rashomon,
Thats if you assume some kind of violent rape scenario.
JonBenet may have been being regularly sexually abused, she displays the signs of this both physically and emotionally, her recurrent bedwetting and daytime soiling may have been her way in attempting to communicate her inner trauma?
JonBenet will have played a role in some other adult's fantasy, over time, this may have escalated, leaving JonBenet emotionally confused and disorientated, she will have felt an intense anger towards her abuser, causing her further inner turmoil.
So its possible she refused to take part in some session of abuse, or during it her abuser, already sexually aroused and excited, went one step too far, forgetting she was only six-years old. Or JonBenet stated she was going to tell her family doctor or the school nurse whatever, at this point her abuser, taking JonBenet by the neck, told her to shut up, as she was slowly asphyxiated, then as she was released her head hits the floor, fracturing her skull.
The sexual rage I am considering need not be violent in origin more the kind of impetus resulting from seeking pleasure that yields a disregard, or thoughtfulness for the victim.
So rather than JonBenet refusing to take part, her participation may have put her abuser over the edge so to speak!
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