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    Post After bride is left at altar, guest steps up to marry her

    Updated: 1:52 p.m. Tuesday, Nov. 19, 2013 | Posted: 1:52 p.m. Tuesday, Nov. 19, 2013
    A bride in India showed up expecting to marry one guy and ended up marrying a wedding guest instead, according to a story in "The Times of India."
    The 23-year-old bride was supposed to marry a 35-year-old man who backed out of the marriage by not showing up at the ceremony.
    The intended groom's parents said he argued with them before leaving home.
    When locals heard that the bride had been stranded at the altar, a relative of the bride stepped in to marry her, according to the report.
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    a relative? I hope it was by marriage or at least a third cousin

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    Quote Originally Posted by LadyL View Post
    a relative? I hope it was by marriage or at least a third cousin
    Uhhh...not likely by marriage. Inbreeding is a BIG thing in India and Pakistan. Little know fact but it produces a LOT of messed up offspring with serious disabilities. In countries with government health care (like the U.K.) it can cost a fortune to take care of the disabled produced from these marriages but no one likes to talk about it cause it ain't PC.

    Of marriages in rural areas, 469% were consanguineous, and in urban areas, 291%. In more than 80% of the consanguineous marriages, the spouses were first cousins or more closely related.
    http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC1012776/

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    Well, it proves the old adage that guys are like subway trains. Don't run after them, another one is coming up any minute now.

    Seriously, it sounds a bit appalling. We don't care who you marry as long as we get you off our hands and the wedding feast doesn't go to waste.

    The former groom seems to have a bit of an unpredictable temper, walking out of his home like that and leaving a bride without a word so let's hope that the new guy is better natured and more responsible.

    The Times of India does not report on the nature of the relationship.
    http://articles.timesofindia.indiati...ture-sivakumar


    Sivakumar, who is a relative of the bride, subsequently agreed to marry Ponradha after much persuasion.
    http://www.thestar.com.my/News/Natio...ers-house.aspx


    BBM. I'm not sure that's a good sign for the union.

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    Poor Ponradha!

    I have heard a few fairytale romance stories which have come from arranged marriages. Not many, but then there aren't really that many from the other kind either.. Anyway, I hope hers is like that - love slowly blossoming and then all there is to do is grow old together, happily ever after.

    She deserves happiness, after a day like that.
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    This switching partners stuff happens all the time in Bollywood romance films. There is a pair of lovers, then well meaning families arrange a marriage for one of them, sometimes both and the devastated lovers decide to sacrifice their happiness for the happiness of the family, until the truth comes out at the last minute at the wedding when they've already halfway through the rituals. Then they switch grooms and presumably are happy ever after.

    But this kind of sounds like some unwilling bachelor was pressured "to do the right thing" by his family and I really hope he is a nice guy who won't take his resentment out on her after the wedding guests have gone home.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sonya610 View Post
    Uhhh...not likely by marriage. Inbreeding is a BIG thing in India and Pakistan. Little know fact but it produces a LOT of messed up offspring with serious disabilities. In countries with government health care (like the U.K.) it can cost a fortune to take care of the disabled produced from these marriages but no one likes to talk about it cause it ain't PC.

    http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC1012776/
    disabilities that they hide from everyone; so many are wounded; subjected to bombings and have limbs missing but others suffer from public caste system that imo is the most horrible thing. It's like NK's com system; you pay for the family's sins. Even if it's your 4th great great whatever...you pay. For your whole life.

    born disabled in this country families will hide them away.
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    egad. Under Much Persuasion? How freaking sad is that.

    If you haven't seen WATER; see it to understand the caste system there. http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0240200/

    IE better to BE a bride than a Widow in this country
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    ... inbreeding doesn't just happen in India. And it's a total myth that it always results in malformed offspring. There's some pretty serious hereditary genetic problems and/or long term inbreeding needed to make that a major concern.

    Not saying it's right, or that problems of that kind don't happen in India. Just, they happen everywhere else, too, and are not always a problem, per se.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Cherry View Post
    egad. Under Much Persuasion? How freaking sad is that.

    If you haven't seen WATER; see it to understand the caste system there. http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0240200/

    IE better to BE a bride than a Widow in this country
    The very poor treatment of women in India is one of the few examples where I cannot put aside my own culture's ways to appreciate that not all others live as I do.

    There's tradition - and there's culturally ingrained abuse. Just because abuse has happened for a long time, don't make it right.

    Around the top of leading causes of death for women in India was, the last time I looked, household electrical fires. This statistic thinly disguises the practise of wife-burning, culturally acceptable murder outlawed many years ago officially, but nevertheless still rampant today.

    Any culture in which violence and threat to women is institutional NEEDS a pile of heavy sanctions to force it to get up to speed with human rights. I don't where or how ancient it is.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Ausgirl View Post
    ... inbreeding doesn't just happen in India. And it's a total myth that it always results in malformed offspring. There's some pretty serious hereditary genetic problems and/or long term inbreeding needed to make that a major concern.

    Not saying it's right, or that problems of that kind don't happen in India. Just, they happen everywhere else, too, and are not always a problem, per se.
    Wikipedia's article on cousin marriage makes interesting reading:

    http://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cousin_marriage

    Note the first example given.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Perodicticus potto View Post
    Wikipedia's article on cousin marriage makes interesting reading:

    http://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cousin_marriage

    Note the first example given.
    Regarding the first example given.
    "A study of the scientist's family tree suggests inbreeding was to blame, with frequent cousin to cousin marriages lowering immunity to disease and raising the odds of infertility."
    http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/arti...nbreeding.html
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    Well if most of you did your ancestry search; to the bone the bare bones; you would mostly find that on one side of your family cousins married cousins. There was no transportation. So your group your circle was limited to those you knew and loved. Cousins. It's not a crime any longer and we all know what inbreeding does. But; just one marriage to a cousin does not equal inbreeding. Most americans have cousin to cousin marriages in their own lines. i do, so do you. And mine were first cousins.....I"m not a freak...lol. There were no deformities...to speak of.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Cherry View Post
    Well if most of you did your ancestry search; to the bone the bare bones; you would mostly find that on one side of your family cousins married cousins. There was no transportation. So your group your circle was limited to those you knew and loved. Cousins. It's not a crime any longer and we all know what inbreeding does. But; just one marriage to a cousin does not equal inbreeding. Most americans have cousin to cousin marriages in their own lines. i do, so do you. And mine were first cousins.....I"m not a freak...lol. There were no deformities...to speak of.
    One marriage might not equal inbreeding, but if there is a history of doing so, it will lead to no good. Royal families had a number of inheritable diseases.
    Just my opinion

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