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    What next?
    We are killing them with kindness.
    I'm all for incentive, but that's ridiculous.
    Kids should want to get good grades, I don't think throwing money/cars etc is helping them at all.

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    I pay for "A"s on report cards. During the year $5.00 per A and on the final report card of the year, $10 per A. As I explain to my kids, this is their job and they should be paid for doing it well. They're going to get my money one way or the other. This way, they're getting good grades, so at least I'm getting something for my money~! LOL Who knows, may even get them some scholarship money for college and then my few bucks now may save me big bucks in the future. So far, they're both bringing in straight As.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jeana (DP)
    I pay for "A"s on report cards. During the year $5.00 per A and on the final report card of the year, $10 per A. As I explain to my kids, this is their job and they should be paid for doing it well. They're going to get my money one way or the other. This way, they're getting good grades, so at least I'm getting something for my money~! LOL Who knows, may even get them some scholarship money for college and then my few bucks now may save me big bucks in the future. So far, they're both bringing in straight As.
    You'd be better off paying them to do physical chores around the house than for grades. You can reward with other things besides money for grades. After all, there's things besides money people can, and should, work toward, but that lesson is being lost in our culture.

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    Quote Originally Posted by narlacat
    What next?
    We are killing them with kindness.
    I'm all for incentive, but that's ridiculous.
    Kids should want to get good grades, I don't think throwing money/cars etc is helping them at all.
    I have to agree with Naracat on this one.
    IMO we can teach our children that if they want more in life:some spending money,nice things, etc. they need to get good grades to get better jobs.Not the other way around.

    I also believe in helping them out,for instance if they have their eye on a new bike,you can help them with money ... if they go the extra mile,with helping clean the garage,or something over and beyond their normal chores.

    I do think things are handed out to kids way too easily,an money shouldn't always be the answer.

    I sure sound like a grouch don't I? ...lol.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BillyGoatGruff
    You'd be better off paying them to do physical chores around the house than for grades. You can reward with other things besides money for grades. After all, there's things besides money people can, and should, work toward, but that lesson is being lost in our culture.
    Sure, there ARE things besides money that people can & should work for....but we are talking about children, and I don't see anything wrong with rewarding good grades with cold, hard cash. I pay my kids for their good grades. It IS their job. Just like an adult who does a good job....they get paid, and they get rewarded monetarily with raises. If you're going to pay your kids money for working around the house, what makes it wrong or bad if you pay them for good grades?

    It takes time and effort to get good grades---
    If money is the driving force behind my kids studying harder, taking that extra time to make sure their book report is "just right", paying closer attention in class, and thus....learning and becoming smarter individuals....then so be it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by capps
    I have to agree with Naracat on this one.
    IMO we can teach our children that if they want more in life:some spending money,nice things, etc. they need to get good grades to get better jobs.Not the other way around.

    I also believe in helping them out,for instance if they have their eye on a new bike,you can help them with money ... if they go the extra mile,with helping clean the garage,or something over and beyond their normal chores.

    I do think things are handed out to kids way too easily,an money shouldn't always be the answer.

    I sure sound like a grouch don't I? ...lol.
    Hi Capps
    Long time, no see
    I don't think you sound like a grouch at all, what you said makes perfect sense to me.

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    I'd say getting A's is going the extra mile, above and beyond their usual homework chores. I'd penalize a F or D, I'll definitely reward the A - after all, right now school is their job, and they may as well learn there are rewards for doing extra well at your job.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Details
    I'd say getting A's is going the extra mile, above and beyond their usual homework chores. I'd penalize a F or D, I'll definitely reward the A - after all, right now school is their job, and they may as well learn there are rewards for doing extra well at your job.

    This is exactly what I do. A's are $20, B's are $10, nothing for a C because a C is average, -$20 for a D, plus loss of TV and computer, and if you get an F, you've forfeited everything, plus lost boucoup priviledges.

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    It is good to reward kids for good grades, but I think giving big cash or very expensive gifts sends the wrong message about the value of education. Also, kids become spoiled and greedy and suddenly it is the TEACHER's fault for them getting a bad grade (and thus no money) -- anybody's fault but their own.

    When I was a kid, my mom would praise me for good grades and maybe I would get a special dinner or some easing up on the weekend's chores. Bed grades meant a loss of privileges.Maybe I would have worked a bit harder if I'd known I'd get big bucks with every report card, but I don't thinK I would have had the same work ethic in the end. I had to pay for any extra clothes I wanted (anything not polyester, lol!) and most entertainment and snacks and I had to save money (for years) to pay for a trip to Europe I wanted while in high school. In the end I had the incentive to put myself through college and grad school -- and money is not the driving force of my life.


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    My husband had to pay his parents if he got bad grades.

    I only got good grades, but never received $ from my parents.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BillyGoatGruff
    You'd be better off paying them to do physical chores around the house than for grades. You can reward with other things besides money for grades. After all, there's things besides money people can, and should, work toward, but that lesson is being lost in our culture.

    Report cards come only three times during a school year - every nine weeks. Its not like there's an open cash register at the end of each month. The incentive to do well is also that there is no football, track, band, choir or any other extra cirricular activities without the good grades. We do what works for us. I'm sure that other families have their own systems.

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    Quote Originally Posted by kgeaux
    This is exactly what I do. A's are $20, B's are $10, nothing for a C because a C is average, -$20 for a D, plus loss of TV and computer, and if you get an F, you've forfeited everything, plus lost boucoup priviledges.

    Has anyone ever received an "F"?

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    I don't have super strong feelings about this if it works for some parents, but it's not my style. Of course, I'm also a parent that doesn't really care what grades my kids get. I want my kids to focus on and discover what their purpose is. The journey to that knowledge is peppered, I suspect, with all types of grades - good and bad.

    I'd rather them be the best behaved kids in their class or the kindest kids in their class or the most resourceful kids in their class than the kids who get straight As. Grades in and of themselves don't mean too much to me, so I would have a hard time rewarding for them.

    I also don't attach allowance to chores. I want my kids to help out around the household because that's what families do and because there is intrinsic value in that. I give allowance to teach money management, a separate issue to me.

    That said, I am not above bribery as a tool of parenting...I just don't use it in this area.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Cypros
    It is good to reward kids for good grades, but I think giving big cash or very expensive gifts sends the wrong message about the value of education. Also, kids become spoiled and greedy and suddenly it is the TEACHER's fault for them getting a bad grade (and thus no money) -- anybody's fault but their own.

    When I was a kid, my mom would praise me for good grades and maybe I would get a special dinner or some easing up on the weekend's chores. Bed grades meant a loss of privileges.Maybe I would have worked a bit harder if I'd known I'd get big bucks with every report card, but I don't thinK I would have had the same work ethic in the end. I had to pay for any extra clothes I wanted (anything not polyester, lol!) and most entertainment and snacks and I had to save money (for years) to pay for a trip to Europe I wanted while in high school. In the end I had the incentive to put myself through college and grad school -- and money is not the driving force of my life.
    Yep.
    Then you get the kid who takes it out on their classmates/school.
    In the states, there is a school shooting on average once every 12 months for something as little as the teacher not giving the right grade.

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