SouthEastSleuth
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Dear Raven,
Today is June 29. Janet was murdered just over two months ago.
Your wife is gone. Kaiden has no mother.
What are your days like now I wonder
Do you cry for Janet? Do you miss her? Do you think of the years you two were together? Are there memories that make you smile, make you cry, make you sad? Do you often look at her pictures? At videos? Do you think of the plans the two of you had? The dreams for the future? Do you remember your first kiss with Janet? Your last kiss? Do you remember the last time you told Janet, "I love you"?
How is life as a single parent? Is Kaiden now old enough to be aware that his Mom is not around anymore? What do you tell him? Does he know he has two large extended families, yours in Utah and Janets in Virginia?
Do you worry about who murdered Janet - Who is this person? Why did they do what they did? Why has no one been arrested? Will they someday strike again? The police said from the beginning that Janets murder was not random, which many speculate to mean that it was someone who knew her, or you, or something in the vein. Does this give you sleepless nights?
Do you talk frequently to the Durham Police Department asking what theyve found out? Do they have any leads? Is there anything you can do to help?
Do you ever think of appealing to the media? Asking for their help in pursuing justice for Janet?
What do you think when you read these boards, or hear about them from others?
Do you worry about the embezzlement charges? Not just what will happen to you, but why you did the things you did? It seems from all accounts that Eurosport must have been an ideal place for you and Janet you seem to enjoy sales. You both shared a love of soccer. It sounds like many at Eurosport think of it as one big family. Yet, for some reason(s), you allowed yourself to become a criminal there. You stole from people who had embraced you. You abused your position and you abused their trust. Do you feel remorse? Regret? Or, is this just an unfortunate chapter in your life, that you want to put behind you?
Do you worry about your future? A new job must surely be on your mind, for practical reasons if nothing else. Surely you dont intend to live with your family forever? But, a new job, starting over, etc., do you worry that your history at Eurosport will haunt you? Are there bill collectors looking for you? With Janets death still fresh, thinking of money issues must be hard, but realistic thoughts as well, I would imagine
How is your spiritual life I wonder? Do you feel at peace with yourself and your church? Have you found solace in the church? Based on information posted here about the Mormon church, yours and Janets faith in the church, etc., Ive taken it upon myself to further educate myself, at least a little, on Mormon beliefs, etc. I came across a proclamation by President Gordon Hinckley of the Mormon church, having to do with Family.
Im not sure if you are familiar with the document, but the following is an excerpt:
"The family is ordained of God. Marriage between man and woman is essential to His eternal plan. Children are entitled to birth within the bonds of matrimony, and to be reared by a father and a mother who honor marital vows with complete fidelity. Happiness in family life is most likely to be achieved when founded upon the teachings of the Lord Jesus Christ. Successful marriages and families are established and maintained on principles of faith, prayer, repentance, forgiveness, respect, love, compassion, work, and wholesome recreational activities. By divine design, fathers are to preside over their families in love and righteousness and are responsible to provide the necessities of life and protection for their families. Mothers are primarily responsible for the nurture of their children. In these sacred responsibilities, fathers and mothers are obligated to help one another as equal partners. Disability, death, or other circumstances may necessitate individual adaptation. Extended families should lend support when needed.
We warn that individuals who violate covenants of chastity, who abuse spouse or offspring, or who fail to fulfill family responsibilities will one day stand accountable before God. Further, we warn that the disintegration of the family will bring upon individuals, communities, and nations the calamities foretold by ancient and modern prophets."
Note: This proclamation was read by President Gordon B. Hinckley as part of his message at the General Relief Society Meeting held September 23, 1995, in Salt Lake City, Utah.
http://www.lds.org/newsroom/mediabook/0,15571,3881-1---1-11,00.html
Powerful writing, for sure. Do these words give you comfort? Guidance? Peace?
Im struck by the emphasis on family. On the partnership between a husband and wife. Do you feel lost without your partner I wonder?
Its you and Kaiden now. Extended families, sure. But you and Kaiden. And, Janets memory. Your wife. Kaidens mom.
Janets memory is alive and well here, for sure. I hope it lives in Utah, and in your heart
Justice for Janet someday, some way, some how.
