Yes you are, but no big deal. I thought every opinion counted on this forum and that unless someone was verified as an expert, (which everyone knows I am not) their posts were to be treated same as anyone else, so I wasn't aware that i was doing anything wrong, but if I am, I am happy to be corrected.
As it happened, my green card and my daughter's card was for 10 years, not 2 years, and no conditions were applied, so that part can't be taken as read. An Alien# is not a visa, it's a file reference number, that's all. I certainly could not get an SS# card for 2 years until the green card was granted, but of course they want you to pay taxes, so getting a tax ID is easy, which anyone can get and looks the same as a SS#, but it isn't the same thing.
Everyone's experience differs, so I'm sure we're both correct. I just think the immigration situation could be extremely complicated and you're discounting lots of different possibilities. They were married, we know that for a fact, so posting things that aren't relevant to married couples is only helpful if you think they may have first applied before they got married. I guess they could have done, but that wasn't the situation I was addressing in my response, so the whole thing is now very confused. They may have first applied in Australia at the consulate there, or aborted various applications before or after they were married. There could be applications in Australia and/ or US. It's a very frustrating process and designed to not be successful, so multiple applications would not be unusual, as well as files moving from one place to another.
I rarely speak up, and TBH, I am now a bit mortified to think I've caused trouble by doing so, so I think it's best that I stop. If anyone wants to know anything else about my experience immigrating with a 10 yr old child, feel free to send me a pm, and I'll respond that way from now on, not publicly, as I don't want to get shot down when I'm only trying to help..