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    MN - Steven Cross for child abandonment, Lakeville, 2011

    Not sure if this is the correct forum. If not, please move.

    Steven Alexander Cross, 60, left two notes for his son, according to the complaint charging him with a gross misdemeanor of child neglect. One letter said their home in Lakeville was going to be sold at a sheriff's sale and instructed the boy to take his PlayStation and go to a neighbor's house. The other asked the neighbors to take care of his son. The boy has been placed in foster care.
    "If this paper is wet it's because I am crying so bad. You know your dad loves you more than anything," the letter said. Elsewhere he wrote: "There are many, many great years ahead for you. Not so for me."
    and later:

    A week after Cross disappeared, a woman identifying herself as his ex-girlfriend called the family that had taken in the boy. She said Cross had emailed her from a library in Carmel, Calif., saying he was depressed and sleeping in the streets, the complaint said.
    Much more at link

    http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/44289010/

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    Wow.. I feel so bad for the little boy, but I also feel badly for the Dad (if all he is going thru is true, of course) Depression and loneliness is a horrible thing. I think he probably knew the neighbor and thought they would be good to the boy.
    What a parent with depression doesn't realize is that your child would rather be with YOU and living in a one room apartment than be without you because you can't offer them all the material things the world has to offer.
    I hope the Dad is okay and gets the mental health care he needs.....
    It's just MOO. I could be wrong. Wouldn't be the first time and it surely won't be the last!

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    Quote Originally Posted by deelytful1 View Post
    Wow.. I feel so bad for the little boy, but I also feel badly for the Dad (if all he is going thru is true, of course) Depression and loneliness is a horrible thing. I think he probably knew the neighbor and thought they would be good to the boy.
    What a parent with depression doesn't realize is that your child would rather be with YOU and living in a one room apartment than be without you because you can't offer them all the material things the world has to offer.
    I hope the Dad is okay and gets the mental health care he needs.....
    I completely agree. The entire story- the child's plight as well as the father's- tugged on my heartstrings. I know Dad's got a warrant for his arrest for leaving his child this way, but I pray he is found safe, and gets the help he needs. Considering he was granted custody of the boy previously, it seems like he was once a great dad. Life can really kick us in the pants sometimes!

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    So sad....this dad really needed someone to turn to. I'm sure he felt helpless, especially since he was losing their home. I feel terrible for father and son.

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    thats very sad isnt it..... I guess he thought his son would be better without him which is very untrue and may suggest he is in a deep depression.

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    MN - Steven Cross for child abandonment, Lakeville, 2011

    "A desperate dad fleeing foreclosure left behind his 11-year-old son a week before they would have been evicted from their home, the St. Paul Pioneer Press reported Friday."

    "Steven Alexander Cross fled during the night while his son, Sebastian, slept in their Lakeville, Minnesota home, located 25 miles south of Minneapolis. The property was in foreclosure and the owner had received an eviction notice."

    "The father left a note of instruction for his son, telling him to take his PlayStation and go to a neighbor's house when he woke up."

    Read more: http://www.foxnews.com/us/2011/08/26...#ixzz1WEVEk4BS


    This father is a real piece of trash......I feel so terrible for this 11-year old boy. I wonder where his mother is....

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    I am just very glad he left the boy with instructions and didn't think his only choice was murder/suicide. I hope the father is able to get back on his feet and regain his son's trust someday.
    “It's all kinds of these profound things crashing on you when your child arrives into the world. It's like you've met your reason to live.”
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    .....it seems like this dad made a horrible decision due to depression and desperation....hopefully he can be found and helped and hopefully the boys mother can be located after nine years absence too...

    http://www.twincities.com/ci_18760371?nclick_check=1


    This may be a case where some WS skills could be a great help.....here is a starting place for all you great searchers!!!

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    "A petition for child protection names Katik Porter, who also uses the last name Splitstoesser, as Sebastian's mother. Her whereabouts are unknown.

    According to Ramsey County Child Protection, her parental rights for three older children she had with another man were voluntarily terminated in 1999 or 2000, the petition stated. Sebastian said he last saw his mother when he was 2."

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    Hopefully someone will care about this child.

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    Well, the mother shouldn't be hard to find under the second surname listed.....I did just a quick google and found quite a few listings.....doesn't mean she wants to be a mom, or should be one, of course......


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    I don't think his mother is going to be helpful in this situation. I feel like he will be rejected twice if she is contacted. That poor kid. hopefully another relative or friend can step up and rescue this poor child. How tragic all the way around.

    eta: if she voluntarily gave up her other kids, and left this poor boy when he was two, she does not seem very maternal. She may be the last thing he needs right now.
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    I do think the Father feels desperate and extremely depressed. I am glad he didn't murder his son, like alot of people have done. He left his son a note directing him what to do. If he didn't care at all he would not have left the note, IMO. He was trying to find a safe place for him to go, just from what little I know. I try not to always think the worst of everyone.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Kaybug View Post
    I do think the Father feels desperate and extremely depressed. I am glad he didn't murder his son, like alot of people have done. He left his son a note directing him what to do. If he didn't care at all he would not have left the note, IMO. He was trying to find a safe place for him to go, just from what little I know. I try not to always think the worst of everyone.
    Yea well the kid is old enough to figure out what is going on. Being abandoned like that by his father is not going to be good for his mental well being.
    Just my opinion

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    Abandoned Lakeville Boy's Plight Inspires Support; Dad Still Sought

    Meanwhile, neighbors, a consumers group and a private investigator have offered to help find Steven Alexander Cross, 60, or to help care for the boy.
    http://www.twincities.com/ci_18766560

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    http://www.startribune.com/local/south/128653803.html

    He's been arrested in California.

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