I’m 12 pages behind the most current post,so not sure if anyone else answered, but wanted to chime in here. I personally experienced this. My ex played the same game, cancelled health ins- I found out in the ER when one of my kids broke an arm,- and later told the judge he’d rather take the gamble and pay out of pocket if something happened. The judge stopped my lawyer, told me I did not have to present anything else, and blasted him. Held in contempt,awarded my atty’s fees. He also hid assets, lied about income, quit jobs and claimed he was fired. And it didn’t end after the divorce was final. He stopped paying CS, wouldn’t hand over accounts awarded to me, had my car repossessed, write letters to my kids docs....; pure insanity for 15 yrs. He was found in contempt every single time I had to go back to court -5 times, yet there was nothing I could do to stop the craziness. And the courts couldn’t force him to behave differently. With each infraction , I could have ignored and not engaged, but I needed the CS and money. Only once I became financially independently, he lost his visitation ( that’s a whole dif saga) and impervious to his assaults, was I able to just let him do whatever he wanted. He eventually went away. He’s on wife #3, and #2 got the same treatment as me.
I don’t know how common this behavior is, but reading about FD is like seeing the devil again.
