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    Mom Forces Unusual Punishment On Criminal Teen Son

    http://www.local12.com/mostpopular/s...dbIxu5wFQ.cspx

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    A mom in Indiana says she's at her wit's end with her son's behavior. After he had several run-ins with police, she took matters into her own hands... and came up with a pretty unusual punishment.

    "Actually the sign is hanging around my son's neck is because my son constantly chooses to keep breaking the law.
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    The teen's sign clearly states he doesn't follow the law, but apparently some drivers passing by didn't think his mom was either...and called police. Officers say Lax is completely within her rights to make her son stand on the side of the street. It's unconventional, but not illegal.

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    Maybe getting him psychogical help would be a better option than having him stand by the road with a sign around his neck? After school activities? Sports? Volunteer work? Part time job?

    I wish her luck. He's only 14 and already has issues with the law.

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    An old saying is to not do the crime if you can't do the time. Well a kid has to be responsible for crime twice, if his/her parents care about him. They have to be responsible to the court and they have to be responsible to the parent. She is making him responsible for his actions. He wants attention, he wants to be seen as 'bad' she is giving him a venue to do that. Maybe it is unusual. But at least she is trying to do something! I do feel for her when she says the state is quick to assess a fine, but won't help her to fix her son. She sounds like she is at the end of her rope.
    Just when I think that I have seen the most depraved things a human can do to another human, somebody posts a new story...........

    Why is it that when a custodial parent fails to provide for a child it is called neglect and is a criminal matter. But when a non custodial parent fails to provide it is called failure to support and is a civil matter?


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    Quote Originally Posted by mysteriew View Post
    An old saying is to not do the crime if you can't do the time. Well a kid has to be responsible for crime twice, if his/her parents care about him. They have to be responsible to the court and they have to be responsible to the parent. She is making him responsible for his actions. He wants attention, he wants to be seen as 'bad' she is giving him a venue to do that. Maybe it is unusual. But at least she is trying to do something! I do feel for her when she says the state is quick to assess a fine, but won't help her to fix her son. She sounds like she is at the end of her rope.
    Isn't this just feeding his problem? It's like putting a bandaid on a open wound. It'll feel better but it won't heal it.

    I feel for her also. Very much so. Not sure wearing a sign is the answer though.

    Maybe someone who sees her desperation will offer to help her son.

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    The article did say the boy has been in community service and on probation, so some services have been offered....but apparently were not enough to keep him from committing crimes....

    I think the mother is wanting to get through to him before he does something to end up in adult court or gets hurt himself.

    Mental health services are very limited today in most places unless his counselors or the court referred him..

    We don't know what else she has tried before getting to this point...she may have tried to get him interested in sports or other activities and he rejected them.

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    it might just embarrass him enough to work

    didn't a mother try this just awhile back? I could swear I've read this exact same story before

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    I empathize with the mother, but this is just not the thing to do. It's one of those almost-certain-to-backfire techniques one might see someday in a Power Point presentation called "How to Turn Your Child's Difficulties with the Law into Something More Horrible Still."

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    This isn't unusual.

    Some drunk drivers have to wear signs while they are cleaning the highways for their community service. It's the same thing.

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    I say it's her child. She knows him better than anybody else.
    She has the right.
    I see nothing wrong with it.

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    I hope it works, he's awfully young to be in trouble. Hopefully it's a wake up call and he realizes that his mother means business and is very worried about him. that he truly can't go on this way.

    But I could see it having a negative effect too if he thinks his family has written him off as a good-for-nothing. An angry, humiliated rebellious teen could run away or do something stupid just to spite mom.


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    I have no idea what I would do in her situation, but I commend her for trying to do something. In my neighborhood most of the hood rats have parents that don't seem to care at all, and have even at times claimed that a child wasn't theirs or they didn't know the child to avoid the responsibility of answering for something he just perpetrated (I chased him home after catching him vandalizing). I'm sick of it, and I'm sick of the adults that are the product of this type of negligence. Hmm, I don't usually sound so callous, I must really be in a mood today.

    ETA: I also remember reading this exact same story not too long ago. I wonder if there were ever any updates to the prior case, it would be interesting to know whether that original child continued to disobey the law.
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    Not the best use of his time, imo. She could have him volunteering alongside her at substance abuse clinics, or addicted baby cuddling, or outreach programs to victims of theft who are left in need. If the focus is on him, he should be learning something. moo

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    From the mother....

    http://abcnews.go.com/blogs/headline...-i-steal-sign/


    An Indiana mom has been criticized nationally for making her 14-year-old son wear a sign proclaiming, I lie, I steal, I sell drug, I dont follow the law. But the woman, Dynesha Lax, said she resents the accusations that she is a bad mother.

    Ive done therapy with my son. Ive done positive reinforcement. Ive done negative reinforcement. Ive done mommy-and-me days. Ive even called the police on him, Lax said. But everything seems to be taken lightly. Nobody is taking seriously that these are serious offenses.

    She said he has been acting up since a young age and that while none of her responses have worked, she refused to give up. Hes already lying, stealing, trying to sell drugs. Weve got three-and-a-half years until I dont have control anymore, Lax said. Im not going to let the streets have my son.

    More at link with video...

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    I say good on her! The legal system means have done nothing so far. Maybe some good old-fashioned embarrassment will make him think twice before he commits another crime. Today's embarrassment at wearing that sign is far less than future embarrassment at trudging along in orange prison garb and shackles for all the world to see.

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    I do wonder if she has tried (when he was younger at least) to get him enrolled in a big brother program. Maybe some type of male mentoring would be something that could make a difference.
    Just when I think that I have seen the most depraved things a human can do to another human, somebody posts a new story...........

    Why is it that when a custodial parent fails to provide for a child it is called neglect and is a criminal matter. But when a non custodial parent fails to provide it is called failure to support and is a civil matter?


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