To whatever degree the response of the McLeods and Bryer’s family could be described as denial, I think it’s still within expected range at this point. When you genuinely don’t understand, it’s realistic to wait for more facts. In a way it’s the last bit of parenting you get to do in a circumstance like this - support your child and believe in him until it’s clear he is responsible.
The silver and gold for parental denial have got to go to Shannon Adamcik and Madeleine Burns respectively. I learned about Shannon Adamcik from somebody here in an earlier thread, and have since read her crazy *advertiser censored* book. Burns is Dellen Millard’s mother. I’ll try and dig up her letter and post it. If you don’t know that case, it is a fairly incredible one for many reasons, and worth a look. Some superficial similarities to this case in that we had one “respectable” friend and one obviously troubled one, and between the two of them three people ended up dead. There are a couple of ‘60 Minutes’ type pieces that are well done and give a good sense if anybody is interested during a lull. (CBS 60 Minutes type, not tabloidy 60 Minutes type):
Also a good long form CBC article:
https://www.cbc.ca/interactives/longform/news/wayward-son-dellen-millard-tim-bosma-trial