2010.06.19 ~ Kyron Horman's Blended Family

[amysmom]

Friends describe a close, supportive group

This was posted on the OregonLive site Saturday..It includes lots of info to help us better understand Kyron's family life & hopefully it will put to rest some rumors like why Kryon lives with Dad/Terri & much more.


http://www.oregonlive.com/portland/i..._family_f.html

[Kimster]

Discuss the facts listed in this article. No assumptions please. And the best car I ever had was a red Mustang so don't generalize about people who own red Mustangs or any other of the family dynamics! Some of the red Mustang owner comments I saw a few days ago didn't describe me at ALL so don't be putting their lives in a box.

This thread will be closed faster than a hot potato if rumors and gossip abound.

[miabellamoure]

Originally Posted by Kimster

Discuss the facts listed in this article. No assumptions please. And the best car I ever had was a red Mustang so don't generalize about people who own red Mustangs or any other of the family dynamics! Some of the red Mustang owner comments I saw a few days ago didn't describe me at ALL so don't be putting their lives in a box.

This thread will be closed faster than a hot potato if rumors and gossip abound.

Wish I had been blessed to be able to roll out these quips like you do...it really is a talent of speech!

[AbbieNormal]

Originally Posted by Kimster

Discuss the facts listed in this article. No assumptions please. And the best car I ever had was a red Mustang so don't generalize about people who own red Mustangs or any other of the family dynamics! Some of the red Mustang owner comments I saw a few days ago didn't describe me at ALL so don't be putting their lives in a box.

This thread will be closed faster than a hot potato if rumors and gossip abound.

I had a white 1985 white Mustang (last year they were carburated, as opposed to fuel injected) my muscle car hubby souped up for me. Think it had black stripe, can't remember. Was fast as he77, scared me sometimes it was so fast. I ended up selling it to someone, and took the $$ and bought my youngest daughter a car. Mustang had big fat tires in the back, it was HOT! Got a lot of "looks" from guys when I drove it, but it was NO GOOD in the snow.
FWIW

abbie

[grandmaj]

Originally Posted by Kimster

Discuss the facts listed in this article. No assumptions please. And the best car I ever had was a red Mustang so don't generalize about people who own red Mustangs or any other of the family dynamics! Some of the red Mustang owner comments I saw a few days ago didn't describe me at ALL so don't be putting their lives in a box.

This thread will be closed faster than a hot potato if rumors and gossip abound.

Do not bring undocumented information in. If it hasn't been printed in mainstream media it isn't discussed.

BBM

[grandmaj]

Originally Posted by Kimster

Discuss the facts listed in this article. No assumptions please. And the best car I ever had was a red Mustang so don't generalize about people who own red Mustangs or any other of the family dynamics! Some of the red Mustang owner comments I saw a few days ago didn't describe me at ALL so don't be putting their lives in a box.

This thread will be closed faster than a hot potato if rumors and gossip abound.

I think you all need to read this again. We don't make it up or make assumptions. That starts rumors. End of Debate for now. When someone comes out with a better timeline then we can talk about it. Until then lets move on with facts please.

[AbbieNormal]

Originally Posted by amysmom

Friends describe a close, supportive group

This was posted on the OregonLive site Saturday..It includes lots of info to help us better understand Kyron's family life & hopefully it will put to rest some rumors like why Kryon lives with Dad/Terri & much more.


http://www.oregonlive.com/portland/i..._family_f.html

I am sure Kyrons biological mom (can't keep all the names straight) feels a lot of guilt over this. I feel guilty over everything. It eats me up. I feel bad for her, if shes anything like me.

Thanks for the link, the article answered a lot of questions I had.
She still believes in Terri, apparently. Better woman than I am. JMO

Bless all of them, they have not given up hope.

abbie

[miabellamoure]

Originally Posted by AbbieNormal

I am sure Kyrons biological mom (can't keep all the names straight) feels a lot of guilt over this. I feel guilty over everything. It eats me up. I feel bad for her, if shes anything like me.

Thanks for the link, the article answered a lot of questions I had.
She still believes in Terri, apparently. Better woman than I am. JMO

Bless all of them, they have not given up hope.

abbie

Join the club...it's the sign of a good mom! It's the mom's who don't feel guilty or worry that worry me...

[AbbieNormal]

Originally Posted by miabellamoure

Join the club...it's the sign of a good mom! It's the mom's who don't feel guilty or worry that worry me...

BBM
Really? I feel better about it now. My gramma was such a worrier that when everything was going well, she would say, "Oh dear, something bad's gonna happen....things are going too well..." I am not that bad, but close. LOL

abbie

[AbbieNormal]

"FAMILIES" have evolved to be nothing like they were in the old days. I betcha blended families are more common today than "normal" families.

