03-06-2009, 01:52 PM #1
Teen Kills Herself over "Sexting" Incident
This is so sad. If she would have just finished her last yr and moved on she would have looked back at this incident as embarrassing and unfortunate but I am sure the dramatics of it would have faded and she would wonder why she let these people bother her so much.
She texted a picture of herself nude to her boyfriend. THey broke up and of course in an act of great maturity bf forwards the pic to a bunch of people. Jesse was then subjected to viscious bullying, name-calling and even physical assaults. She never told her mother the extent of it and she felt like she couldn't deal with it any more and she hung herself.
http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/29546030'The greatness of a nation and its moral progress can be judged by the way its animals are treated'
03-06-2009, 02:04 PM #2
From the link gaia provided:
"“We talked about her being a good kid, a normal kid. Those are most of the ones that are sending out those images,” she said. “Forty-four percent of the boys say that they’ve seen sexual images of girls in their school, and about 15 percent of them are disseminating those images when they break up with the girls.”
This appears to be a much bigger problem than I was aware of to say the least.
It's so sad that this young lady had one moment in time where she didn't make the best choice for herself. That is to be expected from children who are 18. With life experience comes a better sense of judgement.
I'm with gaia, if she could have made it past this, gone on to college, eventually she would have been able to look back at in probably embarrassment but she would have learned from it and she would still be here today.
My heart and prayers go out to her Mother who found her. I just can't imagine that kind of pain. God bless her and give her the strength she needs to carry on."Three things in human life are important: The first is to be kind; the second is to be kind; and the third is to be kind." ~ Henry James
03-06-2009, 02:12 PM #3
This is such a tragedy.
Our schools are going through some re-evaluation of cell phone use of students at school, sadly, "sexting" is one of the reasons mentioned in the letter sent home. (The middle school is having an issue with this.)
03-06-2009, 02:16 PM #4
OMGosh, this is such a sad case. I feel so bad for all involved. Sexting is really really really big nowadays. Technology is so advanced nowadays and the main form of communication, with teens, is texting. So so so sad.
03-06-2009, 02:21 PM #5
I really hate text messages. I think it will be the downfall of the english language. We have a whole generation of kids whose main way of written communication is using abbrevations, incomplete sentences and acronyms.
And now we have the issue of 'sexting'. I didn't know it was such a problem either. I would have never sent someone nude pics of myself when I was in middle or high school but now(and partly because of the constant connection to media and pop-culture) teens become sexualized at a much younger age unfortunately they do not seem to become more responsible and mature at a younger age......'The greatness of a nation and its moral progress can be judged by the way its animals are treated'
03-06-2009, 02:25 PM #6
Gaia, thank you for posting this article. I really was out of the loop on what sexting was and how often it happens. I can see that I need to talk to my children and explain to them the consequences.
I'm not the type of mom to say, well my kid(s) would never... even though I don't think they would...I'm still having a talk with them this weekend."Three things in human life are important: The first is to be kind; the second is to be kind; and the third is to be kind." ~ Henry James
03-06-2009, 02:47 PM #7Registered User
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My kids are what you call good kids. Honor roll, no behavioral issues, extracurricular activities. We went out to Applebee's one night and this beautiful teenage girl was a couple of tables away with her parents. My boys started giggling and saying "you know who that is". Well I pushed and it turns out she sent a topless photo to herself to her boyfriend and the passed it on to everyone and anyone he could. We all had a LONG talk about respect. I felt horrible for her and her parents. My youngest, a girl, not quite 13 had a falling out with a girl who was her best friend because she starting taking, posting and sending photos of herself in various states of dress. Thankfully my kids don't seem to be as fast as some of their classmates but my eyes are WIDE open.
03-06-2009, 03:10 PM #8
This is so sad
I think if I had a child they would hate me because I really don't think I'd turn a kid loose with a cell phone period! Maybe at certain times they could have 1 that did not text, did not take pictures and was only able to call me or 911.
I wonder if kids think they are in a way making themselves into super models or some type of celebrity because of their pictures?
VBBoyfriends and girlfriends are not Babysitters.
Just because you want to be with somebody does not mean they will take care of your children.
03-06-2009, 03:20 PM #9
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03-06-2009, 11:25 PM #11
Wonder how many young teen guys are going to go on and become the type of men who get addicted to trying to get women to disrobe online, sex chat, and even go to nudie bars. It's bad the girl committed suicide because the guy and people who harassed her weren't worth her life. The internet isn't worth two cents really, definitely not worth killing one's self or getting upset.
03-07-2009, 03:03 AM #12
Personally, my daughter is an honor student and is in the process of the final stages of publishing her own fantasy book at the age of 18. She sends text messages often throughout the day to me with all the text lingo, abreviations, minus the proper punctuation. She may have rebelled, ignored me or simply stop texting if I got her to send text's me in full sentence structure.
Certainly has not hurt her English language ability & talents. JMHO.
I'm the 'Don't Sweat the Small Stuff" kinda mom. If text lingo is the "in thing", that's perfectly fine by me. I'll go with any methods to always keep the communication door open with my teens.
This poor sweet girl, if she only knew in a matter of months, these people would be but a distant pathetic memory that has no bearing on her real life.Only my opinion, no one else need agree.
03-07-2009, 08:37 AM #13Registered User
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Kids have always had the capacity to be cruel (yes even back in the 70's) but it seems like the line between 'cruel' and psychopathicly souless gets thinner almost apace with our technological 'advances'.
Or maybe im just getting old.
03-07-2009, 10:03 AM #14
People want to blame something other than themselves when kids (and adults) hurt themselves. Raise your kid right so that they don't send nude pictures to guys for a start. But no its easier to blame text messaging in general. Disturbed people or people prone to suicide, depression, etc can hurt themselves over anything. Ok if it wasnt a sext message it would be something else.
im not above all that. i have some serious psych and emotional problems, and have attempted suicide (last year actually). Its never so simple and easy as just blaming something abstract.Lashelle
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03-07-2009, 10:50 AM #15
I'm not disagreeing, but middle school and up there is SO MUCH peer pressure. Even a well raised kid can give in and follow the lead of the majority. I mean think about it those of you who are children of the 60's and 70's - ever smoked pot? I haven't, but I have always been an extremely strong and independent person. When we start stretching those parental ties, sometimes that resolve to be good kids can weaken just enough.
And I CANNOT stand all that abbreviation. I will tolerate it for texting, but if I see it on message boards or hand written stuff, I won't even read past the first "r u going 2nite?" If your thoughts aren't worth the time to write out, why should I take my time to read them?
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