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    I recall feeling panic when leaving home without my makeup (for touchups). Too much worry about appearances, in this wonderful American society.

    After wearing only lipstick...I felt insecure without it, and even would go back home to get it, if I forgot it...

    Obviously, there was pressure to "look good". I'd much rather feel good than look good.

    It's time to burn all the lipsticks that were used up to the point of not being able to get to the rest of the product (another rant), without a special brush to get down in there. KWIM?


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    Quote Originally Posted by ClaireNC View Post
    I am so happy to see this thread, it gives a voice to what I have been thinking. I am in my early 50's and just recently was laid off from a big corporate job that I had for almost 30 years. When I got over the initial shock of being told I was redundant, one of the first thoughts that popped into to my mind, "thank goodness, I can now stop coloring my hair." Since I was one of the older people in the office, I felt it was necessary to cover the gray.
    I'm sorry to hear about you being laid off.

    I think coloring/doing whatever to hair is fine (and makeup, etc.)...for whatever reasons...except for feeling pressured by society.

    This thread has opened up a few important topics.


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    I'm a natural blonde, though it's darkened as I got older. The blondes in our family go white, but I'm not coloring mine. Haven't for years. So glad to see this article, because my mother tells me I need to color it. (or cut it because it is too long, but I want a gray granny bun someday like my great grandmother born in the late 1800's had.)

    I point out my white hairs and ask my parents if THEY feel old. hee hee.
    I call them stress highlights and I have earned every one!
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    Quote Originally Posted by Cubby View Post
    I'm a natural blonde, though it's darkened as I got older. The blondes in our family go white, but I'm not coloring mine. Haven't for years. So glad to see this article, because my mother tells me I need to color it. (or cut it because it is too long, but I want a gray granny bun someday like my great grandmother born in the late 1800's had.)

    I point out my white hairs and ask my parents if THEY feel old. hee hee.
    I call them stress highlights and I have earned every one!
    BBM Do we have the same mother? I know my mother will tell me I need to color it and cut it off. My hair is dark blond, curly and a little pass my shoulders. I am planning to go for the aging hippy girl look with it natural color and parted in the middle, with no styling required.

    As for makeup, I only wear it when we go out someplace special.
    Please be aware that what I type is my opinion.


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    Quote Originally Posted by ClaireNC View Post
    BBM Do we have the same mother? I know my mother will tell me I need to color it and cut it off. My hair is dark blond, curly and a little pass my shoulders. I am planning to go for the aging hippy girl look with it natural color and parted in the middle, with no styling required.

    As for makeup, I only wear it when we go out someplace special.
    That's a great look, IMO.

    EmmyLou Harris and Nancy Griffith.

    I truly believe that we women (and men) need to accept ourselves, as we are...with "tweaks" if it makes us feel better about ourselves.


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    My hair is all one length and long enough to pull back with a ponytail holder or large "jaws" clip. I usually wear it down when I leave the house, but, hey, if I haven't had time to shampoo, blowdry, hot curlers, or curling brush, I can just pull it back, and I'm good-to-go


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    When I was in my late twenties and early thirties, I absolutely loved the silver streaks that were already framing my face. Back then, any flack I received about my natural hair color, almost always came from other women, or a hair stylist urging me to cover my natural color. Males often used my silver locks as a conversation opener.

    Close to a few decades later, I allowed my virgin hair to be colored for the first time. It took me 16 months to return my locks to their natural beautiful color.

    As with any hair color, a fabulous cut and care is a must. Choosing to go grey should no longer be associated with "letting-yourself-go."

    I don't judge other women who choose to hide their greys...they can color into their 90's. But for me, my natural locks have always contributed to my feelings of boldness and confidence.


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    Thanks ladies, I am now convinced that letting my hair go out gray is the right thing to do. Another form of liberation, after conforming to the corporate world for so long
    Please be aware that what I type is my opinion.


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    My Mom too!