My oldest daughter got married and they had a baby 10 mos later, they seperated when the baby was almost 2, but have stayed married, insurance benefits etc from husband is one reason. They still love each other but not in a "lets get back together" way (even tho our whole family wishes they would) She has a BF that she has been with for 9 years now. Husband and BF get along, not bosom buddies but they both attend family cookouts, holiday visits, etc. Daughter and BF had a baby 2 yrs ago. Husband loves the baby as if its his own. Its bizarre, but hey, its my big dysfunctional family. It works for them, so whatever. I know many other bizarre family arrangements with other people we know, it works for them so whatever. As longs as kids are treated well and everyone gets along, go for it.
This family (Horman's) would not garner any attention at all if not for Kyron being missing. Their arrangement doesn't strike me as being shockingly strange, but I do give mad props to the non-bio dad ex hubby who still pays child support for his adopted son. Stand-up guy, need more of those, Thank You!

All JMO

abbie

[amysmom]

Originally Posted by AbbieNormal

I am sure Kyrons biological mom (can't keep all the names straight) feels a lot of guilt over this. I feel guilty over everything. It eats me up. I feel bad for her, if shes anything like me.

Thanks for the link, the article answered a lot of questions I had.
She still believes in Terri, apparently. Better woman than I am. JMO

Bless all of them, they have not given up hope.

abbie

I think the article puts a positive spin on both women & Kaine too who I had some doubts about being the male in the middle.

It's pretty clear to me from the letter to Kyron put out today that Desiree (bio-mom) feels tremendous guilt..This article helps me to better understand why not that I didn't already get it.

[Pensfan]

It is not a "blended" family when your good friend moves in with your ex-husband immediately after your marriage has dissolved and becomes his lover. This is called something else that I can't type here. LOL
http://www.oregonlive.com/portland/i..._family_f.html

Will it blend smoothly? HE** NO!

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[2goldfish]

Originally Posted by miabellamoure

Wish I had been blessed to be able to roll out these quips like you do...it really is a talent of speech!

you & me both

Originally Posted by Pensfan

It is not a "blended" family when your good friend moves in with your ex-husband immediately after your marriage has dissolved and becomes his lover. This is called something else that I can't type here. LOL
http://www.oregonlive.com/portland/i..._family_f.html

snipped by me


we dont actually know the circumstances - for all we know they had a very sweet and happy threeway going and if it worked for them far be it from me to judge.

[Kimster]

Originally Posted by Pensfan

It is not a "blended" family when your good friend moves in with your ex-husband immediately after your marriage has dissolved and becomes his lover. This is called something else that I can't type here. LOL
http://www.oregonlive.com/portland/i..._family_f.html

Will it blend? HE** NO!

Is this your professional opinion or personal opinion?

Coming from a step-family, I found that at certain times we blended well and at other times we all could have made better choices.

[Pensfan]

Originally Posted by Kimster

Is this your professional opinion or personal opinion?

Coming from a step-family, I found that at certain times we blended well and at other times we all could have made better choices.

Usually your friends know exactly why you filed for divorce and they don't want any part of your ex's "issues" either. They have heard alllllll about his faults from the best source, his wife who is their trusted friend.

When Desiree returned from receiving medical treatment in Canada (huh?), Kyron did not remain in her primary custody. This may have also caused some "non-blending" disharmony.

IMO, this article is really slanted to positively portray both families. There are some facts that are incorrectly stated and other important facts that are omitted.

[Kimster]

Originally Posted by Pensfan

Usually your friends know exactly why you filed for divorce and they don't want any part of your ex's "issues" either. They have heard alllllll about his faults from the best source, his wife who is their trusted friend.

When Desiree returned from receiving medical treatment in Canada (huh?), Kyron did not remain in her primary custody. This may have also caused some "non-blending" disharmony.

IMO, this article is really slanted to positively portray both families. There are some facts that are incorrectly stated and other important facts that are omitted.

Thanks for taking the time to elaborate. I was confused.

[Pensfan]

Originally Posted by Kimster

Thanks for taking the time to elaborate. I was confused.

There are lots of happy, blended families, but I don't think this would be one.

I think these two moms could have started their blended family with anger (you are living with my ex???) and distrust (you, my supposed friend, are living with my ex??)

[Donjeta]

I wonder why Terri's mother is under the impression that Terri started to take care of her boyfriend's baby straight after he was born if the truth is that she took care of her ill girlfriend's two-year-old and started a relationship later.

Kyron's biological mother, Desiree Horman, and his father were officially divorced in February 2003, according to Washington County Circuit Court records.

Carol Moulton said that Kaine, 36, and Terri, 40, have been together for seven or eight years and that they have been married for four or five years. The couple have an 18-month-old girl.

"Terri has raised Kyron," her mother said. "She's been with him since he was an infant. She's as much of a mom as the mom is because the parents had separated about the time that Kyron was born."

http://www.oregonlive.com/portland/i...the_day_k.html

[LadyL]

Originally Posted by Pensfan

Usually your friends know exactly why you filed for divorce and they don't want any part of your ex's "issues" either. They have heard alllllll about his faults from the best source, his wife who is their trusted friend.

When Desiree returned from receiving medical treatment in Canada (huh?), Kyron did not remain in her primary custody. This may have also caused some "non-blending" disharmony.

