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    Etiquette

    I am not happy with the attittudes some posters have.Rather than discuss the cases with anyone/everyone, they only seem to want to respond to their "friends". I hope the forum admin will take steps to discourage that.People who want to only discuss cases with their friends and associates can either email or IM if they refuse to talk to the rest of us here.

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    LOL Im not happy with poster attitudes all the time either. That and a quarter will get me a gumball. Angrywolf , sometimes it takes a while to figure out the WS style. Some folks have posted here for years and get chatty. Others are very serious case only posters. Most are somewhere in between. Every forum on WS has a different style and draws people for different reasons. Hang in there and you will find your voice.
    Welcome to the World Baby Caleb!!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by ANGRYWOLF
    I am not happy with the attittudes some posters have.Rather than discuss the cases with anyone/everyone, they only seem to want to respond to their "friends". snip.
    I do remember when I first started posting here feeling similarly. My posts went unanswered and I felt invisible. But it's more about getting into a rhythm and just continuing to post and not worry about being answered. Many many of my posts go unanswered to this day, but I just don't take it personally and hope you do the same,stay and keep posting.
    When I post,I do not post with the expectation of being responded to, but rather just putting more information out there to continue the discussion and it may or may not include me. But admittedly there are times when i address a specific poster.
    I am notorious for hijacking and for that i apologize in advance.

    So don't be discouraged and don't think you are intentionally being ignored..that only happens when you make someone really angry!!

    Good to see you posting Angrywolf.

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    Angrywolf, sometimes I have felt the same way over the last several years, when no one responds to a post that you think was particularly meaningful, or when you see a lot of threads that end with the last post - that ends with your name. That is almost the worst of all, as it makes you wonder if what you wrote was interesting to nobody!

    I've been here so long now I let those things fly right over my head. I feel that you write a post to say something that is meaningful, right? If noone answers you it doesn't really matter, as they all read it and maybe they had nothing to say because it was right on. Or now the conversation has sidetracked to something else. That happens a lot.

    But you know the neat thing Angrywolf? Sometimes you will go for, say, two more pages of posts and suddenly someone will refer to what you said, or write a post that they read, maybe a few days before and they have been thinking about it and suddenly they have something meaningful to say. I do that a lot, by the way. Or I'll just read a post and think about it overnight and then the next day I will be fresh and know just what I want to say to them.

    So keep the faith and don't be angry, OK? LOL There is just too much goodness that abounds here in this site. You can take what you want from it and give what feels important to you. You are a part of us you know. A Web Sleuther. That is special, and your opinion is just as important as that of someone who has been here for years.


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    I wasn't going to reply because I had nothing to add. Then I decided to anyway. :-)


    Have a great day, AngryWolf! :-)
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    I second that

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    Quote Originally Posted by JBean
    I do remember when I first started posting here feeling similarly. My posts went unanswered and I felt invisible. But it's more about getting into a rhythm and just continuing to post and not worry about being answered. Many many of my posts go unanswered to this day, but I just don't take it personally and hope you do the same,stay and keep posting.
    When I post,I do not post with the expectation of being responded to, but rather just putting more information out there to continue the discussion and it may or may not include me. But admittedly there are times when i address a specific poster.
    I am notorious for hijacking and for that i apologize in advance.

    So don't be discouraged and don't think you are intentionally being ignored..that only happens when you make someone really angry!!

    Good to see you posting Angrywolf.
    Yes, everyone should feel welcome. And JBean is exactly right. I wouldn't worry if you are answered or not. It will happen many times. I have left posting areas that just seemed so clicky......because why stay there. And sometimes you might go to have a bit of laughter on a down day, and everyone there is showing their 100% intelligence. Like having some fun, is not the proper thing.
    So, find some places that understand your own special self worth......and then enjoy. This really is a great site...even with its little pitfalls.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ANGRYWOLF
    I am not happy with the attittudes some posters have.Rather than discuss the cases with anyone/everyone, they only seem to want to respond to their "friends". I hope the forum admin will take steps to discourage that.People who want to only discuss cases with their friends and associates can either email or IM if they refuse to talk to the rest of us here.
    I will quote something Dr Doogie wrote a day or 2 ago in the Anna Waters thread, maybe this will explain a little about why people talk sometimes via PM/ and email and are not posting info on the board:

    One of the issues on both closed forums is that certain posters felt that relevant information was not being posted and only shared in PM's between a few "chosen" researchers. There are some aspects of this search that have purposely been kept out of the forum. This is not done to create an elite class of members here, but to allow some investigation that could not occur with total transparency. This allows us to look into backgrounds of people who are not "suspects", yet their circumstances dictate that they should be examined closer, without having those details exposed to the public at large. I would ask for your understanding on this point and your trust that information will be shared when it is appropriate. One researcher here is looking into a very promising potential match for Anna from adoption websites, while I am looking into the background of someone who was in a position to be involved in Anna's disappearance that has not been thoroughly investigated in the past. Both leads may (and probably will) turn out to be false, and as a result, we do not want to post too much information (and speculation) before we truely know what the facts are. We are dealing with real people who deserve their privacy until the facts warrant otherwise.

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    Hehe...There are times when I feel, that I am on everyones ignore list.!
    But it hasn't stopped me yet. Nope they can't get rid of me.

