NY NY - Robert Mayer, 46, Dix Hills, 14 Jun 2013 - # 7

[CatFancier]

Robert Mayer

45
White Male
6' to 6'1"
200 lbs.
Hair - Brown
Eyes - Green
Currently unshaven

Nickname - Rob

Left hand, middle finger was slightly chopped off tip – has nail, but middle finger is shorter -
Clothing - Probably wearing blue or gray collared polo with J.C.Electrical logo,
jeans, Black work boots, possible baseball cap, ray ban sunglasses

No ID, no Wallet

Robert Mayer went to work June 14, 2013. He was seen at work with his car. He was last seen at a scrap metal yard around 2:15. His car – a 2004 red Pontiac GTO- was located the next day, Saturday, June 15 at 8:30 p.m. at the Deer Park Train Station, a few miles from the house. Roberts family states that he never takes the train as he drives to and from work. His car was found abandoned at Deer Park train station His family says that Robert has never stayed away from home.Robert does not have identification on him, as his wallet was found at home. He has not been seen or heard from. His case remains unsolved.

If any information Please contact

Suffolk County Police Department
631-697-6186

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[CatFancier]

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[BunnyHop]

Brought this forward :seeya:

Seeing that we have very few facts (if any) I was running a few scenarios through my mind trying to simplify.

1. Rob left on his own.
Did he want his freedom? Was he in trouble? Was he scared?

2. Rob left and harmed himself.

3. Witness protection. Why?

4. Foul play. Was it all staged? What is the motive?

Occam's Razor and all that. Unless someone comes forward or real truth comes out, I'm afraid I'm stuck.

 

[Londonrraine]

Should anyone have any information, please call.

24 hour tip line (910) 232-1687
All information submitted to CUE Center For Missing Persons is confidential.

 

[Eileen730]

I would hope if Robert told Ida he was leaving her she would say so.
I hope he was t reported missing as payback.

 

[Philigumbo]

I would hope if Robert told Ida he was leaving her she would say so.
I hope he was t reported missing as payback.

I hope so,too, Eileen, however I'm thinking the abandoned spouse will be deemed more favorably in divorce and child custody proceedings...anic:
:moo:

 

[Eileen730]

:floorlaugh:

I hope so,too, Eileen, however I'm thinking the abandoned spouse will be deemed more favorably in divorce and child custody proceedings...anic:
:moo:

That's what I was thinking afte all who would know better than a lawyer?

 

[McSpy]

If you missed it, read the last couple of comments posted below this article about the dropped call:

http://thenewcivilrightsmovement.co...o-one-knows-where-he-is/news/2013/08/15/73123

 

[Eileen730]

Don't you all think goodbye I love u is strange? Not gotta go see ya tonight love ya!

 

[Drib]

Don't you all think goodbye I love u is strange? Not gotta go see ya tonight love ya!

I'm stuck on the fact they have this busy weekend planned, errands to run and they never spoke again that day. No call on the way home asking if you need anything, not a text or anything. I believe the timeline states he was last seen on the job at 12:30 and cell pinged at 1:45 on Long Island. He left early that day. Odd to me they didn't talk the rest of the day. The seemingly perfect couple and no communication aside from a 9am call? That sticks out to me. So does he was the perfect guy with the perfect life, wife, kids etc.. That was overkill.

 

[To Kill a Mockingbird]

If you missed it, read the last couple of comments posted below this article about the dropped call:

http://thenewcivilrightsmovement.co...o-one-knows-where-he-is/news/2013/08/15/73123

5th paragraph from the bottom...
last 2 sentences....


There is no dramatic backstory here that would indicate any suspicion of Robert Mayer. His disappearance is like sudden rain out of a clear blue sky.

 

[JustyThoughts]

Somewhat OT but significant in my opinion -
Often one missing person case can give insights useful to another case. In addition, different cases show the differences in how cases are handled by LE and those closest to the case.

There is a similar missing person case in CT - Robert Hoagland, 50.

There is a WS Discussion Forum page for RH. He went missing July 28, 2013.

Here is a FB page link to: HelpUs Find Hoagy
https://www.facebook.com/HelpUsFindHoagie?fref=ts

Maybe useful/helpful.

 

[desensitized]

I think it's strange that she says she gave him a list of errands in the morning, then started to worry when he was only an hour late? wouldnt it be expected he wasn't arriving home at his usual time if she gave him errands?

it almost makes me feel sorry for my own boyfriend, it would take me so much longer to suspect he was missing. for the first evening I'd prolly just be sending him f'ed up texts. then I'd go to sleep. if he were still gone in the morning I would call and text with concern, and I would start contacting everyone he knows. if no one knows anything and I've not heard back I'd call LE late afternoon- early evening.

 

[Jerry516]

Brought this forward :seeya:

Seeing that we have very few facts (if any) I was running a few scenarios through my mind trying to simplify.

1. Rob left on his own.
Did he want his freedom? Was he in trouble? Was he scared?

2. Rob left and harmed himself.

3. Witness protection. Why?

4. Foul play. Was it all staged? What is the motive?

Occam's Razor and all that. Unless someone comes forward or real truth comes out, I'm afraid I'm stuck.

