Point taken, but when it was exposed, people talked. I'm very sure that Deb and Jeremys lives have been gone through with a fine tooth comb, they have been analyzed and studied and investigated as parents. Jim Spellman won't name names if they aren't involved, neighbours could have spilled their guts to him, but no one had anything bad to say. I can't imagine that the FBI and local LE would not be concerned about these boys and have childrens services involved if they thought there was any neglect or abuse. I haven't seen anything that would lead me to believe Deb drank on a constant basis and didn't take care of her children.
If Deb had put the children to bed and gone to bed at the same time, she wouldn't have been able to check on them in her sleep.
Praying for our lost babies ~ Come home Lisa!!
This is to say, whichever place the Judge deems is the best place or the best interest for the child. The Judge will have more facts than what we do.
JMO. If a person has to take medication that alters their ability to be the responsible caregiver to children then other arrangements need to be made in order to assure the safety and well being of the children. Just like driving under the influence, which can mean any substance that alters the mind. If one can not operate a moving vehicle then that person should not be the sole person responsible for children and an infant and just because many other people do it does not make it right.
Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy jewelry and lingerie. Don't save it for a special occasion, Every Day Is Special.
In My Humble Opinion and I Reserve
The Right To Change It As Often As Neccessary.
Far from the same really, in that Sky's older sister has been removed from the mothers home and placed in foster care. CPS felt the need to step in in that case but not in DB/JI's case. They also did not place the child with her father because he has not seen her in almost a year and there were accusations of abuse. Not to mention both of Sky's parents had left him alone on at least one previous occasion.
This is going to get interesting. In other cases where we've had this occur or where there were civil matters that needed to be addressed in court while a criminal investigation was going on---those cases got very interesting as far as who went to court, what was asked in court, how it was asked...all that kind of stuff.
(I said criminal because anyway you look at it its' a criminal investigation kidnapping/filicide/accidental death with improper disposal of human remains---etc.).
I have no clue who this child belongs with but I trust that a Judge is the best person to look at the big picture and do what is best for this young boy.
I get it, she messed up. Shouldn't had gotten drunk. Maybe she didn't mean to. If her story really is true, I'm surprised she's not on suicide watch based on the guilt alone. But it's one instance. We don't know any other instances (yet). That's what I was talking about with 'trends'.
Yesterday is not Now: In response to your post:
BBM1 = for a reason: the reason could have been misrepresented in the court of law.
BBM2 = maybe she hasn't made any attempt to see him? She had the right to and could have ensured that she did: Do you have a link that she did not try to acaquire visitation?
BBM3 = under investigation? Link??? We all know that Deborah Bradlee is somewhat under investigation -- don't we -- no link needed.
BBM4 = some judge, at some point handed down that justice -- yes judges too make wrong decisons as it is human nature.
I stand firm in my decision to look at other options for the welfare of this boy during this difficult time of his life
Okay as I said before he is living with his his father with his father's girlfirend that had a baby girl together who is now missing. NOW how in the world can you say that he is in the best care whether it be in his home or in another family home?
It's presumptuous to act as if one knows how DB acted on any given day. What I know from my experience is that most mothers don't over drink when their babies are whinny, teething and have a cold! They don't maybe even black out when their sick babies are in bed....like DB did only to wake up to find a 'baby missing'.
DB's husband should NOT have to work 2 jobs and come home to contend with 3 children and drinking wife. just saying......... 1960-2011--a drinking mom is a drinking mom. moo
Praying for our lost babies ~ Come home Lisa!!
I'm sure, since he is such a good father, that he will be certain to utilize every visitation he is awarded.
So there should be no "ripping away" involved.
I don't know why the mom has not exercised her visitation, but I do know for sure why SOME parents don't because I worked in social services once upon a time. Some people are threatened, I know of an attempt on one persons life, and I know of apparent hiring a hit on the other parent. I'm not saying this mother was threatened, but we really don't know the details. Sometimes one parent exerts extreme alienation of affection and it disturbs the child so much the other parent backs off for the child's sanity. there are many reasons. Then again, it could be she had addiction problems back then. No one knows.
For sure, WHATEVER happened in the past should not prevent a good reassessment of what is in this child's best interests NOW. Any argument against that, IMO, is merely a flashing neon sign of each individual's personal projection based on their OWN life experience. It has no bearing here.
There are THREE sides to every story, 1. Yours 2. Mine and finally number 3. THE TRUTH
So is it fact that emergency custody papers were filed or not?
If she HAD put these children to bed at 6:30 and gone to sleep, that would be a long time to leave them unattended to, but at least she would know where they were when she left them. But my understanding is she never "put them to bed" at all, they simply fended for themselves on this school night, and the baby was sick. I personally cannot imagine not checking on a sick baby for that length of time. I would do it even if i were drunk. But then, I care. Even when drunk.