"Why else would she have reported him missing?"
For the same reasons that killers report their victims missing. Additionally, it's not uncommon for spouses to report their significant other missing when they in fact left and the reporting spouse cannot bring themselves to accept this.
"The first woman should have known he intended not to return to their shared home".
And why exactly is this? You are making an assumption based on no fact. By your logic, the woman should have never reported him missing because she "should have known".
"I don't find myself in need of more info - regardless of what the first relationship was like or what problems might have existed. He caused LE to use resources to find him in order to be sure he was OK. So yeah, what a jerk".
Just because you dont think you need more info doesnt mean you don't. Again, you are formulating OPINIONS that are not based in fact but are instead based in speculation. Additionally, the man didn't call LE. The wife did. Therefore, she is responsible for any and all initiation of law enforcement efforts.
At the very least, ensure you don't pass off your personal opinion as a matter of fact. This is the very reason that others are ripping WebSlueths to shreds. We must be responsible for our own posts and it's common knowledge that this site is not intended for your personal opinions and biased accusations.
Perhaps it was safer for him to just leave. He waited til the kids were all grown, and escaped. We don't know the whole story.BBM - Actually my logic was this guy should have told his partner of 27 years that he wanted to end the relationship, divide the assets and debt accumulated over that period and then leave.
Now I'm curious if he was gainfully employed before he left Scotland. If so, did he give notice to them or did he just stop showing up?
If he wasn't employed, I wish all the best for the new wife.
Do as you please. Point of the matter remains. People are literally going after the guy without knowing a single bit of information regarding his departure.
And no, the person that leaves is not responsible for law enforcement efforts. Hence why most police departments won't accept a missing person case for a certain amount of time. Because there is nothing illegal with disappearing (so long as you don't make yourself a fugitive) no matter the moral and ethical implications of that decision may be.
I apologize that you feel the way you do about my stated opinion. Nonetheless, I choose to deal with facts and not conjecture. My involvement in thousands of criminal investigations has taught me to let the facts and evidence tell the story.
It is baseless accusations and jumping to conclusions that can destroy a person's life before any facts are known (I have witnessed it first hand). And of course no one steps up to retract their statements just as vocally as they were when they were casting judgement.
Feel free to go by whatever "facts" you choose. I simply request that people refrain from making insulting and defamatory PUBLICLY available comments about someone who they didn't even know existed until a few days ago before knowing what is going on.
Unfortunately that's what prompted me to say something here. No "IMO's". Just very direct and targeted comments.
Hi MindHunter13, Just a friendly heads up to a new member that mods have told us repeatedly that requesting that members post a certain way is not acceptable thread etiquette. You haven’t been here long enough to know this. I’m sure your heart is in the right place, but if you feel someone is posting in a way that violates TOS, just report it and let a mod deal with it. That’s what they get paid the big bucks for (joke).
I'd like to know the particulars of their Facebook romance as from my understanding, they never actually met until he left.
I'm not looking for justifications or excuses. I just like to analyze deviant behavior and what prompts it. Lol
Not necessarily. He could travel as a tourist, marry her, then being the applicant process as married partner.I am wondering if they actually met before - he is from Scotland and if he married the new girly in U.S., wouldn't they have to go through the K1 VISA Process?
Not necessarily. He could travel as a tourist, marry her, then being the applicant process as married partner.
I want to know how he got a divorce so quickly and without her knowledge!
Who's saying he actually got a divorce? My understanding is the guy just up and left.
From a completely legal standpoint, since he is not a U.S. citizen and the new wife is, only she is bound by the law stating you can only be legally married to one person at a time. He can come in and marry her and simply state he isn't married just like the average citizen does now. Only difference is if the government finds out you lied, they can invalidate the marriage. This doesn't apply in this case as the party who lied is not bound by the laws of the U.S.
Once he becomes a citizen (if that's a eventual path), then he will do so as the legal spouse of the new wife and so the marriage will remain standing and valid. Now I am no marriage/divorce lawyer but I do have a fairly in depth understanding of law in general so please, if I am wrong, correct me.
It doesn't sound like he and the long-term partner were ever married. I don't know whether Scotland recognizes common-law marriages.