HeartRuledHead
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Hi HeartRuledHead
I think a lot of the reason many may come across as so vicious and angry towards TM, is the length of the affair. It's not like it was a short fling (not suggesting at all that that would be acceptable either), but 3 -4 years is a long time and then for the affair to end, only to resume again so soon after. Also, she must have known Allison, and worked with her for at least some of those years. Did she not have any respect for Allison? Unfortunately it appears she put her own selfish wants and needs above all else.
Maybe TM really did love Gerard, and maybe she really thought he would leave Allison for her, but he didn't. Why didn't Toni walk away much much earlier?
I am sure it was probably Gerard who pursued TM, but she did always have a choice to say no. I also can't understand why you'd even want to be with someone who was so deceitful that he would string his wife along for 3 years plus.
I'm sure Toni wasn't his first infidelity, and obviously not his last. Quite possibly there are plenty more than the other 2 supposed mistresses.
While I don't believe she is responsible for Allison's death, she obviously played a big part in Allison's misery prior to her death.
I think it's highly likely that Gerard would have done the evil deed, regardless of whether he was still seeing TM, even if he'd never met her. I also doubt whether Gerard ever had any real intentions of 'officially' being with Toni. If he had have felt so strongly for her, wouldn't he have left Allison sooner? I reckon TM was probably just another big use for him, she was serving some purpose, much of that probably financial.
I agree with you in that I don't think people should poke holes in Toni's appearance (or his other family members for that matter). It's not even vaguely relevant.
All MOO
I agree with everything you have said. You are rational. I never meant to come across defending the affair at all, but they do happen every day (no excuse) though I am sure anyone who ever participated in an affair would anticipate that it could end in murder. Other than perhaps the murder of the participants once the wife/husband found out.
If there were no suggestions that TM was aware or responsible. Nor comments in relation to her look. I would not be defensive of her actions.
In no way to I defend the affair itself. I just believe she let her heart rule her head and she made this mistake that she has to live with.
It does not make her a mastermind, accomplice or murderer though.
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