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    Quote Originally Posted by ILikeToBendPages View Post
    Sherin was doing more than squinting. Her left eye was crossed. Which can be a neurological issue.
    It may not have been at the time of the adoption, though. I can't tell much from the video of her adoption day. My niece was born with normal eyes and then developed a wandering eye around first or second grade. They thought it was going to be a problem but it ended up going back to normal at some point.

    Anyway, the point is that depending on the cause and the individual, these things can present later and can sometimes be fixed. So the orphanage could very well have been telling the truth.

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    Perhaps Sherin was having difficulty eating at home because she was being rewarded with food she liked after having something happen to her that she didn't like. Abuse of some kind. But outside the home she got to eat just because it was time to eat.

    Plus, her speech development was likely improving, and we know how people don't like it when children reach an age where they can talk about what happens at home.

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    Quote Originally Posted by rsd1200 View Post
    I had read this somewhere, back when it was the parents were talking about her being undernourished and having speech and vision issues .. Her former caregiver said she was small but ate well, and probably had to learn the language here. As for her eyes, one is a bit smaller than the other, is the only problem, but it was enough to get her listed on a special type of list, as they feared it would cause her to be ovwelooked.. Im going on memory but I believe the caretaker about Sherin"s eye, b/c a friend of ours adopted an unadoptable a baby from Korea, and the reason she was passed over was because she had a "port wine" type of birthmark covering a portion of her back. Sherin"s parents also changed her name.. My grandchild's parents have adopted and you can legally change the children's first name. How confusing would that be for a child? Such a happy looking little girl and she never had a chance.

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    I am not from India, but I was told by someone from India that they will not allow you to adopt a child if you already have a biological child and that if a child has special needs, that "rule" is disregarded. Dont know if that is the case here.

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    Quote Originally Posted by blue22 View Post
    I don't know who this Father Thomas is (or thinks he is,) but he weirds me out. Thinking you can actually retain custody...for lack of better words...of a deceased child with signatures, is beyond bizarre. I honestly think he is just an eccentric dude who found that people will listen to him and he's making it up as he goes. Not credible, and maybe a few cards short of a deck.
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    Quote Originally Posted by TTF14 View Post
    This made me laugh. And so true. As many posters have said, kids are weird!

    I did think of the changes in cuisine/spices from India to America, or even just one household to the next. She was still getting used to solid food when it was all changed on her.

    I have a friend who adopted two children from the foster system (siblings) here in the U.S. The younger one was a baby (but not a newborn) and had sooo many eating problems for at least 4 years. She had to take him to feeding therapy at the children's hospital and everything. It was so incredibly frustrating. I can't imagine adding a new international cuisine on top of it.
    Respectfully, the cuisine might not have been changed all that much since the adoptive parents were Indian. JMO, Indian cuisine is some of the best in the world!! I think it highly unlikely that the parents would change their food preferences just because they were U. S. citizens.
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    Eating disorders also can develop when a child is being abused and is in a stressful situation inside of their home.
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    Quote Originally Posted by faw720 View Post
    Respectfully, the cuisine might not have been changed all that much since the adoptive parents were Indian. JMO, Indian cuisine is some of the best in the world!! I think it highly unlikely that the parents would change their food preferences just because they were U. S. citizens.
    I agree, but we don't know what the kids were being fed at the orphanage. Could have been bland porridge for all we know.

    And I'll respectfully disagree with you about Indian cuisine! I love learning about the culture, but I've never gotten into the food. Lots of folks love it though!

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    Quote Originally Posted by faw720 View Post
    Respectfully, the cuisine might not have been changed all that much since the adoptive parents were Indian. JMO, Indian cuisine is some of the best in the world!! I think it highly unlikely that the parents would change their food preferences just because they were U. S. citizens.
    I considered this as well, but then thought about the simple differences between producers. For example, in India groceries may have been purchased at fresh markets and vendors where in the USA the same spices and ingredients, unless available at a type of farmers market, are more likely quite processed with long expiry dates and MSG and such in them.

    I am in Canada and use myfitnesspal app for food tracking because i suck at getting enough calories, anyway, I have noticed that if i type in a brand of food or drink and don't put "Canada" along with it, that the label for the US one is often different in both the nutrition label but also in the ingredients list. So, if it varies that much from here to there I can't imagine what it is like from overseas to the US, even within the same brand.

    Children also have extremely sensitive taste buds compared to adults, which is why kids will often notice things like a store brand vs their normal brand when we say they taste the same...

    Just my thought that even if they cooked her favorite foods from the orphanage, using the same recipes, the ingredients themselves may simply have altered the taste just enough to be unpleasant to Sherin...

    I imagine this is also a huge reason why people from other countries get so excited to go back for visits and often list that they can't wait for their favorite foods, not lack of availability here, but the taste just being slightly different.
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    Quote Originally Posted by MarisaS1985 View Post
    I considered this as well, but then thought about the simple differences between producers. For example, in India groceries may have been purchased at fresh markets and vendors where in the USA the same spices and ingredients, unless available at a type of farmers market, are more likely quite processed with long expiry dates and MSG and such in them.

