09-04-2013, 09:16 AM #1Registered User
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UK - In Experiment Children walk off with strangers after 90 sec
This is so scary, almost all of them went with the stranger.They were then approached by a security guard who asked the youngsters, aged between five and 11, to help him look for his own child or a lost dog.
Out of nine children whom the man talked to - none of whom had ever seen him before - seven agreed to walk away from the playground with him.
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09-04-2013, 01:31 PM #2
The only problem I have with this study, they used a security officer and the children may have thought he was LE and trusted him more.
To me, it would have been more valuable to use a variety of people, but I have seen other studies showing the same results. (no link, been long ago.)
"The further we (as the human race) grow away from the natural world, the quieter the natural world becomes and the more pathological we become as a culture."........Bernie Krause
The citizens of the United States of America have a right to applaud themselves for having given to mankind examples of an enlarged and liberal policy—a policy worthy of imitation......which gives to bigotry no sanction, to persecution no assistance.......George Washington
09-04-2013, 03:59 PM #3Registered User
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i was in a very small town, i was passenger in auto. there was a 4/5yr old boy yowling, tears streaming in the middle of the road, we drove past - we did'nt know what to do.
We did'nt stop and check -out of fear of someone thinking we were try to abduct him.
we did a loop around town- child was still crying in the middle of the road, so i went and talked with him, he took my hand right away and we went and found the kids that were supposed to be watching him, i told them i could of stole him and yes little ones can be a pain, but they are his protector.
no adults came out of any of the houses. my male friend said no fuxxxxg way would he have stopped by himself because it might look bad, its become a very complicated world. jmo
09-04-2013, 05:58 PM #4
I remember when I was a kid, I started talking to this guy on the beach randomly. It turned out he was a friend of my mother's, but I didn't know that, and I don't recall if he knew that, either.
Kids are trusting, I thought strangers were those black cut-outs they have on those signs. Or those scary looking guys on the corner, I didn't think of someone clean-cut to be dangerous. Now that I'm older I know that that's how Ted Bundy got most of his victims, too.
09-05-2013, 10:20 AM #5
09-05-2013, 11:08 AM #6
Seems like I saw on TV or read a report about something similar a few years ago.
The parents were confident their kids wouldn't go with a stranger and were shocked when every single kid trusted the stranger.
One case that stood out was a kid who said no way would he go with a stranger who asked for help finding a lost puppy.
But then he revealed that yes, he'd go help a strange man find a lost kitten because unlike puppies, "kittens are helpless".
I agree with Linda, I think one thing we can do is teach our kids that strange adults do not need help from children.
09-05-2013, 11:12 AM #7
As a kid I'd have walked off with anybody. I'm an extrovert and always have been. I just liked people. They wouldn't have had to offer me ice cream or ask for help with finding a puppy. They could have said "Wanna come to my house for lunch?". I'd have went.
My own child? As all of us here do from get go I taught her. I especially taught her just because they are an adult does not mean she has to do what they say. *Us as kids? You obeyed all adults*.
I've recanted here somewhere how my DD who was in the last years of grade school wanted to walk sans me. I get that. On the way home from lunch no other kids came home. Just her. My friend would watch from her porch until my DD got to her house and then I'd look out my door up the street. All this under the radar of DD knowing.
Didn't a guy pull up. Opens his trunk. I see him walk over to my DD and she stops. She talks to the guy. I go screaming running down the street on to the next block screaching the entire way. The guy took off.
Ready? As I'm flipping out asking who the he*l was that this poor kid shrugs and goes "Mom he yelled at me I was skipping school and I'm in trouble and I didn't want to be fresh or a smart alec because I thought YOU KNEW HIM".
Sorry for the long vent. To this day in my heart of hearts I do believe that guy was going to abduct her. This is my neighborhood. My block. I never saw that guy in my life. My guilt!!!!!!!!!!!!! She thought it was maybe a neighbor and I knew him and she didn't want to be fresh. She wouldn't have went with him willingly, BUT she did stop and talk to him.
Truly I worry about all these kids today out there.
09-05-2013, 11:49 AM #8
I like the idea to teach kids that adults do not need help from a child. But I find it almost hard to understand in a child's eyes. What I do with my kids, I role play what a person might say to the child. And it is a lose/win situation. Even as adults we sometimes help the wrong person, or trust someone who shouldn't be trusted.
One thing I taught my kids. I do not care who it is, if it is grandma, papa, the neighbor, so and so s dad/mom. You must always ask me before you go anywhere with anyone.I role play different scenarios, and my son gets it. My daughter I think might still go off with someone :/ I even play, oh but mom said you could. Believe me I throw it all in. Another rule we have, I teach these at a young age, if a vehicle pulls in the driveway, again I don't care who it is, you come inside right away. I have witness my own kids doing this but there playmates just walking up to the vehicle. And I don't let them play outside alone, they just run to the door no matter what
I think some parents are blind, maybe they don't watch the news. I don't scare my kids, but I am open to them.
My mom traumatized me as a 10 year old.... Missing girl in Maine, I might have been younger,is what triggered it. She told me to never talk to strangers and then proceeded to tell me what they would do to me. Not needed.....
09-05-2013, 11:59 AM #9
As a very tiny petite 6 grader I recall being tormented, along with my classmates, by a horrid bully of a teacher. I witnessed another student lifted off the ground and put up against the wall by his throat. I myself was locked in a locker during an assembly where I was supposed to get an award. I, like my classmates were terrified daily and too scared to even tell our parents. Back then, parents believed teachers over children and children should obey and be respectful at all times. As an 8th grader, I became a bully, even locking another student in a locker once. I have tremendous guilt over that.
My son knows, no matter what, I have his back & he can tell me the entire truth without fear. He has the right to be treated with respect and he has permission to demand it.
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