It's those things you mentioned, the obstruction of the A's, particularly CA, that make some of us so upset that they maintain their victim status and are being paid for it too!
Here's a pure hypothetical that I don't believe at all and am just writing for illustrative purposes. Picture this: What if KC didn't act alone? What if there really is a nanny and KC called her to help cover up this crime? Now, in this fiction, the nanny comes forward and tells the media she was there; she helped KC and guided her in the cover up. (We all know KC isn't smart!) She also helped obstruct searches in the area of the body because she knew it was there and did other things, like giving a script to the grandparents and KC.
How would you feel about this nanny being paid large money by the media? And being wined and dined; courted if you will, not just in spite of her criminal activities, but largely because of them? Being rewarded for being a criminal and obstructing LE and at least delaying, if not denying, justice for Caylee? Would that be ok with you? Because that's how a lot of us see this. We don't see CA as a victim in anything. We see her pulling out the grieving grandma card every time she gets called on the carpet for her nonsense but that's a club that should deny her membership. You acknowledge in your post that CA has done these things for KC. And these things are contrary to justice for Caylee. Do you really believe CA should be rewarded for this?
I do not believe the A's are in denial about KC's mental status, (I vote for Borderline Personality Disorder), because CA was seeking help from a therapist and had plans to get custody of Caylee. According to LA, when CA came back into the room on day 1 and saw KC crying, the first words out of her mouth were to KC and were, "WHAT HAVE YOU DONE!?!" Does that sound like someone that doesn't know what KC is? According to the recently released discovery, others report that the A's had threatened to seek custody more than just that once. Does that sound like they thought KC was an excellent mother? CA's coworkers reported they had advised her to seek custody but at that time, CA replied she couldn't afford the legal fees. What was she telling them at that time that caused them to give her that advice? It sure wasn't that KC was 'mother of the year.'
CA is not humble. She is not grateful. She is vindictive and spiteful. I don't see how anyone can maintain any sympathy for her but God Bless those with big enough hearts to do so. She is arrogant with a strong sense of entitlement. She is milking the charade she tried to create for all it's worth. And I find that disgusting.
You admit their actions may cause KC to get off because evidence that would have made this a slam dunk case was destroyed, either deliberately or by the passage of time. Do you really think they should be rewarded for this? Should be paid by anyone? Even comped a meal? I respectfully disagree. I think that at least CA should be charged and held accountable. What a great example for the rest of us, if she's not.
She doesn't act like Caylee's grandmother, who I would hope would be protected and comforted. She acts like KC's mother and just that. That alone wouldn't cause me to condemn her. I can feel great sympathy for the families of other murderers. It's what CA has done to deliberately frustrate justice for Caylee that causes me to condemn her and even begrudge her elaborate dinners at Norman's.
Remember at the memorial, GA saying he wore a lavender shirt because it was Caylee's favorite color? Why did the teddy bear next to the candle they lit have on a green shirt with a shamrock, KC's favorite?
Finally, just in case you haven't seen these the other million times I've posted them:
At around 3:45 in this video, CA is asked to stop lying because it's hurting the case. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QzSG0...e=channel_page
These take a while to view and don't cover most but are a good summary of the lies.
Part 1: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vGKHx...e=channel_page
Part 2: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=26m18...e=channel_page
Part 3: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QStXw...e=channel_page
Part 4: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dhUbC...e=channel_page