    I am in Canada and use myfitnesspal app for food tracking because i suck at getting enough calories, anyway, I have noticed that if i type in a brand of food or drink and don't put "Canada" along with it, that the label for the US one is often different in both the nutrition label but also in the ingredients list. So, if it varies that much from here to there I can't imagine what it is like from overseas to the US, even within the same brand.

    Children also have extremely sensitive taste buds compared to adults, which is why kids will often notice things like a store brand vs their normal brand when we say they taste the same...

    Just my thought that even if they cooked her favorite foods from the orphanage, using the same recipes, the ingredients themselves may simply have altered the taste just enough to be unpleasant to Sherin...

    I imagine this is also a huge reason why people from other countries get so excited to go back for visits and often list that they can't wait for their favorite foods, not lack of availability here, but the taste just being slightly different.

    That is true. Here in the DFW area there are lots of Indian food restaurants & I have only been to one that I actually like. In the past there have been a couple of others that went out of business, but only one now that tastes like the Indian food I have had in Europe.
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    Quote Originally Posted by TTF14 View Post
    I agree, but we don't know what the kids were being fed at the orphanage. Could have been bland porridge for all we know.

    And I'll respectfully disagree with you about Indian cuisine! I love learning about the culture, but I've never gotten into the food. Lots of folks love it though!
    Another thought is the orphanage said she loved milk, but also continued to say that they only had enough for a certain number of kids, so its likely that milk was a special and coveted treat there. And yes, they definitely would have been feeding the children cheaply. From what I have seen in "traditional Indian recipes" they seem to often call for a TON of different spices and steps for preparation. I can't imagine that an orphanage that can't provide milk to every child daily, would be able to spend a bunch of time or money on spices and ultra traditional foods, especially as they would need to be making large quantities that fit into as many childrens dietary needs as possible. So, low cost, high nutrition and high calories with little quantity and little prep and cleanup. Just speculation of course as I've never seen the inside of an orphanage.

    IMO the orphanage saying she didn't have eating problems is not relevant to her now, as it appears in her photos from before adoption that she doesn't have the chunky arms, chubby cheeks, little elbow rolls etc that most babies who are truly thriving have. In the year the Mathews had her her hair grew several inches by pictures, and looks to be very thick, shiny and healthy in comparison to her orphanage photos, plus recent photos also show the little elbow dimples and 'baby fat" on her arms and she has chubby little cheeks etc. So, her diet was IMO much better after leaving the orphanage than it was there. I imagine they portioned things out there based on what they had and it was enough to get the kids through, not to make them thrive. A fed child doesn't mean its not a hungry child and if there isn't enough for seconds the child clearly won't get them...

    Who knows if we will ever find out if Sherin had a genuine diagnosis here or not for her food, but based on her photos I would guess that she was likely just exerting personality and refusing food because she finally could, and not because of a disorder. Again JMO
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    Quote Originally Posted by MzOpinion8d View Post
    Perhaps Sherin was having difficulty eating at home because she was being rewarded with food she liked after having something happen to her that she didn't like. Abuse of some kind. But outside the home she got to eat just because it was time to eat.

    Plus, her speech development was likely improving, and we know how people don't like it when children reach an age where they can talk about what happens at home.
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    Quote Originally Posted by TTF14 View Post
    I agree, but we don't know what the kids were being fed at the orphanage. Could have been bland porridge for all we know.

    And I'll respectfully disagree with you about Indian cuisine! I love learning about the culture, but I've never gotten into the food. Lots of folks love it though!
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    Quote Originally Posted by Grouchymom View Post
    Could it have been as simple as she didn’t like the type of food being prepared at home or the way it was prepared?

    I am not an authority on Indian cuisine but most of what I have experienced has been very spicy and a lot of curry (which is not my favorite spice). When my oldest was little I was convinced that she did not like spaghetti. Then I found out when she went to a restaurant without me she ordered spaghetti. I was dumbfounded. I had always packer her a lunch for school when they had spaghetti again because she wouldn’t eat it at home. Then one morning she asked for lunch money and said I was packing her lunch because it was spaghetti day. She replied that she loved spaghetti she just didn’t like mine. When I asked why she said that I didn’t make it right. Mine wasn’t brown and it wall all lumpy. Brown spaghetti sauce? After that little pang of hurt feelings went away I began to giggle. You see I made spaghetti sauce from scratch with all the garlic, onions, tomatoes, peppers, mushrooms and spices. What she wanted was brown bland nearly meatless meat sauce. In the future I put some of my sauce in the food processor or blender for her and she began to enjoy my red sauce too. LOL Sometimes the most difficult problems have the simplest answers.
    My Italian mother in law said I made "dirty" sauce because mine had chunks of tomatoes, onions, peppers and garlic, lean ground beef and italian sausage in it. Her's was more Austrian/German with a brown sauce with pork, and it was delicious over linguine and homemade gnocchi.


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    She didn't look like she was missing any meals. But, who am I to say?

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    Quote Originally Posted by TeaTime View Post
    She didn't look like she was missing any meals. But, who am I to say?
    Nope I agree with you. She does look like she was going to be a petite little girl. IMO

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