Is it confirmed that she left school in the 8th grade? How old is that, about 14?
Just my opinion, of course.
I realize I'm new here and don't know how things are usually done, but I feel like it's not beneficial to finding BW discussing what mistakes were made in raising her. There's nothing we can do to change that now. Just my opinion.
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If her Mom and Dad and Friends think she is hiding I wonder if they have an idea WHY?
Who would she need protection from?
In a nutshell, if a child becomes well educated (I was thinking college.) then the chances are high that child will move away to another town. Child moves away...they lose what they value the most.
How many times have we heard someone say, "I just know they'll go off to college and then will want to move away".
People learn how to cope from dealing with stress. If we know how Brittney has coped in the past, maybe we can understand what measures she may be taking now. She's been described as feeling invincible. So perhaps she would be open to taking more risks than the usual 19 yo girl. She may have hopped a ride to the west coast, where another timid girl would never consider it.
All my own opinion.
I guess the problem those who are close to her have is that it's now been 25 days since she was in contact with anyone. The most she's gone without contacting her mom is 2 or 3 days, but even then, she was in contact with at least a friend. There's no solid explanation they can think of for why she would do that. She wasn't in a fight with her family that might make her not want to be in contact. It's just a mystery.
It's extremely easy to drop out at fourteen and/or in the 8th grade. Sometimes the schools even encourage it. If the school's administration doesn't want a student, they simply ask them not to come back, off the record, and don't report the "absences" to truancy officers. Students can earn the designation of "undesirable" for any number of reasons: economic, social standing in the community, lack of athletic talent or perceived lack of potential, behavior. This happens more often than you'd think. I was unofficially asked to not return, myself. This was in the nineties. Also, if one completes 8th grade but drops out before completing the 9th, they're considered to have an 8th grade education
Edited to add: I should also point out that, in my experience growing up in a small public school system in a rural area, the so-called undesirable students are pegged at an early age and often made to feel so uncomfortable and hopeless throughout their school career that finally dropping out is a huge relief. Many never have a chance - their family name or ethnic background or economic situation has doomed them from birth. They'll never win awards, or be chosen for parts in plays, or solos in choir, or win homecoming queen, no matter how hard they try. It's sad that the world is this way, but it's human nature, I suppose.
Sorry to be so long-winded but I'm hoping this is helpful to those who aren't familiar with small-town rural life.
Last edited by Constance; 06-25-2012 at 09:02 PM.
For me though when my kids were in the throes of adolescence I think I was counting the days they'd be moving out! (and that's the truth not JMOO!)
Wasn't BW pregnant at 16?
I never thought so earlier, but I'm now wondering if DH's suicide and BW's disappearance have nothing to do with each other. It makes sense that DH would kill himself. He had a meeting with LE that day and he probably knew that he would be detained (and/or asked to turn in RSW and DK) and that his life was over. He may have had one last blowout (meth with BW) the night before and then decided that it was the end for him. BW may have gone on to Grand Bay to find more drugs and something terrible may have happened during that pursuit.
I don't think BW confronted DH or any of her uncles about any alleged molestation. I don't think that was even on her radar. Meth addicts are another breed, unfortunately....and BW is a lovely girl, I'm sure, but meth is such a horrible drug...it can definitely create some apathy and the drive to do only one thing: more meth.
She might only have been with DH long enough that night to do/score drugs and then she was on her way again.
I have a question??
What made them think she was missing?
Was it because DH shot himself?
Or no one could reach her or knew where she went?
I apologize if any posts or questions have made you wince. I've never meant to say negative things about the family. I think about BW all the time and keep trying to wrap my head around everything I know. I then get curious and want to know more and then want to know why.
We here, are removed from the situation. I hope you are doing okay and are taking care of yourself. I know you are a true blessing for this family.
Im also curious did they have 2 cars?