    Keep on posting Angrywolf, you'll be glad you did!

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    The Big List

    Funny.....but, an "Ignor List" should be used for the very offensive people. I think it should be used sparingly. Why hurt someones feelings if they are taking "their" time to write. Everyones opinion is of value, even if we do not agree. The whole fun of being on WS is all the information that comes at you......some benificial, some not. A bigger pet-peeve of mine is just having 'part' of a story. Just a corner of the whole picture. Hummmmm is that why my posts are so looooooong?
    Everyone be nice.......please.....

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    I wonder why I even bother coming here..

    It's too cliquish....It's more than just ..well someone is investigating this or that and they are withholding info...That is not true in my case or apparently in others.People have favorites, people they only want to respond to and choose to ignore the rest of us...I think that everyone who comes here has value.We all have something noteworthy to say. I have been involved in the Johnia Berry case, an unsolved murder case for some time now and it pains me that so few people seem interested in even reading about it here on this board. www.johniaberry.org is the website put up by her family.

    So I am probably not going to come here as often as I use to. I need to find some place I will feel welcomed and appreciated. Take care guys.


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    Takes time

    Quote Originally Posted by ANGRYWOLF
    It's too cliquish....It's more than just ..well someone is investigating this or that and they are withholding info...That is not true in my case or apparently in others.People have favorites, people they only want to respond to and choose to ignore the rest of us...I think that everyone who comes here has value.We all have something noteworthy to say. I have been involved in the Johnia Berry case, an unsolved murder case for some time now and it pains me that so few people seem interested in even reading about it here on this board. www.johniaberry.org is the website put up by her family.

    So I am probably not going to come here as often as I use to. I need to find some place I will feel welcomed and appreciated. Take care guys.
    Mr. Wolf......It takes some time. It just does. When I first came I just kept writing. If you post the website with very clear information......people eventually read, understand, and try to help you out.
    It just isn't instant. Some cases are not known to others and they have to slowly learn what happened. I hope you don't give up. Stay with your thread and keep posting what is new, and what you need. You will be surprised when people start to find clues or give suggestions. There definately are some cliques. I don't see that really in the missing threads that much.......but certainly in others. I hope you don't give up on WS it is a great site........it can be so helpful. I know because we have missing Laura Mackenzie and we are looking for answers too.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ANGRYWOLF
    It's too cliquish....It's more than just ..well someone is investigating this or that and they are withholding info...That is not true in my case or apparently in others.People have favorites, people they only want to respond to and choose to ignore the rest of us...I think that everyone who comes here has value.We all have something noteworthy to say. I have been involved in the Johnia Berry case, an unsolved murder case for some time now and it pains me that so few people seem interested in even reading about it here on this board. www.johniaberry.org is the website put up by her family.

    So I am probably not going to come here as often as I use to. I need to find some place I will feel welcomed and appreciated. Take care guys.
    I think too some threads are like this, exactly as you describe, that's when I move on....find some other threads on here where people WILL appreciate your posts,ask you for your opinions, ask you to volunteer for stuff I know you would be welcomed and appreciated in any thread I am working in...you can see the links in my siggy.

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    Thank you Christine...

    and all the others who have posted...

    I was interested in the case where the lady in Texas was stabbed..the realtor..it was difficult to even get any response from the other people there...they didn't want to hear any input from me..that was obvious..and made me feel like I was an outsider..
    I just don't feel this site is worth the aggravation.I will return from time to time and post about the Berry case..when something new happens..if anybody is interested..but I am through as far as any other postings are concerned...either starting or commenting about others.Not worth my time.

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    Angrywolf, I remember popping in now and then on that, but it was at a really busy time of work for me, and I couldn't post much. (A blessing perhaps for people who have to read what I say. )

    Anyways, there has been absolutely nothing on the case here in the news. So it is hard to keep things going when the police are keeping things so close to their chests. I don't know if they are just turning up dead ends or they have something they want to keep quiet, but the news has been just silent. If it were in Houston or the surrounding areas, I know some people I can ask, but it is Dallas and out of my reach.

    Also, in that case, a lot of things were perhaps pointing to a personal relationship that might have gone sour--and the woman had some personal issues (the divorce, the online dating/profile thing, the mysterious attack earlier at her home) and it was hard I personally thought, to say anything without falling into talking about the victim.

    Anyways, I post often with no response. I have found if you respond to others they will respond to you. And I am one of those posters who may read, think, and come back to answer or respond.

    Just some thoughts. Hope you come back.


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    I'm new here (as of yesterday new) and I haven't noticed the clique-ness only because I've learned that to get involved in a forum you have to intentfully ignore it at first. Therefor, I read posts, but pay no attention to names or who is posting where and such. I've not found much to comment on as of yet (EXCEPT FOR THREADS THAT WERE GOING WHILE I WAS WAITING HOURS TO BE ACTIVATED!!! :P) but I did jump in on a few games.
    As for the problem of no one responding to your thread, I think part of the problem might be the speed of the forum. Thread activity is very fast here!!! And there are so many forums with so many topics that when I come in I hit the "New Posts" option and only check out the top 10 or 20 posts. So I imagine I'll never see some threads unless I'm really, really bored or specifically looking for something (which is how i found this thread). I know that sounds awful but it's too hard to keep up with it all.

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