Just want to share.... At one point in another AF thread, someone pondered if it would be better for her unborn child if it didn't live.
I get that. I truly do. Because all you can imagine is possible issues from drug use during pregnancy, being born to murderers, etc etc.
But please remember this isn't new and many people have beeb born addicted to opiates. It's horrific. The risks and problems that come with it are horrible and available for googling. These children are born with these difficulties everyday.
But. We don't know it all as humans. And some of us are born healthy despite our mothers choices and are worthy of being born once we have been created.
My mother was already 10 years into her addiction when getting pregnant with me. No I was not an accident. No my parents did not have me for social financial benefits. They were just dumb 20 year old drug addicts who thought a baby might give them a push to get clean.
My Mother used heroin during her pregnancy with me. I was born addicted. However..... And here's where nature's mystery comes in... I was 10 pounds, quickly overcame medical issues & wd and have 0 learning disabilities now. Now as an adult, successful, do not even socially drink. Although I do have anxiety issues that are obviously from my childhood.
My sister was born years later when my mother was now in her 40s and still and addict. She was born addicted to methadone, under 6 pounds and was in hospital for months. However, as an adult she has no learning disabilities and is successful. (happy, no using, six figure income etc) She also has anxiety issues.
My mother was one of the worst addicts I've seen. Abcesses at injection sites so large she'd use cocaine in them to numb the pain. Beaten beyond recognition multiple times. On life support after using heroin with some sort of poison. Homeless. Hepatitis C. 40+ rehab visits. It went on and on, with this stuff being what I'm willing to write. These families have a hard life.
But.... Me, my sister, and my Mother after a lifelong addiction.... All alive. My Mother is well known now in southern California for her work with addicts. She has women's groups, and works at an inpatient group home for teenagers. Has been clean 21 years. She's helped thousands. Not all drug addicts are throw aways. Not all drug addicts kids need pity. As a child I heard what people said about my parents. I knew the world looked at them like trash. But they weren't and one has been able to spare a lot of families pain by helping their addicted children.
This is a personal story in relation to what life jc baby may or may have. Not a story showing I think jc has redemption available. She's a torturous murderer. Drug addict is one label. Murderer a more important and distinctive one imho
And I'm one of the lucky ones. But the possibilities are there for these kids!
It's all about choices. No matter what life has throw at you.
