I admit to being interested in the dynamics of BSL's family/adoption story, but also, I feel badly about my interest.
BSL has destroyed the lives of everyone in his family, adoptive or biological. We are looking at the intimate details of their lives here. We really have no right to know about their medical conditions, adoption stories, etc. They aren't killers; nor are they celebrities, politicans or someone else seeking the public's interest. I feel badly about wanting to invade their privacy and that BSL has brought this upon them as well.
They have every right not to come out and clear up the intricacies of his family tree & adoption story, etc. That's their business and none of us would care if wasn't for the fact that BSL is a murderer. I kind of feel like we're allowing BSL to convince us to throw some level of suspicion on them (what happened to make him turn out this way?) when really it is no one's fault besides BSL. Not any mentally ill relative, not even the person who abused him are Mickey's & Lisa's killer. (if that story is true, she's guilty of sexually abusing a boy and that is terrible- but she is still not the person who killed Lisa or Mickey- BSL made the choice to do that all on his own).
It was BSL who ultimately CHOSE to kill and rape women. Plenty of people are raised around mentally ill family members and are abused. I've read that one out of four women are sexually abused/assaulted at one time in their lives. 1/4 of all women don't become killers. If we did an anonymous poll on WS, my guess is that a significant number of us on here (especially women), have been the subject of sexual abuse/assault at one time or another. Many of these members were probably brought to WS for this very reason.
BSL's choices are his and his alone. Not his family's. I feel kind of sick about my own interest in his family and family dynamics. I feel like I am a part of further victimizing his family, in a way.
I think we get in a weird territory when we're looking at the family for reasons why killers are they way they are. We can look at Ted Bundy and how he believed his grandparents were his parents for a long time and then he learned it was his "sister" who was actually his mother. We could say that's why he killed women. Except that same story is the story of Jack Nicholson's childhood, and he channeled that strange experience into art by being an actor. Ted Bundy CHOSE to channel whatever anger he had by killing women. We could say BSL was adopted and so were other serial killers - but so was Steve Jobs, the founder of Apple. So was Faith Hill. Most adopted kids don't grow up to be serial killers. Most abused children also don't grow up to be rapists or killers.
