Oh
My
God...........
IF she survives her quality of life is questionable....I just don't know what to say anymore except............women, STOP leaving your babies with boyfriends.....please, just stop.
I have agreed with every word mysterygirl has typed thus far. Nothing I would have posted would have better expressed my disgust, exasperation, revulsion and concern than what she typed.
But this quote - this thing above - seriously - we need to convey this to our daughters somehow as they are growing up.
No man, no loneliness, nothing is worth risking the saftey and wellbeing of your children over.
If you have just left a relationship, for your own benefit and for the sake of your children, who depend upon you to see to their best interests above all others, be alone for a bit.
Please. Just be with you and your kids a while. Figure out what went wrong in the last one. Figure out who you are, what you want and most importantly, what you don't want.
Be your child for a moment. Just one moment. See things from their little perspectives. This is the most important thing you will ever do. Give it your very best. Look at your own childhood. What you found the most loving and best - use. What you found the most hurtful and frightening - gift your children with not ever allowing that to happen to them.
When you do date - don't bring them round your children. Make sure the new man and the children understand that when you decide this person is important enough to be around your kids, you will gently indtroduce them.
Please. Please mothers. Value yourself and your children enough to understand that the man worthy of you and your children will be thrilled to go along with this. He will be just as cautious as you going in as he will know that this is a forever thing and he is accepting and agreeing to love not just you, but your extensions of you - your children.
Please. Mothers. Talk to your daughters now, before they are grown and out there making bad choices.