borndem
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Hmmmm, thought-provoking post @MoeInVA. Thinking about the feelings and the fear your friend/acquaintance had experienced -- he certainly dreaded it when he was a victim, and it hurt so much, he didn't want to take a chance that he could be that way, too. What a horrible wound and burden he must have carried.The only man I knew who was like this faced some terrible abuse as a child. Plus an ultra conservative community. He wouldn’t talk about it in detail, but I think abused by father and hated mother for not protecting him. I think he considered the mother a floozy/druggie/*advertiser censored* who abandoned him. Which somehow fed into the male leads and woman is servant baptist doctrine he was raised in. Plus added that he didn’t want children because couldn’t trust he would be a good parent. Because of the abuse and the poor models I think, plus some fears about the genes he passed along. I guess it was an overwhelming fear of recreating the pain he experienced. So anyway, JMO that is one of the models that can lead to a man who says stuff like CD did about women and babies. I’m sure there are others.
I don't know if that's what we have here -- IMO, I don't think so, but I don't know the guy and I've fortunately never been in a situation like that -- it's worth consideration.