My experience was very similar, and I also found someone who helped us get away from it... and I am glad that you got away, time helps the healing doesn't it?
GBC strikes me as someone who {IMO} may not have been violent all the time, maybe not at all, but could have been very strong on the controlling and emotional abuse. The emotional abuse is the one that wears you down, and there's no bruises or scars to prove at exists.
The fact that he has had affairs etc shows that he had little respect for his wife and daughters. I know, not everyone who has an affair is a bad person, but this guy is a repeat offender. He seems to hold himself in high regard. All about him. Allsion may not have feared for her life that night until it actually happened. She may have been use to the anger and arrogance and threats, but even she may not have thought he would ever take things to that extreme.
I am so saddened that you have been through a similar experience to mine,I do hope you are able to move on .You are right Linette time does heal the wounds.
It's so very true,when you said emotional abuse wears you done,it does chip away at you,carrying the scars on the inside,withering from the inside out.
I also think along the same lines as you,anyone that has affairs whilst in a relationship,don't have any respect for their partners or children,but you know what Linette,they have no self respect for themselves.9 times out of 10,they have very low self esteems,they like to conquer,to empower themselves,because they actually feel so lousy about themselves.
My ex husband reminds me of GBC,people held him high regard,in the music industry,own show on tv,given the order of Australia for his work with children,if only the walls had ears.
He had a autobiography come out and in this one chapter,he stated that any woman that married a man like him ,in the music industry,couldn't be that stupid to think that there would not be on going affairs ,comes with the job,good to be king!That was the beginning of the end.I only confided in a few close friends,yet all his band knew,now the whole world,I feelt so degraded,and what made it even worse my family now knew and our two eldest children ,who read his book.
Things went down hill for him after that,people saw him a different light,lost the respect they once had for him,no more tv show.A walking condradiction.
GBC does appear to hold himself in high regard, all about me ,me, me.
I have a feeling ,he didn't have a very close relationship with his father,and may have always wanted his approval,just my thoughts....Maybe thats why Olivia,joined the forces,sometimes people do that,to have order in their life ,and one set of rules,normality.
Sorry I am waffling,I'm losing my train of thought