Totally agree with the OP
@thekirbyfamily about so much of her post and the pain of what she has experienced in the State comes through in every word of the post IMO. Virtual hug being sent to
@thekirbyfamily as I cannot reach her by PM!
IMO its not just the issues with Govt and the Judiciary but its the economy, cost of living, absence of services and on down the line of items that together represent quality of life in CT. For someone not from the area its hard to describe the social alienation present in most of the suburbs as the view of the state is clouded in many respects by the wealth of its residents IMO and there is a surface gloss to many of the suburbs that looks like everyone is fine and everything is perfect. I am sure this statement will generate pushback but most people are so focused on figuring out how to make a living to support themselves and their families in a super high cost area of the country that IMO there simply isn't much left to give to neighbors, friends and even the community.
Because the cost of living is so high the population is largely transient and I believe most people stay to take advantage of the schools for their children and then they leave. I'm not sure most people care about lasting relationship in the communities where they reside because most people don't plan to retire in the State and so they simply leave. In most suburbs its a revolving door of neighbors and frankly in many places people don't even know their neighbors. Isolation is real as is high stress to continue to reside in the state.
@thekirbyfamily talks about all these issues and in my experiece what she has experienced is sadly not atypical. A major poll just came out two weeks ago that said that 50% of the residents of CT plan to leave in 5 years! Most likely IMO this is because their children will be graduating or they will be retiring. Its a sad state of affairs that hides behind some of the most beautiful suburbs in the country IMO. Sure there are some wonderful people and communities scattered throughout the state but overall living in CT as a single parent in particular is highly stressful financially and the social isolation is not easy to describe in a way that would make sense to people not from this area.
Clearly
@thekirbyfamily has had a horrific experience and no doubt JD even with enough money to solve most of here issues felt the same isolation in NC as a single parent. JD was lucky to have the community surrounding NCCS and it sounds like she had some wonderful friends. But it is estimated that NCCS for 5 children cost something on the order of $250,000/yr! But even so, the isolation of living in a large house in the woods is not to be underestimated.
I wish I could PM
@thekirbyfamily to share some resources that might help her family and situation as some do exist but its not possible due to her account settings. My heart breaks to hear what she has had to endure in CT largely alone and also as a caregiver of children. I don't have words to think about anyplace that allows for homeless single mothers and children when the overall wealth present in the state should be sufficient to shelter them but the bureaucracy associated with these issues is largely broken and so much falls onto local non profits to fill the gap. There are some wonderful not for profits working with single mothers but its hard to access them sometimes.
I simply can write no more about this topic as I find it so upsetting, but I won't give up talking about this topic of single mothers and homelessness in CT as its a real issue. No human being or children should have to experience what
@thekirbyfamily describes IMO. I just feel tears right now.
MOO
