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    'Bullied' schoolgirl killed herself

    The head teacher of a school where two pupils killed themselves within days of each other has defended his anti-bullying policy at an inquest
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    That's so aweful. Can you imagine someone picking on you so bad you'd want to kill yourself? I can't.... I have a teenage stepdaughter and I am telling you, it's a heck of a lot different in highschool now than it was when I went. These kids are vicious, especially the girls. I am not surprised when I hear of a picked on kid killing their tormentors in other instances... where is the faculty when this happens?!


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    These parents need to take some responsibility themselves for what happened to their children. Apparently the young lady was taking her cues from the suicide of this young man and copied his method. But where did these two kids obtain enough painkillers to actually kill them? If I were local police I would be looking into that.

    Neither student mentioned bullying in the notes they left to be found after their deaths.

    "The school was very aware of the fact she was very, very unhappy."
    Well if the school was aware so were her parents. And ultimately it is the parents who are charged to act upon any serious threat. They should have possibly committed her to the mental ward of their local hospital.

    It appears she was an abrasive young lady who may very well have turned off her friends with her mannerisms. Parents should be tuned into their child and possibly they could have sought classes for her in dealing with others long before this tragedy occurred.

    The boy is said to have been bullied since the age of four! He was sixteen when he died. How do you hold a three year school responsible for such a thing? I have never understood parents who sat through year after year watching their child be bullied. There is no physical deformity on the boy that was beyond helping him to alter. A self esteem class... a church youth group that accepted him as he was... these things could have helped. He even makes references to his "friends" in a suicide note, so he wasn't without any friends.

    Maybe both of these kids were just terribly depressed. Maybe there was more going on with them than anything school related. At any rate, you simply can't hold the school responsible for an act that is a self choice. Both kids died at home, not in school.


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    I dunno... do you have a teenager? They're strange creatures. The girls at my small town school were putting their own turds into a girl's locker that they didn't like. Some parents don't even send their kids to school in proper winter clothing.. you think they're going to listen if their kid has a problem?
    Thats why schools look out and if they see something wrong, they let somebody know. Thats why we have school counselrs and peer advisors. Kids also don't always tell their parents.

    I agree with you on the painkillers. UNLESS she got them from school. At our highschool there is a big problem with kids stealing their parents or familiy's oxycontin and selling it. Go figure...


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    Quote Originally Posted by sansoucie
    That's so aweful. Can you imagine someone picking on you so bad you'd want to kill yourself? I can't.... I have a teenage stepdaughter and I am telling you, it's a heck of a lot different in highschool now than it was when I went. These kids are vicious, especially the girls. I am not surprised when I hear of a picked on kid killing their tormentors in other instances... where is the faculty when this happens?!

    How sad. Some of those gals who slipped throught the cracks of yesteryear might have grown up and hang about close. Bullies are bullies. So sad that little gal let it depress her, along with other things we assume, and that she felt she had no outlet to express her true inner feelings about what bothered her. Whenever one takes one's life, it is sad beyond belief for those left behind. The pain might never go away.


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    Whenever one takes one's life, it is sad beyond belief for those left behind. The pain might never go away.

    This is very true, What can one do for that person ?


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    Perhaps you could ask the family of that poor little gal mentioned in the topic of this post...???? It would be a good start for you who want to help. JMO


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    Quote Originally Posted by Imon128
    Perhaps you could ask the family of that poor little gal mentioned in the topic of this post...???? It would be a good start for you who want to help. JMO

    Maybe I will...maybe I will ...


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    Quote Originally Posted by Imon128
    How sad. Some of those gals who slipped throught the cracks of yesteryear might have grown up and hang about close. Bullies are bullies. So sad that little gal let it depress her, along with other things we assume, and that she felt she had no outlet to express her true inner feelings about what bothered her. Whenever one takes one's life, it is sad beyond belief for those left behind. The pain might never go away.

    well the other option for kids that have been bullied also has been bad...remember Columbine. Those boys were bullied by their peers too.


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    I think there are more than two options...JMO, though.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Imon128
    I think there are more than two options...JMO, though.

    you are right there are more than two options, but obviously those two options have been taken. We as a society need to stop looking the other way at bullies and take it seriously.


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    I agree

    Quote Originally Posted by linnafay
    you are right there are more than two options, but obviously those two options have been taken. We as a society need to stop looking the other way at bullies and take it seriously.
    I agree. Bullies should not be tolerated at school, but I doubt if it will change much outside of grade school. Kids spend hours every day at school and it takes up the majority of their life. They all just want to be accepted and to fit into a group. Adults would never keep working at a job where they are treated that way. Parents are the main ones responsible in my opinion. The parents of a bully has to see some sign of it, such as laughing at certain people because of looks. Parents of depressed children should be able to see it somehow and get help. Unfortunately, help may not be available due to lack of health insurance, lack of money, or the time to be able to home school.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Imon128
    Whenever one takes one's life, it is sad beyond belief for those left behind. The pain might never go away.
    that is so true Imon, my father committed suicide 8 years ago and believe me the pain never goes away, ever. for those left behind the grief is enormous. for every suicide at least 6 people are severly affected by it and suicide is one of the main causes of death, leaving so many people behind.
    Only my opinions!


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    Well if the school was aware so were her parents. And ultimately it is the parents who are charged to act upon any serious threat. They should have possibly committed her to the mental ward of their local hospital.
    Nopety, nope, nope. Lemme tell you the story of a person in a class of mine. 14 years old, ninth grade. Some girls in the class decided they didn't like this person. Poured hand lotion in this kid's hair, while in the class. The teacher did nothing. It got so out of hand one of the tables got turned over. The teacher did nothing. The kid went to the school counselors. They moved the kid to a different class, but other than that, did nothing. Parents were not notified. Kid did not tell-too embarrassed.

    Kids being bullied are EMBARRASSED that it is happening. They think they should be able to do something, but don't have any idea what to do. Going to the school gets you ZIPITY-DO-DAH in middle school and above.

    AND YOU HAVE TO SEND YOUR KIDS TO SCHOOL. You can't keep them home if they are being bullied at school. You lose. Too bad. The schools want their money. (they don't get paid if a student stays home when they aren't sick)

    I'm am very happy some people had such wonderful home and school life that they never witnessed any of this. But the rest of us live in a different world, where the parents have no idea, and not due to negligence, exactly how their children think. ( I have similar problem with my 7 year old. I understand my four year old completely, but my oldest has always been a mystery to me. Scares me to death.)
    Just the facts, Ma'am.


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    My son was bullied and the school did nothing...the police did nothing and even a state cop was unable to do anything...In some cases the parents of the bullies are as bad as their kids... My son was determined at 11-12 years old that these ****s would not push him out of school. But the struggle took a toll...I was proud of him...He begged me not to get involved BUT I feared physical violence. I ended up sending my son who was very depressed to live out of state with his father....it was the hardest thing I ever did in my life...and nearly caused me to take my own life due to the heartache . (His father denied me visitaiion, contact etc. at various times. ) Our relationship is very good today. I feared for his life ..or that he would explode at school....I have tremendous empathy for the school shooter Andy Williams as he looked like my son at 13,14 when he killed two kids...If you ever read his story it is heartbreaking what that kid went through. He was beaten, kids burned him with cigarettes, they stole his skateboard twice...and two weeks before he did the shooting his best friend was killed in an accident. This kid was completely alone...living with his dad..mom on other side of the country..They have a website for him...He planned to kill himself at the school and chickened out... I could have seen my son do the same and wouldn't have blamed him.....It is a BIG problem.......


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