Hello from Ireland,
This is my first post here - so be gentle with me!
It's wonderful to see how much international attention the Madeleine story is receiving, it truly has captured so many hearts.
I'll admit to being utterly obsessed with it - my search for information led me here - it just occupies my thoughts all day and much of the night, it's utterly heartbreaking thinking about what the parents are going through. I'm not a religious person but even I have taken to praying lately, begging for her safe return.
The discussion on this thread has been fascinating, although I've found the attacks on Madeleine's parents to be painful to read.
Of course, and I dont dispute this, if you look at the cold facts then the parents made a desperate mistake that night, but to accuse them of negligence, I think, is cruel.
I have stayed in several similar complexes in Portugal to the one the McCanns were staying in. They all had the feeling of being safe, enclosed, family-friendly communities, a feeling that was reinforced by the atmosphere in these Portuguese coastal towns, which is generally relaxed, laidback with no sense of threat or hint of crime. Thats why so many families from other parts of Europe go there (The Algarve), because there is that sense of peaceful, carefree security that no longer exists in most European towns and cities.
You have to understand that to understand why the McCanns did what they did that night. Not in one million years, I believe, would they have done the same in their home countries, Scotland and England, but they were lulled in to a false sense of security in Portugal and it now proves to be false because of the actions of, perhaps, just one man.
The Algarve reminds me of how Ireland used to be about 20 years ago, which is part of its charm. I know it to be a beautiful, gentle part of the world, where kids are adored, so before this happened I too would have been much less careful than at home. And believe me, when it comes to kids I trust no one, but Portugal just always felt like a safe haven from a crazy world.
Because of all this the McCanns clearly believed, in their innocence as it so tragically proved, that their children would be safe on the complex that evening. Sometimes its almost suggested that they went wandering off in to the town to eat, leaving the kids behind, but they didnt, they stayed on the complex for their meal, checking on the kids every half hour or so.
They were, in fact, physically closer to their kids than many of us are day to day, even at home. Youre upstairs making the bed, your kids playing at the end of the garden, your kid disappears, are you a negligent parent? I dont think so, I think you are a desperately unlucky parent who has fallen victim to pure evil. As the McCanns have.
So, their crime, in my humble view, was one of innocence, not negligence. Yes, I know those who have criticised them will say that when it comes to kids parents simply cannot be innocent, they must be on their guard at all times. Theyre right, of course, and no one knows that better now than the McCanns. They dont need to be punished by the law, as some have suggested, they will be tortured by it for the rest of their lives.
They were, from everything I have read and heard, loving, devoted parents who went through the ordeal of IVF treatment to have their children. What says it all for me is that Kate McCann (a doctor) was about to reduce her working week to two days so that she could spend more time with her children. How many professional men or women are prepared to do that any more? Of course, few parents have that choice due to financial strains, but still more choose to put their careers above the importance of spending as much time as possible with their kids in their formative years. Kate McCann, therefore, strikes me as a selfless parent whose children were the most important things in her life.
On another point, theres been quite a bit of discussion here about European attitudes to caring for children. The really important thing to remember is that Europe is a continent made up of dozens of countries, most with very different cultures and outlooks on life. Portugal, for example, is as different from Germany as chalk and cheese; England and Greece may as well be on different planets; Ireland and Austria have nothing in common, neither have France and Poland, etc. Different religions, languages, histories, politics, ideologies, everything. So, its simply not possible to make sweeping generalisations about Europe, just as its not appropriate to do so about American states. Having spent a little time in New York and Los Angeles I know they have as much in common as Portugal and Germany!
Finally, be wary of some of the articles youre reading from English and Portuguese newspaper websites some of the reporting has been scandalous. For example,
Expresso reported yesterday that Sergey Malinka, the Russian taken in for questioning, was a convicted child sex offender. It turns out that he has never committed a crime in his life (he had recently been checked out by the Portuguese when he applied for residency), they were confusing him with a rumoured Russian sex offender who the police are said to be looking for.
As for Robert Murat. Yes, his behaviour has been odd, and there is some circumstantial evidence that makes him look suspect, but from what I can gather there is not a shred of evidence against him yet. But he has already been convicted by the British and Portuguese press.
Thats it! Talk to you all later.
Kathy
PS I heard on the news tonight that the McCanns no longer turn on the news on TV because they find it so upsetting. Whenever Madeleine's photo appeared on the screen their young twins would get excited and wave at her. The heartbreak gets worse by the day.