he truly believed Kyron would be back home in a very short time so there was no need to talk to the media. At that time reality had not set in but it has now.

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    All four parents strictly avoided the media for the first few weeks. In the very first LE presser on June 5, Captain Gates says the 'family would appreciate if you'd respect their privacy at this time'.

    I can fully understand how, after such a huge emotional punch in the gut, some family members of missing children need some time to get their heads together before they can even think of talking to the press.

    Personally, I'd be a raving lunatic. On camera would not be a good place for me to be. I would not be able to present my child's situation and what I needed from the public effectively or intelligently. I'd just scream. "JESUS GOD FIND MY BABY!!! FIND HIM!!".

    I know this from the 10 minutes my son went missing when he was a child. I clearly remember grabbing my friend's arms, leaning up into her face, and screaming that right into her face. I remember the look on her face. She was crying. I'm not sure if it was because she was worried about my son, or because she was scared to death of me.

    My . I need coffee.

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    Yup...That was me too...

    I was in a "mega" store when both of my children came up missing... They were 4 and 5 at the time, now 23 and 24.. I turned around and they were GONE...we looked for about 5 min.. I was frantic...pale and weak in the knees... very dizzy too... My sister was with me and we were both scared to death..Thank God she had her wits about her and told security right away... I was searching and telling EVERYONE through out the store... Again, within 5 minutes security was out in the parking lot and secured the doors... It took all of us over 30 minutes to find my kids....

    We found them in the middle of a circular clothing rack. Trying to be as quiet as they could... right where I lost them...

    Point is... I was desperate... and I got the word out quick... If my child went missing... I would do it all over again... I would put the word out... I would carry a pic with me. I would contact the media myself.. If the media began to do me wrong, then I would stop talking to them... but that's just me...

    p.s. I remind them here and there about it...lol
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    What is odd to me, more so then the parents not speaking out, is that they went to the gym for a work-out!

    It appears that they were at the gym on Wednesday, June 9, 2010, based on when the article was written and corresponds with the video.
    http://www.katu.com/news/local/96033344.html?


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    Perhaps they were asked by the FBI and LE not to speak to the media.
    The world is full of monsters with friendly faces and angels full of scars. ~ Unknown

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    The difference between fiction and reality? Fiction has to make sense.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Patty G View Post
    What is odd to me, more so then the parents not speaking out, is that they went to the gym for a work-out!

    It appears that they were at the gym on Wednesday, June 9, 2010, based on when the article was written and corresponds with the video.
    http://www.katu.com/news/local/96033344.html?
    I guess I don't fault either Terri or Kaine for this or even find it strange.

    On Sept 11, 2001...my daughter started a new job in NYC. I knew a lot about this job's 401K, my daughter's work hours, vacation time. But I did not know the address.

    I was talking to a friend on the phone when I got the Caller ID buzz. Switching over I heard another friend say..."My God, they are attacking New York City."

    I hung up on both of them. Tried to call my daughter's cell, but that was impossible at that point in time. For the life of me, I could not remember the Employers name, nor could my husband. I could not find that address.

    I watched the TV until the first tower collapsed. I don't have the words for the state I was in...or the absolute blank my mind was. Nothing that could help me find my daughter would come to me...only thoughts of horror.

    So...I cleaned my closet.

    I hauled everything out...then back in again. The physicality of it somehow helped me...burned off a tiny iota of anxiety. I cleaned and cleaned and cleaned.

    Let me say, I am no neat freak.

    What loving mother cleans closets while the TV is showing real people jumping to their deaths from skyscrapers and she does not know where in that horror is her child?

    Me.

    I was lucky. By noon, she had found a way to call. She was safe. By the grace of God she remained safe...through Anthrax attacks, and all the fear of subway and tunnel attacks speculated upon in the months that followed. Alone, in my home, my frenetic cleaning continued.

    I can relate to Terri and Kaine's visit to the gym. I can understand the desperate need for physical movement and just the off chance of a moment or two... for your terrified mind to find distraction.

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    If the press were following me around like paparazzi, I'd ignore them too. Though if they asked me formally to sit for an interview/statement and my child were missing I probably would. In normal circumstances I avoid all news cameras--I don't photograph well.
    Where's Kyron?

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    Quote Originally Posted by stmarysmead View Post
    Thank you for this great post!

    I remember the way Kaine seemed to "shelter" Terri in his arms in that first press conference...and the way she nestled into him. My feeling is that Kaine was very protective of Terri in the beginning. Knowing that she was "step-mother" and possibly the last person with Kyron, coupled with her emails about being suspected on the Blogs, makes me think he was thinking of "sheltering" her from any speculation, any hurtful comments as well.

    Exercising with her, keeping her away from hurtful media questions, asking people not to speak...Terri was moved from "last person with Kyron" into a cocoon of his protection. At least as it was in his power to do so.

    I think his faith in her was strong. This is why I believe there is something MORE than just the Landscapers sordid story. I believe the police HAD to have something else, because I don't think Kaine, the engineer, the data-guy, would just "buy-in" to a story from some random guy...against the wife that he encircled in his arms, that he COMFORTED in that first press conference.

    At the least, they had something like sexually explicit "texts"...something that threw Kaine's trust into a tail-spin. Something that turned his complete faith in Terri's innocence(and her commitment to their marriage) into a "could-be." Something that sent him out of that house with Little Baby K and immediately out of that marriage.

    Whatever that "something" is...Terri lost her protector and her child. And it is so potent she fights to regain..NEITHER.
    Thanks wasn't enough. I think you are spot on!

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    I agree with the impression that it was protective in the beginning. Terri was already being grilled as if she were a suspect. She was the last person seen with Kyron. Kaine wants to believe the best (in the early days he must have clung to the thought that Kyron wandered away and would be found) and to admit that Terri was suspicious or guilty would be tantamount to admitting Kyron was gone forever. Seeing Terri subjected to however many interrogations by LE, and then seeing the press swoop in, he might have instinctively protected her from any more of it.

    But more than that, being the focus of TV media is yet another nightmare - we've all seen the news and no one I know would ever, ever want to be treated the way most of us see folks treated by the media. Were I an emotional basket case to start with, I don't know that I could face someone with a huge mic and the desire to get a 5 second blip of my rawest emotions or a freeze-frame of me mid-blink in a way that made me look sneaky and evil, turn my child's name into a logo to put at the bottom of their news story, twist every word and speculate that anything from my socks to my hair color might be a clue to my guilt...

    yeah, I think even though I would KNOW that my child's name and face had to get out there into the public and that it was the best way to potentially find them, my instinct would be to avoid that further violation of my life by the media for as long as possible.

    In Sharon Rocha's book about Laci I remember she was desperate to find Laci but unable to put herself forward to the media in her emotional state. Just couldn't do it. And there was no DOUBT that she wanted Laci found and knew putting her face in the media would facilitate that. So other family members did it half-heartedly for a while before Sharon girded herself and finally became the spokesperson. It was wrenching for her.

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