cami
Keep your fork......
Darlie was a stay at home mother, she had no interest in working. Darin made a good living. Until the last year that is when his business flattened out and there were no more jobs.Perhaps Darlie could not believe that he had done it. It's hard to believe that someone you've loved and been with for years could try and kill you and kill your/their children.
I've been in an abusive relationship for twelve years and, even though I knew I was being taken advantage of, I'd never thought that I'd been manipulated. After things got out of control and he almost got physical with me, and started making death threats to me, my family and a friend of mine, I suddenly started to process the last twelve years of my life and realize just how much of a liar and of a manipulator he'd been with me. So, because I've been there, I can tell you that sometimes it's just plain denial from the part of the victim. "No, my loved one would never do such a thing. I must have interpreted things all wrong. I must be the one having problems, not him/her." Those are the kind of thoughts that start running in people who've been psychologically abused for a while.
I can't say for sure that this is the kind of relationship that Darlie and Darin were in but... from what I read, she was pretty much taking care of everything (house, kids, meals, paying the bills) while he was out working and maybe not just working... if you know what I mean. Yes, he gave her jewels, but a woman needs attention and help around the house more than she needs jewels... so that does not mean that he was a great husband afterall. It used to be like that for me too... minus the jewels. Because we were broke since he spent all "our" money for his own leisure. I had to take care of everything. Cooking, cleaning, grocery shopping, laundry, taking care of our son, etc. It was my responsibility because he was earning more money than me... because he wanted me home to take care of everything and would throw fits when I'd have to work weekends or evenings. Anyways... I guess this post will be confusing to many of you but... all I'm trying to say is that... with the things that I've had the time to realize over the last year or so about my relationship with my ex, well... I can see similarities in Darlie's situation. And maybe in Darin's temper/way of thinking. And that leads me to think that maybe Darlie was just really trusting her husband who was not a good person at all and who used her. She may not have had the time to realize it before it was too late. And maybe now she is ashamed to talk about it, or someone told her it was in her best interest not to implicate Darin in order to try and get herself out of death row.
I mean, what if someone told her that Drake could risk losing both his parents if she did implicate Darin but failed to lay the charges off her? Or maybe these are just her thoughts. But I sincerely hope that one day, she will get the courage and the help necessary to make things move and prove the world that they were wrong about her.
Sorry for the long post... but I had to try and explain how I see things.
Darin was not abusive in any way. He worshipped Darlie and gave her whatever she wanted.
Darlie committed the murders, not Darin, all the forensic evidence points to her, not Darin. Darin is accusing her on the 911 call, that's pretty clear. Darin lied and helped her but he did not murder those boys, she did.
The only way she is going to move is to find evidence, physical evidence of an intruder in her home that night stabbing her boys.