Not really trying to "defend" the A's (where would one even start?), just, I guess, trying to make some sense in a situation that defies all logic...I am kind of upset that the A's won't be attending the crime victims' forum - wasn't too thrilled that they were going to be guest speakers, but thought attending the conference would do them some good - listening to others and their stories, interacting w/ others who have dealt firsthand some of the most atrocious and reprehensible crimes imaginable...and kind of hoping that someone, either through deeds or actions, would help to enlighten them...yes, they need to grieve, grieve deeply and fully, cherish the precious grand~child they lost to a senseless, despicable crime. Perchance by their attendance, they would have learned how to better deal w/ their understandable anger and other emotions instead of the seemingly destructive way they are choosing to deal w/ it, continuing to make such public spectacles of themselves. They lost their grand~daughter and their daughter is accused of her murder (w/ all evidence pointing directly towards her) and whether or not they choose to support their daughter is really their own business - KC is their only link now to Caylee and while speculation is ripe about her involvement, it is still their daughter and they prolly do not know the whole truth, as do none of us either - yet, if ever. Yes, *if* KC did commit this heinous act, she should be punished and that punishment should be swift and severe; but at the end of the day, for the A's, the facts do not change - Caylee was murdered, she is not coming back, but KC is still alive and they are prolly fully aware that their own words (from the onset of this tragedy) are going to be instrumental in helping to convict her; thus they are prolly in denial, disassociating themselves from fact(s) and/or reality and instead choosing to believe the fiction their daughter has spun/is spinning/continues to spin...
There is no "script" for such occurrences and we can all agree on this for sure - that we do NOT want to be in the A's shoes - I'm pretty sure when they are alone w/ their own thoughts, they prolly are reliving every moment leading up to and throughout this; lots of what if's, if only's, I should have, I could have - many scenarios playing out in their minds, grasping at what they might have possibly done differently. Sadly and unfortunately for Caylee (and others), they cannot go back and change anything - they have to live w/ the stark reality that is upon them now. I personally - and a lot of us - would not be doing many of the things they are doing, but like that - I can "say" I wouldn't do this or that, blah, blah, but I really don't know - I just presume I would not...and just hope I - no one - ever has to experience what they are facing (or any such crime!) I was just hoping they might have been able to model other victim's behaviour(s) and possibly act w/ a little bit of decorum and restraint - I really do hope they find some peace - can only imagine how painstakingly devastating it is for them to wander their house filled w/ both tangible and intangible memories of both Caylee and KC and they simply may not be able to separate the two - for whatever reason. It is their own private nightmare - I'm not condoning them nor condemning them, I just wish them peace - all of them - and hope that there is justice for Caylee and all victims...and also hope that I haven't infuriated the "Sippy Cup Gang," prompting them to jump on their "Big Wheels" in an effort to hunt me down - ;-)
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Cindy and George quit being victims when they started covering up for KC.Then they became accomplices ,in my book.
ETA I lost my 15yr old son to suicide .He hung himself in our house.We had a CSI unit go through and were questioned by the coronor and 2 detectives at the hospital,just after we learned our son died.Our children were questioned,so yea,I kinda do know how I would act.We were all honest and wanted the truth.We gave them names and James' computer [he was on just before he died].I am honest about what my son did. He took his own life.And I'm honest enough to feel guilty and full of what if's.
Always ,just my opinion
We never saw it coming .Please talk to your teen even if you don't think you need to !
Far more teens commit impulsive suicide without chronic depression Miss U James
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Thankfully, I do not know what it must be like to go through something like my own child lying, stealing and then murdering my grandchild, . I have had problems with my children doing some unseemly things over the years, for example, my oldest daughter has lied just to be lying (that started when she was little), and she used my mother's credit cards many many times, stole money from me....so I have had a taste of those types of things. Thank God she doesn't do those things anymore. I have tried to ask myself what would I do if any of my children did what KC did....and I have decided that while I cannot know the answer 100% for sure, I believe I would love my child, no matter what, but I would NOT lie for him/her, and I WOULD do what needed to be done to bring justice to my grandchild. I believe I would have no qualms telling my son or daughter that I knew they were guilty and they belonged in prison, but that I still love them, and that I would be telling the truth and helping the authorities any way I could. I have read a few other posters here over the months who say they couldn't stand behind their child, etc....but even if my son/daughter had murdered my grandchild, I don't see myself turning my back forever on him/her. I do not call this "standing behind" my child. I see this simply as loving them. It does not mean I wouldn't be angry or hurt beyond belief, and it might even be a while before I could actually communicate with them in a civil manner.
This is not what I see the Anthonys doing, though. They love KC, yes, but they are participating in THE LIE, continuing to present it to the public in spite of the evidence as if it makes complete sense. They have all lied to LE, to the public, and in my eyes, have made themselves look very foolish. It is a disgrace to Caylee's short life. I do not listen to the Anthony's interviews any longer--haven't since Oct/Nov. It is just the same old story. There will never be anything new or revealing come from their lips. I used to have hope that George would, in the end, be the one to stand up for Caylee, but it appears right now that any hope of that is lost. Finally, I want to say that George and Cindy HAVE lost Caylee, but they aren't really losing Casey. She might be behind bars, maybe for the rest of her life, but she will at least have a life. She will make the most of it. I hate hearing how they are so afraid they are going to lose her too, but even if she gets the DP, they won't lose her for a very very long time.
They seem to be dysfunctional, but nothing I've seen could have predicted this. I have way more dysfunctional neighbors ...and their children don't end up murdering anyone.
IMO Casey is somehow defective. I am not excusing anything she's done and she is guilty IMO. No one could have expected it.
I believe C&G knew when they were showing the pics of that little girl that looked like Caylee, they knew quite well Caylee was not alive. Yet they were on the free KC train, and the defense at that point, at the expense of that little girl was, "Try and prove Caylee is even dead." They must have known KC did it, or what explanation could there be for shielding a murder they did not even know?
Mamabear - you remind me of my feisty mother (bless her soul). Born and raised in the south - wouldn't put up with nothing. Protected us, but by goodness, if we were wrong we had to face the consequences. I can't even fathom coming to her saying her grandson was gone and I didn't know where he was. She'd probably string me up by my big toes before LE could ever get to me. Don't get me wrong, she could be as sweet as a valentine, but mom also didn't put up with any carp either. We knew better than to lie (she could read us like a book) and heaven forbid if we ever sassed, or cursed in her presence (and I never did either).
What went on behind the A's doors that KC felt so comfortable dropping the F bombs at her family, stealing their money, and lying like a rug. I can tell you I was certainly raised in a different lifestyle, and am proud of it! As a 46 year old mom, I'm glad my parents were so strict.
“Do you not know that there comes a midnight hour when every one has to throw off his mask? Do you believe that life will always let itself be mocked? Do you think you can slip away a little before midnight in order to avoid this? Or are you not terrified by it?" - Soren Kierkegaard
I'd have to disagreeeeeee 100% with that opinion.
In fact, I think if anything the editing, reverse chronologizing (my new word!) of events and words has been done 99% of the time by who????
Can I get an..."A"...in fact any "A" will do!
Good word by the way.
He would have loved that kiss from you. He could never pass up a kisss from a pretty lady. LOL I will pass it on to him for sure.
God Bless honey.
Thanks to all of you that self edited, so we don't have to do it.