IMO, this article is really slanted to positively portray both families. There are some facts that are incorrectly stated and other important facts that are omitted.

[bbm]

such as?

[amysmom]

Originally Posted by Pensfan

It is not a "blended" family when your good friend moves in with your ex-husband immediately after your marriage has dissolved and becomes his lover

s&bbm

"Someone had to watch the baby," said Amanda Howards, the former wife of Kaine's brother Kristian. "Terri was her friend. She moved in just to help with the baby."

Maybe her helping with the baby was ALL it was at first?..Either way that was 2004 & they didn't marry until 2007..It also states the marriage would've dissolved a lot sooner IF Desiree didn't become pregnant with Kyron & even that didn't keep the marriage going since she filed for divorce while still pregnant..IOW! It doesn't sound like Desiree had any desire to be with Kaine so how much did she really care about him & Terri? If Kaine had dumped her then I could see the jealousy/anger angle playing out but I honestly don't see it from the way it all went down.

[glorybug]

From what I understood, that is not what happened at all.
What I read from the family was that biomom had most of the custody for about 2 years until she had kidney failure and had to get treatment in Canada. Her best friend still lived near her ex, and she asked the SM to move in as a caretaker for Kyron while the biodad worked. They were already divorced, and there is not one statement that says it was not amicable, nor that biomom was stabbed in the back- she ASKED her friend to do it, so she obviously did not care, and after a couple of years, she remarried, so why would she care?

I don't like friends who steal people's spouses any more than the next person, but the family has pretty much said this is NOT the case. I set my ex-husband up with my best friend years after our divorce. I knew they'd get along. Not everyone is mean and spiteful about their exes.

Until the family themselves say unkind things about each other, I am not going to let stereotyped ideas about families, or how people should react under grief influence my ponderance of the facts.

Originally Posted by Pensfan

It is not a "blended" family when your good friend moves in with your ex-husband immediately after your marriage has dissolved and becomes his lover. This is called something else that I can't type here. LOL
http://www.oregonlive.com/portland/i..._family_f.html

Will it blend smoothly? HE** NO!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qg1ckCkm8YI

[pufnstuf]

Originally Posted by glorybug

From what I understood, that is not what happened at all.
What I read from the family was that biomom had most of the custody for about 2 years until she had kidney failure and had to get treatment in Canada. Her best friend still lived near her ex, and she asked the SM to move in as a caretaker for Kyron while the biodad worked. They were already divorced, and there is not one statement that says it was not amicable, nor that biomom was stabbed in the back- she ASKED her friend to do it, so she obviously did not care, and after a couple of years, she remarried, so why would she care?

I don't like friends who steal people's spouses any more than the next person, but the family has pretty much said this is NOT the case. I set my ex-husband up with my best friend years after our divorce. I knew they'd get along. Not everyone is mean and spiteful about their exes.

Until the family themselves say unkind things about each other, I am not going to let stereotyped ideas about families, or how people should react under grief influence my ponderance of the facts.

I wonder who the source for that info was. If it was Carol Moulton, then I wonder why she changed the timeline from what she originally said:

Carol Moulton said that Kaine, 36, and Terri, 40, have been together for seven or eight years and that they have been married for four or five years.

Together for seven or eight years would put them "together" while either Desiree was pregnant with Kyron or Kyron was very young.

http://www.oregonlive.com/portland/i...the_day_k.html

[Pensfan]

Originally Posted by glorybug

From what I understood, that is not what happened at all.
What I read from the family was that biomom had most of the custody for about 2 years until she had kidney failure and had to get treatment in Canada. Her best friend still lived near her ex, and she asked the SM to move in as a caretaker for Kyron while the biodad worked. They were already divorced, and there is not one statement that says it was not amicable, nor that biomom was stabbed in the back- she ASKED her friend to do it, so she obviously did not care, and after a couple of years, she remarried, so why would she care?

I don't like friends who steal people's spouses any more than the next person, but the family has pretty much said this is NOT the case. I set my ex-husband up with my best friend years after our divorce. I knew they'd get along. Not everyone is mean and spiteful about their exes.

Until the family themselves say unkind things about each other, I am not going to let stereotyped ideas about families, or how people should react under grief influence my ponderance of the facts.

But Terri didn't stay home to be the babysitter. She began competitive body building. To begin to successfully compete in this "sport", one needs approx 4-6 hours/day each day of various work outs and a good trainer.
http://theportlander.com/2010/06/08/...disappearance/
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[AlexisFresca]

Originally Posted by Pensfan

It is not a "blended" family when your good friend moves in with your ex-husband immediately after your marriage has dissolved and becomes his lover. This is called something else that I can't type here. LOL
http://www.oregonlive.com/portland/i..._family_f.html

Will it blend smoothly? HE** NO!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qg1ckCkm8YI

Imo, it would also explain Desiree's demeanor at the first press conference, for those of us who picked up an 'iciness' from her towards Terri.

Edit to add, it looks like I missed something. Were Desiree and Terri friends before the marriage break-ups?

[supermom71]

Personally, the article raised more questions for me and I don't think it painted TH in the best light.