It's hard for me to believe that ICA never abused Caylee. Several reasons. 1. How could a supposedly loving mother go from never disciplining let alone abusing to murdering a child? 2. We have all seen ICA's temper...enough said. 3. There was a lot of time that ICA was supposed to be working, that she had to have had Caylee, since there was no nanny...and that goes back to #1...how in all that time did she never abuse her child, but got so angry with her she killed her on a whim. We all know she was researching ways to kill someone, and whether it was for her parents or Caylee, we will never know. But if it had been for Caylee, then it was obviously on her mind for months that she wanted to get rid of her.
I am more inclined to think that it wasn't necessarily physical abuse, but more along the lines of mental abuse because ICA is a master at playing mind games and I would not be surprised at all to learn that she had done some horrid mentally abusive things to Caylee prior to killing her.
I think the problem is that we don't want to believe a person can just snap. That there HAS to be signs. Other wise, it could happen to any of us. A friend of mine has bought JB's opening statements. She has a hard time believing that this Mother could do that to her child. Just can't get past that point.
But, about what you were saying. It only takes a second. I strong shake, and some kids are killed. Not all parents "ment' to kill their child. It might have been the 1 and only time. Yet it happens. IT only takes a second to take things to far, no going back.
WE have all seen her temper. Hers and her Mothers (CA) If she was fit to be tied from an argument between her and her Mother (CA), it might not have taken much to make a scene from "Mommy Dearest" that might have been the only time she totally lost it that bad. When they drove off, Caylee might be reacting to the stressful event. Crying, maybe wanting to go home. Which to ICA might be seen as wanting to go to CA.
Remember, all the research and story's was pointing to the G-Parents death, not the baby. She might not have been planning on murdering Caylee. It might just have happened during a fit of rage. That she later excused some how in her mind. Turning it all into 'about' her hatred of CA.
She would not have HAD to have been an abusive Mother, to have lost it that night in a fit of rage, go to far and kill her daughter.