Maybe one of the reasons she's so messed up is that she has been molested (since she was only 15) by Roger and he has continued to use her over the last ten years. A lot of girls who are molested at a young age by older men have issues, especially relationship issues. My niece had a baby by a guy 6 years older than her when she was 15. She ended up on drugs because that's what he did; got off that after she spent 2 weeks in jail; he was in and out of jail and eventually went to prison for 3 years for molesting another teenager. During that time she has rehabbed (with no relapses), got a good job, went back to school, and bought a house. Now he's out and has contacted her saying he's got religion and still loves her. She's actually considering a relationship with him even though he's a registered child molester, doesn't have a job and a compulsive liar. The family (who has supported her and helped her get where she is) has said they will disown her if she proceeds. These older men seem to get a hold on the girls when they're that young that doesn't go away and affects all their other relationships.
