Originally Posted by missVT77
I don't see what good attacking Brooke's mother can do. She made a huge mistake and probably feels the worst and lowest of all human beings on Earth. There is no way she could feel any lower. There is nothing more that can be taken from her.
You can't insult and berate someone into being a smarter, more involved parent. If they are not that way already and naturally, then you can't make them be. The fact is that anyone in this country can have kids for whatever reason they want. Or on accident for no reason at all when they didn't really want them--that happens all the time. Even mentally ill people can have children and raise them to think Elvis is God. As long as the parent is not neglecting or abusing the child by law, which has some pretty lenient standards, they can have however many kids they want. Even if they can't afford to support them and/or are too stupid to raise them correctly they can have 10 kids and the government will support them and do it's best to help raise them.
If you really want to stop it, I think we would need to be like China and put strict limits on who can have children. Maybe everyone is fixed at birth and they have to apply and get approved to have children. Then all kids would at least be on purpose and wanted, for some reason. I think people would appreciate their kids more and take better care of them if they were not so simple to get.
I don't know her, but I've known women like her, and they usually feel more sorry for themselves, and have no shame in what happened, but she's probably embarrassed for herself.
Why didn't she call to report her daughter missing 12 hours? Why did she ask LE not to discuss the "family dynamics" at the presser?
She's all about herself..imo.
Who said anything about doing what China does? Nobody.
The way you get people stop parenting like this mom is to educate about sex offenders and how they are not treatable. Another way to get people to stop neglecting their kids is to call them out on their stupidly when they make very bad decisions.....like allowing their young daughter to hang around a convicted violent sex offender. There isn't anything wrong with shaming someone into feeling guilty. Quilt and shame used to be a good deterrent for bad behavor.
People surrounding women like Cassandra and Denise, who tell them things like, "It's ok, you did your best, your loss is punishment enough", are enablers who are part of the problem.
No matter how poorly people behave there is always someone or even some group to say, "Take it easy on them." Now, everybody is so theraputic and wants to "understand their pain."
I get that pov to some degree, but not when a childs safety is at stake.
jmo
PS.
To the poster who said something about me not blaming the bio dad.
I think it was said by someone who knows him (the poster "Brooks Aunt"), that he had many concerns and didn't want Brooke around uncle. You know, when you are the one who doesn't have custody, it's hard to dictate things like who Brooke can see when she's with the mom. Especially if the uncle served his time and wasn't on any restrictions. Legally, it would have been near impossible to get custody from the mom by claiming the uncle was a danger. Of course common sense knows he is....obviously.
That's why, IMO, he's not as culpable as the mom.