Sincerely,
Someone who cares
Today is June 29. Janet was murdered just over two months ago.
Your wife is gone. Kaiden has no mother.
What are your days like now I wonder
Do you cry for Janet? Do you miss her? Do you think of the years you two were together? Are there memories that make you smile, make you cry, make you sad? Do you often look at her pictures? At videos? Do you think of the plans the two of you had? The dreams for the future? Do you remember your first kiss with Janet? Your last kiss? Do you remember the last time you told Janet, "I love you"?
How is life as a single parent? Is Kaiden now old enough to be aware that his Mom is not around anymore? What do you tell him? Does he know he has two large extended families, yours in Utah and Janets in Virginia?
Do you worry about who murdered Janet - Who is this person? Why did they do what they did? Why has no one been arrested? Will they someday strike again? The police said from the beginning that Janets murder was not random, which many speculate to mean that it was someone who knew her, or you, or something in the vein. Does this give you sleepless nights?
Do you talk frequently to the Durham Police Department asking what theyve found out? Do they have any leads? Is there anything you can do to help?
Do you ever think of appealing to the media? Asking for their help in pursuing justice for Janet?
What do you think when you read these boards, or hear about them from others?
Do you worry about the embezzlement charges? Not just what will happen to you, but why you did the things you did? It seems from all accounts that Eurosport must have been an ideal place for you and Janet you seem to enjoy sales. You both shared a love of soccer. It sounds like many at Eurosport think of it as one big family. Yet, for some reason(s), you allowed yourself to become a criminal there. You stole from people who had embraced you. You abused your position and you abused their trust. Do you feel remorse? Regret? Or, is this just an unfortunate chapter in your life, that you want to put behind you?
Do you worry about your future? A new job must surely be on your mind, for practical reasons if nothing else. Surely you dont intend to live with your family forever? But, a new job, starting over, etc., do you worry that your history at Eurosport will haunt you? Are there bill collectors looking for you? With Janets death still fresh, thinking of money issues must be hard, but realistic thoughts as well, I would imagine
How is your spiritual life I wonder? Do you feel at peace with yourself and your church? Have you found solace in the church? Based on information posted here about the Mormon church, yours and Janets faith in the church, etc., Ive taken it upon myself to further educate myself, at least a little, on Mormon beliefs, etc. I came across a proclamation by President Gordon Hinckley of the Mormon church, having to do with Family.
Im not sure if you are familiar with the document, but the following is an excerpt:
"The family is ordained of God. Marriage between man and woman is essential to His eternal plan. Children are entitled to birth within the bonds of matrimony, and to be reared by a father and a mother who honor marital vows with complete fidelity. Happiness in family life is most likely to be achieved when founded upon the teachings of the Lord Jesus Christ. Successful marriages and families are established and maintained on principles of faith, prayer, repentance, forgiveness, respect, love, compassion, work, and wholesome recreational activities. By divine design, fathers are to preside over their families in love and righteousness and are responsible to provide the necessities of life and protection for their families. Mothers are primarily responsible for the nurture of their children. In these sacred responsibilities, fathers and mothers are obligated to help one another as equal partners. Disability, death, or other circumstances may necessitate individual adaptation. Extended families should lend support when needed.
We warn that individuals who violate covenants of chastity, who abuse spouse or offspring, or who fail to fulfill family responsibilities will one day stand accountable before God. Further, we warn that the disintegration of the family will bring upon individuals, communities, and nations the calamities foretold by ancient and modern prophets."
Note: This proclamation was read by President Gordon B. Hinckley as part of his message at the General Relief Society Meeting held September 23, 1995, in Salt Lake City, Utah.
http://www.lds.org/newsroom/mediabook/0,15571,3881-1---1-11,00.html
Powerful writing, for sure. Do these words give you comfort? Guidance? Peace?
Im struck by the emphasis on family. On the partnership between a husband and wife. Do you feel lost without your partner I wonder?
Its you and Kaiden now. Extended families, sure. But you and Kaiden. And, Janets memory. Your wife. Kaidens mom.
Janets memory is alive and well here, for sure. I hope it lives in Utah, and in your heart
Justice for Janet someday, some way, some how.
Sincerely,
Someone who cares
