Wow, I ABSOLUTELY can't let this one go without a comment. The BarnGod and I raise horses. We breed them. We just lost a beautiful Suffolk Punch Draft stallion. You know what, he was a pussycat! I now have a two year old quarter horse stallion from a fabulous line. He also is gentle and definitely my "stud-muffin". I even checked, by hand, the other day to see if his testicles were dropping. Absolutely no problem. We have just gathered 4 babies in for GENTLING. True we did have to rope one of the colts to get a halter on him. His mother is a Nervous Nellie, and we didn't get him in earlier. He was born in the pasture and we let it go for a while. But, you know what? It took me 10 minutes of easy, gentle work. I was able by then to reach under his tail and scratch his little butt cheeks. Now that's a sign of trust. Nipping? Real easy to stop. Horses play nip mommas, each other. Nothing wrong, They also teach each other lessons if the nipping gets out of hand. So, if the nip looks like it's going to come, I just grab his upper lip and squeeze. I then get my fingers under the lip and rub his gums. I am playing back. This quick and gentle response lets him know his behavior is not acceptable. I (LOL) "nip" it in the bud.
I caught my step-daughter smacking one of the colts we were STARTING (not BREAKING). She claimed the cold was going to come at her with two front feet. Nope, just trying to flee, as is their nature. I told here she would be banned from my ranch if she ever smacked or hit or bullied a horse. She's an adult, but doesn't believe in the newer methods. She says she doesn't have the patience or time.
The BarnGod and I have gone to several Pat Parelli seminars and have taken the courses. We also imprint the foals at birth.
I can walk out into my pasture, in the middle of the herd, of huge Belgians, large Suffolks, Quarter Horses, Standardbred, Apaloosa, and even a BLM mustang, and a donkey, and have absolutely no fear. We are partners and friends. I will admit that I'm the "alpha" horse when I am among them. I may be the dominant critter at the moment, but it's an attitude of confidence, not brutal, whip carrying arrogance. Each horse gets a rub, a scratch and probably a treat.
Horses are large animals who can hurt you, but they're domesticated and have been our work partners for thousands of years. To get the most from your horse, you need to be a partner and establish a mutual trust.
Ok, I'll get back off my soapbox. Billy, I'm sorry you had a bad experience, but I would bet the horse you got was older and had been mistreated. I'm sure you would have a different attitude if the horse you had was gently started and had been given love and respect.