Last edited by cocolafay; 05-31-2010 at 05:16 AM. Reason: misspelling
I'm sorry any of you are having to go through this. It's a hard burden to carry. Jen, I sit here wondering if we are related and have the same uncle. My uncle molested me from 4-7. Even when I was able to tell, nothing was done because the matriarch of our family didn't want the name tarnished.
I'm 31 now, and suffer from PTSD (post traumatic stress disorder), clinical depression, anxiety and panic attacks and I have abandonment issues as well as trust issues.
I have tried so many ways to get someone to listen to me, and make something happen. So far, no one wants to get involved with something like that it seems. It's almost like, this many years later, and everyone is still turning a deaf ear on me and what happened. I worry about how many others he messed with, besides me. I know he also molested my brother who is 4 yrs older that myself. He works as a youth minister assistant in the church where he's from - that alone terrifies me.
My thoughts and prayers for justice and action are with you :Justice:
Rest peacefully, My Little Boy Blue.
I'm from Canada and we have similar situations here. New laws are required. When the perp is finally arrested, there are many many previous victims who choose not to come forward because of the legal system. The police force has their hands tied because of the required evidence required in the court system. I honour all the women who step up and tell their story. They are the heros and the ones that will help lead this fight against child sexual abuse.
Very sad story and my heart goes out to you. Is it possible he got caught and is in prison? Some states have public information on inmates, perhaps your does. Good luck to you!
I can only say that I know the pain caused by these types of opportunists...sick to my stomach, but wondering if you ever had any closure or if anything panned out form your efforts?
Is it possible he's on the sex offender registry? Is he still teaching?
Tell everyone you know. Cockroaches hate the light of day.
Here's a thought. Do any of these guys use the internet regularly? I got this idea from pervertedjustice.com....the company responsible for "To Catch a Predator"...that show where people pretend to be minors in chat rooms and get perverts to solicit them for sex and agree to come over...then when the perps show up, they're met with a TV crew and law enforcement...perhaps you could send an anonymous e-mail...an "ad" of some sort that suggests that they can find "barely legal locals to chat with" and a link to a chat room (I hear they like yahoo chat rooms)...create a fake account as an underage person and make your location specifically close to his. Then wait. Hopefully he shows up in the chat room...it's important, I think, when/if you chat with him, that you don't trap him into asking you for anything sexual, but that he naturally gets there. Record everything with screenshots or video of the screen so it can hopefully later be used in court (with proof that it wasn't tampered with/edited chat logs, etc)....best to research this more if you're going to go through with it. Best of luck to you and my heart goes out to you.
Not only would I call the local school board, but make sure you call the state licensure boards. Most states require that teachers, counselors, ministers etc be licensed or credentialed and they are able to take complaints and investigate from a licensure point of view. The. Burden of proof isn't as strong as for a criminal case and the proceedings are less formal. If you can get something against a license, you can t least start restricting access. Finally, even though some criminal records may be expunged or sealed, many state boards, like the department of education can look behind expungements.
Hi You know I am not a good English speaker so please do not expect me much about this language because its not my original language
I consider that type of criminal as one of the most worst criminal I classified on the book I created, but I prefer not to sell this book but to give it free instead, so please anticipate that it wouldn't been submitted to publishers for editorial so it will normally having grammatical error
As you said you want to stop someone? in which this someone is someone who's certainly indulging with the type of criminal act you stated on your post,
Yes there's a way
You know according to many studies about defining criminal minds, once they discover the single comprehensive explanation on why people commit crime, then people could be able now to prevent and stop the criminality, well maybe its easy to say but a big challenge to test everyone who care and who really don't care, so that are the answers you are looking for
But Unfortunately there is no such history that the man did resolved this kind of problem of our world today, they failed to determine the exact explanation on why people commit crime
But to ease your consciousness, I will let everyone see that exact explanation free, and you could have the answers of your question
All I can do is to show to everyone the real cause of crime and let them find the solution themselves, please read all the principles and concept I stated there and you will never be the same again, so please check this facebook group link I created
Dont get me wrong of course i get it and i am right there with ya.. my self you would not want to know what i would do with this guy .My only thing is this you have to becarefull because if he and i think thats what u said he was never arrested right then you need to be carefull with what you say and release to public i say that not about on here but letters to his communitty like u said now adays with people being sued for defimation thats my worry just you i wouldn't want you to get in trouble so maybe ask a lawyer cause i understand where your coming from and i agree with you i just would not wanna see u get in trouble ..
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Its unfortunate to be said, but laws like rape has a statutes of limitation. If it happened "years ago" then I'm afraid that the bastard is "clean" in the eyes of the law. Some states are attempting to change their rape laws, but not all have been on board and still continue to hold statutes of limitations and strict definitions of rape.
I know that this thread was posted 5 years ago, but Jennerbear, if you are still looking for the man, I could do a quick search if you're still around. Trust me, I've located many men in the past few months alone and I'm sure I could find that man, too.
Do not let anyone tell you there is a statute of limitations on reporting rape. As for the state of California's early release of rapists, solicit signatures on an online petition as well as approaching friends/family, church members, etc. Always include the State Attorney General's office. He/She is an attorney and is the first one I would approach. The next step would be to address ,in person, the governor of California. The media is a great source of informing the public of the follow-up of the government. Also, contact any rape crisis groups, as they are a good source of information and connections. MOST IMPORTANTLY, DO NOT QUIT. DO NOT LET ANYONE STOP YOU FROM GETTING ANSWERS!
You also may want to contact your State Lawmakers, your State Law Enforcement Division and the State Bureau of Investigation.
Take him to civil court and sue him for sex abuse.
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