And she appears to take each and every one. Even the ones in her head and she answers the voices.
I wish I could come to some sort of conclusion about her, but I just can't. I've never walked in her shoes. I never will, since I have no kids or grands.
UGH!
To those of you who are grands ... seriously, what would you do? This sounds so awful ... save your murdering daughter to preserve what's left of the family or lose the whole family?
Trying to get the motivation. Ugh, is her daughter worth more than her grandaughter?
Ugh, ugh, ugh.
I'm a grand, a Nana. I have one son, two grandbabies. I think about this all the time as I watch Cindy. Is her daughter worth more than her granddaughter? What a question! And how to answer given the complexity of all the emotions a parent/grandparent would go through.
My son is very special to me and so are my grandchildren. My son is a single parent (their mom is crazy):crazy: and I help him all I can. I see my grandchildren almost daily.
The differences between me and Cindy are important.... My son is not a liar (except for the minor type of lies everyone tells) and he is a good parent. Casey has been lying for years and Cindy knows it. I would support my son, strongly and aggressively. But again, he is not a liar, he did not go out and party after his child went missing. Cindy has clues here that she is choosing to ignore. The clues follow the pattern of Casey's teenage behavior, in my opinion. If my son acted like Casey when he was a teenager, I think I would have to face the reality now. I'm not an ostrich. AND I would continue to fight for and support my son. But I would not tolerate the behavior I see out of Casey. I think Cindy knows but the pain is too much to bear. I think Cindy has made excuses for Casey all her life until just recently. When Casey stole the credit cards and other money from her parents, knowing full well that her parents were not in the best financial position and that G & C were having relationship problems, I think Cindy finally began to realize just how selfish Casey really is. I think G & C came to the conclusion that Casey had to go. I don't think they wanted Caylee to go, but without a court order they couldn't keep her.
I also think there was a big blowout fight and Casey got mad. Decided she would put G & C on baby restriction (my dil used to do this to me all the time). So off she went with Caylee and the rest is history. BUT I think it is guilt over the blow out, guilt over finally making Casey own up to her actions and calling her bluff that keeps Cindy in this dark denial.
If it was my son, I would be angry, hurt, devastated. But not guilty. My son has been taught to own up to his actions, not to lie, not to steal, not to be rude or mean. I would demand the truth and I'm sure I would get it. This can never happen with Cindy and Casey. I don't think Casey will ever talk.
If this were my son, I would demand a guilty plea, no wasting of time, energy or resources to prove something that he already knew was true. I'm pretty sure he would plead because I don't think he could live with himself if, heaven forbid, he was ever in this position.
We have had several posters in this forum talking about their own lives with husbands/boyfriends/sons/daughters/cousins, etc. who have similar personality traits as Casey and describing how they have or have not dealt with the issues. Some recognized it in their child early on and have worked on ways to combat the "illness" so to speak. Unfortunately, I don't think G & C were willing to recognize that Casey had a problem when she was young or if they did, then they excused everything because of the problem instead of finding a way to deal with it.
I think the family dynamics is one of the most interesting aspects of this case.
I think I wrote a book - Sorry to be so long-winded.
Salem