Totally agreed Bunny----About the ONLY fact we have is that he isnt home and hasnt shown up for work.

EVERYTHING else is fair game.....I am even starting to doubt he actually made it in to work that morning.

But unless we get some more crumbs, all we keep doing is going round and round, dissecting words/statements.....but really at the end of the day we have ZERO!

I am tired---and unless we get a statement from LE, I believe nothing.....any crumbs we get are NOT confirmed facts or are possibly modified for whatever reason.

So I now choose to believe LE, and ONLY LE. And they arent speaking. I am pretty sure that they have seen this a million times, it probably fits their typical case of a person leaving of their own free will. They know what they are doing as we all personally know our own job skills in our lives.....I have to believe they know what to look for....and this missing person must seem quite normal for them, as bizarre as it seems to us.

 

[Jerry516]

Totally agreed Bunny----About the ONLY fact we have is that he isnt home and hasnt shown up for work.

EVERYTHING else is fair game.....I am even starting to doubt he actually made it in to work that morning.

But unless we get some more crumbs, all we keep doing is going round and round, dissecting words/statements.....but really at the end of the day we have ZERO!

I am tired---and unless we get a statement from LE, I believe nothing.....any crumbs we get are NOT confirmed facts or are possibly modified for whatever reason.

So I now choose to believe LE, and ONLY LE. And they arent speaking. I am pretty sure that they have seen this a million times, it probably fits their typical case of a person leaving of their own free will. They know what they are doing as we all personally know our own job skills in our lives.....I have to believe they know what to look for....and this missing person must seem quite normal for them, as bizarre as it seems to us.

And by the way, I am certain what REALLY happened to RM has been hit upon multiple times from the WS members here, as I believe we have pretty much hit on every possible scenario. :fence:

Now its a waiting game to see what the real outcome ends up being.
I will sit back and keep tabs until we get results :HHJP:

 

[MomWhoLovesDragons]

Totally agreed Bunny----About the ONLY fact we have is that he isnt home and hasnt shown up for work.

EVERYTHING else is fair game.....I am even starting to doubt he actually made it in to work that morning.

But unless we get some more crumbs, all we keep doing is going round and round, dissecting words/statements.....but really at the end of the day we have ZERO!

I am tired---and unless we get a statement from LE, I believe nothing.....any crumbs we get are NOT confirmed facts or are possibly modified for whatever reason.

So I now choose to believe LE, and ONLY LE. And they arent speaking. I am pretty sure that they have seen this a million times, it probably fits their typical case of a person leaving of their own free will. They know what they are doing as we all personally know our own job skills in our lives.....I have to believe they know what to look for....and this missing person must seem quite normal for them, as bizarre as it seems to us.

Beautifully written!
It's exhausting at this point but we won't give up trying to find RM and exactly what happened that day, we may never know. I just hope he is alive.

 

[cluciano63]

And by the way, I am certain what REALLY happened to RM has been hit upon multiple times from the WS members here, as I believe we have pretty much hit on every possible scenario. :fence:

Now its a waiting game to see what the real outcome ends up being.
I will sit back and keep tabs until we get results :HHJP:

If we ever know...some cases remain open and some missing people just remain...missing.

 

[MomWhoLovesDragons]

I think it's strange that she says she gave him a list of errands in the morning, then started to worry when he was only an hour late? wouldnt it be expected he wasn't arriving home at his usual time if she gave him errands?

it almost makes me feel sorry for my own boyfriend, it would take me so much longer to suspect he was missing. for the first evening I'd prolly just be sending him f'ed up texts. then I'd go to sleep. if he were still gone in the morning I would call and text with concern, and I would start contacting everyone he knows. if no one knows anything and I've not heard back I'd call LE late afternoon- early evening.

Me too lol I feel guilty for feeling exactly like you about my husband.
Errands would take some time no matter what, especially Father's Day weekend.
IMO I believe there wasn't just ONE call. I'm not sure how iMessage works exactly and I have an iPhone but I do know that there is a setting that you can choose to use and it won't go to iMessage. Some of my messages say iMessage and some do not coming from the same number. Depends where I am I think

 

[McSpy]

I think it's strange that she says she gave him a list of errands in the morning, then started to worry when he was only an hour late? wouldnt it be expected he wasn't arriving home at his usual time if she gave him errands?

it almost makes me feel sorry for my own boyfriend, it would take me so much longer to suspect he was missing. for the first evening I'd prolly just be sending him f'ed up texts. then I'd go to sleep. if he were still gone in the morning I would call and text with concern, and I would start contacting everyone he knows. if no one knows anything and I've not heard back I'd call LE late afternoon- early evening.

It is a red flag for me too. She had to have some clue that something wasn't right to worry so soon. She or someone else in the home went looking for his wallet and found it at 4 pm in the drawer. How did they know it was in that particular drawer? Seems like they either got lucky or he told her he used that particular drawer for his wallet. If not, why wasn't there a little hunt through the drawers? She would have found the cash and phone that day. For some reason, it seems she has a clue what could have happened, but is not saying. It could be something as simple as RM having a drug issue or something else . . .

JMO