2XL said:
This just breaks my heart. I can understand not know in the early stages that you are pregnant, but come on people. When the baby is doing all that moving and has the hiccups, what on earth do they think is going on. I don't by that at all, that they don't know they are pregnant.
It happens here and there. I saw one where it was a mother with 3 kids, she was sure she wasn't pregnant, because she knew how that felt - and the baby just wasn't moving around, even late in the 3rd trimester. Other times it's a first baby and they think that their birth control or stress or something is causing the periods not to happen. It's quite possible not to know - not common, but it happens.
But once you know - turn the baby over to someone, or have an abortion. Have some responsibility for what you are doing! Drop it at a hospital, with anyone remotely responsible - anything is better than what she did.
I'm thinking she knew, couldn't decide what to do, then paniced, was only thinking of herself, and made a very, very stupid mistake. How easy would it have been to contact an adoption agency, and had the new parents right there at the hospital to take the baby.
Hmmm, one thought occurs to me - did she have medical insurance? That could explain a bit - she may have thought that giving birth in a hospital, the doctors appointments would cost too much - and that if she couldn't do that that then she probably couldn't get the child adopted. It's dumb - there are all kinds of programs to help her out, as well as the adoptive parents, Planned Parenthood for lots of low cost prenatal care - but I can see her maybe not even thinking about that, not realizing that there are a ton of alternatives out there. Somehow that just fits into a profile I could see of her - raised by middle class at the least, sent off to college, she probably has never been on gov't assistance and doesn't realize that there is help out there, even short of you being a homeless person.
Doesn't excuse it, but that could help to explain her thought process.