    She asked me when I was going to start coloring, I told her I was a granola granny (running joke in my family because I thought of as a bit of a free spirit in my family but that's all relative because they are uber-conservative so I'm not really just in comparison I am haha)

    But my Mother hates my hair. It's all one length, I don't use any products on it after washing and conditioning and I don't blow it dry. Currently it's just past my bra-strap and all one length, it's very healthy---no split ends...no frizzies---etc.

    It drives her nuts haha! She has short hair and has always worn it so she thinks I need to have it as well.

    Eh, C'est la Vie, can't make everyone happy so just make yourself happy


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    Instead of graying, my mother's hair went darker (she was a blonde as a girl, and her hair gradually darkened to a dark brunette). The hairstylists used to ask her what she used to color her hair with, cuz it was perfect... Mom would say, "I don't color my hair! This is natural!) and a dark brunette when she died at 72.

    Me, my blonde hair has darkened over the years, to a dark brown, but I see the gray peeking out - I call them "Highlights" - LOL!

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    Oh what a wonderful thread. I am in my mid fifties. I highlighted my hair for years and my hairdresser said "Ya know you are going to start getting that calico look". I said what?>
    She said you have to much going on with all those grays coming in and it just ends up looking like a calico cat. Well yes, that is exactly what it started to look like on top.
    First just let me say I LOVE GRAY HAIR. I will actually stop a woman with gorgeous silver or gray hair and complement her.
    So getting back to my story, I told her I think I am just going to go grey, I love grey hair. She said no way, you do not have the coloring for it, it will make you look really old.
    I did kind of agree at the time, I do think some women can carry it off better than others.
    Especially if they are younger looking in the face.
    Now I go every 8 weeks and have her color it and spend money I could put towards something else. But the day is coming ladies, it is. Most of my gray seems to be on top, my mother has colored her hair her whole life so I have no idea how she looks with gray hair. My father is now gray/white. All my grandmothers also colored their hair right up to the day they died so I have nothing to fall back on as far as how it will come in.
    I also have long hair and how do you go to work with that mess growing out???? Do you have to cut it all off and start from there? Oh I do not want to do that. So how?


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    Be your self...in all the ways...

    It's OK to be you.

    Should be a given...but not, yet....


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    Quote Originally Posted by stilettos View Post
    I think women are beautiful in many differing hair colors. I started graying at 19...needless to say, I felt I was too young to go grey. I colored it..still do..I will be 50 the first week in May. I still color...back to my natural chestnut. Don't look my age...don't know when I will let it go...but I salute you ladies who have. Vive le difference.


    I dont have much grey and will probably always highlight my hair with blonde streaks as it does cover what little grey there is. I look like a kid and really don't mind that.

    I salute and honor the ladies here too that have grey and choose to go natural. To each to their own choice and whatever makes one happy. We all are forever united as one no matter what our hairstyles/ colors are.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kat View Post
    My Mom too!

    She asked me when I was going to start coloring, I told her I was a granola granny .
    (respectfully snipped)
    But my Mother hates my hair. It's all one length, I don't use any products on it after washing and conditioning and I don't blow it dry. Currently it's just past my bra-strap and all one length, it's very healthy---no split ends...no frizzies---etc.

    It drives her nuts haha! She has short hair and has always worn it so she thinks I need to have it as well.

    Eh, C'est la Vie, can't make everyone happy so just make yourself happy
    I love the granola granny title and will use it without shame!! I do the same thing, just wash and condition my hair. No blow drying or styling other than turning my head upside down and applying a leave in conditioner for curly hair.

    The other point you brought up is also something that I've been thinking about. Why are women expected to cut their hair short when they become a certain age? My Mom hates that my hair is on the long side (about 3 inches past my shoulders.) All the women in my family gave in and cut their hair off once they hit a certain age (45 to 50). But they still continue to color and style it every day.

    I don't even own a blow dryer, curling iron, straightener, or any other electronic gadget to torture my hair. I am looking forward to my dyed hair to grow out so it can all be healthy and natural.
    Please be aware that what I type is my opinion.


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