8 Die in Crash on Taconic State Parkway #2

[SwampMama]

Originally Posted by nosysw

This seems very odd to me. Wanting people to "know" the girls. "Future art teacher", "future mother-in-law", "future college roommate". Very strange. I guess she is still struggling in giving up her dreams for them. So, sad.

And, you know what? After the hell she has been through, I would support just about anything she did. She gets a pass at it all, IMO.

I didn't know it at the time, but she grew up in my town, and I know several people who were her high school friends. Very well liked and highly regarded. She, and her husband, will remain in my prayers forever. I hope they can find some peace.

It seems rather normal to me. Her daughters won't be growing up or living out their dreams and as a mom, she wants their lives to be remembered, wants people to understand just what a loss it is to everyone that they are gone, wants to share what a joy they were and how much they were loved. I totally get it.

[Davereid]

I went and read their comments. I really understand their anger. However, I guess I do not agree with them blaming the Hance family so much. I agree with the quote from the one Bastardi book about not doing it right from the beginning but still do not think it is her brother's responsibility. Even if he had called 911 they may not have gotten there in time anyway. Besides witnesses said she was oblivious to anything going on around her as she drove the wrong way. Would police been able to stop her or block traffic on the highway in time? The whole situation is just horrible but blaming the Hance family just seems like the wrong thing. I mean sue their insurance company but do not publicly blame them.

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[rpd113]

Here's more from the Jackie Hance w/ Ann Curry interview

http://www.today.com/books/mom-girls...t-us-1B9518754

Jackie says she spoke to Diane during the fatal drive, and that she "wasn't making any sense." Also that she never knew Diane to drink and initially the police reports had to be a mistake.

The full interview will air Friday night on NBC's Rock Center.

[nosysw]

Originally Posted by SwampMama

It seems rather normal to me. Her daughters won't be growing up or living out their dreams and as a mom, she wants their lives to be remembered, wants people to understand just what a loss it is to everyone that they are gone, wants to share what a joy they were and how much they were loved. I totally get it.

I don't have daughters, I have four sons. I guess I just don't think I would write a book to help strangers, who would not have known them anyway, to get to know them. I guess I'm just really private about certain things so it seems strange to me. I think I would rather name something, like a bench under a tree at their school to read under, in their honor, for people who knew them to enjoy. But people who didn't know them? I would just want to be left alone by them. To share my grief privately.

Didn't really mean to criticize her. It just seems odd, to me.

[Davereid]

My brother-in-law is a pretty bad alcoholic and I would not let my kids ride with him for any length of time. Even so he does not generally drink while driving. I would think if they did suspect she had a drinking problem they would not let their girls go with them. But I guess you can deny anything. Who would ever think anyone would do what she did?

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[carole]

Originally Posted by nosysw

I don't have daughters, I have four sons. I guess I just don't think I would write a book to help strangers, who would not have known them anyway, to get to know them. I guess I'm just really private about certain things so it seems strange to me. I think I would rather name something, like a bench under a tree at their school to read under, in their honor, for people who knew them to enjoy. But people who didn't know them? I would just want to be left alone by them. To share my grief privately.

Didn't really mean to criticize her. It just seems odd, to me.

I think it's just her way of handling her grief. I'm like you, I think. I might write a journal for myself about my children, how they were and what my dreams had been for them, it would be a way to remember them, sort of like looking at old photos.