The decent boyfriend-around-the-children scenarios don't make the news, but they are there. The mother already has her punishment
, if ANYTHING else needs to be done to drill it into her head, I can't imagine what is worse than losing your child to murder.
Still, her "story" is common enough it should serve as a warning to everyone, and speculation about HER part in it is important. No, she didn't kill her baby, but she NEGLECTED her, whether she realized it or not at the time. I'll bet she would have taken more care finding a good day care for the baby than she did "researching" her MAN'S ability to care for her baby.
A lot of women feel shame, like there's something wrong with them, if they don't have a MAN. No doubt this was a newish relationship, where she was still love struck or trying hard to get back the "lovestruck" times.
Daycare is expensive, and on some salaries, working and paying for daycare is like not working at all.
No apologies for HER coming from me, here. Just a bit of understanding, and acknowledging she paid the ultimate price for a mistake she made and that should inform the rest of us. Each of us should spread the word to the young desperate women WE know in our own lives, lord knows there are plenty of them.
It's one reason I took my 26 year old daughter into my home when she got pregnant by a completely useless, abusive man. Whom she still talks to on the phone (he lives in So Cal, thank God). At least she doesn't HAVE to work and put grandson in day care. At least she can raise him without concern about buying formula and paying rent. Both he and she are SAFE. Because of my own abusive relationship, and because I am a dedicated reader here, I am trying to make a difference in the way I can, and bear witness to each of these tragedies
as they continue to occur . . .